I remember when Ma Yili got divorced, someone commented under an article: Ma Yili, let's "throw in the towel"! There are always people who think that a woman loses her life when she gets divorced or her husband has an affair. However, people who have this kind of consciousness have lost from the beginning. The cartoonist David Saracion once said in 1 1 Life, "You can only live once, which is wrong."
His reason is that if it takes about seven years for a person to master a skill and he lives to be 88, he will have 1 1 chances to become a master in his life. So you can have 1 1 world in your life. Maybe you can be a poet, carpenter and cook all your life. ...
Many people find it difficult to get out of a failed marriage and have no courage to get out. But Ma Yili has completely let go of her marriage, and now she only enjoys the life of herself and her children, which makes many divorced women very envious. So through Ma Yili, women must also understand the following points.
First of all, you should know what love is. For many people, love is the goal of life. If one day you finally find your true love, you will be extremely happy, but it is not. I thought I met true love, because we were so sweet and happy when we were in love, and he took care of me in every way. Later, I dated for two years and got married. I thought this marriage would last a lifetime, but it ended in the second year after marriage. Because he cheated, the cheating girl, like me, thinks this man is very good and loves himself very much.
So I couldn't accept it, so I chose a divorce. Later, I wanted to understand what love is. Love is too unreal. When I say I love you, I swear to you. When I say I don't love you, it's like an iceberg. It is too difficult for a woman to find true love. True love should be a feeling. When you are with him, you will find that the whole world will become so interesting.
Simple meals a day, even crowded buses seem so romantic. As long as you are with her, there is nothing you can't accept. What can give you this feeling is true love. Not unrequited love, but two people love each other. When two people are trying to get close to each other, it is easy to be together. Otherwise, they are separated by a room and a car.
Women must learn to forgive themselves. If in marriage, the fault party is not a woman, so many people don't understand, why should we learn to forgive ourselves? Because I want to forgive myself why I have such a bad eye. At that time, many people pursued me, but I insisted on choosing love rat. Now that the marriage has failed, I gave him various reasons to try to forgive him, but after thinking about it, can I really forgive him and accept him? Finally, I have the answer, that is, I can't accept a person who betrayed me. What I can do is to learn to forgive myself and my poor eyesight. Let yourself go smartly, stop thinking about him and continue to live, and I will become better.
A woman must know what she needs. In life, many people don't know what they want, so they think that others have a happy marriage and I have to have it. If I don't have it, I will fail. Is that really the case? After the divorce, I was troubled for some time. Why is my life so bad that I met such a love rat? But on second thought, although I like him very much, I love myself more. I am a woman who wants to look good and have a career. Why should I care about a cheating man? Shouldn't I think about what I need more now? Because I put my own needs first, my life is my own, and I really feel very happy.
Whether you are single or married. The key is whether we can get happiness and inner peace in this process. Although love is beautiful, what really makes us happy in this process is our constantly improving self. Through love, we will become better and better, give us positive encouragement, and we will feel that love is getting sweeter and sweeter. What really makes us happy is not love, but. The process of constantly making us better.
A woman's marriage is over. Don't hold her back. Many women may feel as unwilling as I did when I first started, and then I can't let it go for a long time. Divorce is not that difficult. Just go to the Civil Affairs Bureau and stamp it. The hard part is our hearts. However, since a relationship cannot continue, it must be legally separated. In this way, the two people have nothing to do with each other and take as much property as they should. Because if you procrastinate on this matter, then the other person will not love you and like others, and then you will be involved in the legal relationship. After a long time, men's feelings for you will fade away bit by bit, so in the face of the problem of property division, men will not leave you any feelings and will become very troublesome.
Finally, in the face of an unsustainable relationship, the best way is to end it completely, and then learn to let go of yourself and let yourself live a chic life. Women can live well without men in life, so there is no need to struggle all the time. Ma Yili is a good example. Now she has let go of this relationship and lived a free life. Is this not good? Therefore, women who are emotionally hesitant can look over and learn how people live and let go. In short, life is not easy, so cherish it and don't waste good time.