The problem you mentioned actually includes the following aspects, but although it is serious, it does not require medication. Just making some judgments based on the superficial phenomena you mentioned:
The first is the issue of guilty conscience. It's actually a matter of inferiority complex. The direct source is the repressed psychology in childhood. You are not in a dominant position in the family, or even have any experience of foster care with relatives. The cautiousness formed in an environment of being blamed and reprimanded for a long time makes one's psychology very sensitive and fragile. Even if one has made no mistakes, he will feel guilty in the atmosphere of accountability. This feeling has always been with you. Because you did not lift the lid, face up to this problem, and overcome this problem, even though you have achieved some good results in the future, you cannot completely calm down the traces in your heart. In this regard, you must adopt a tolerant attitude, think from the perspective of yourself as an adult, and think from the perspective of the other person. Whether you can put yourself in someone else's shoes is a sign of a person's maturity; whether you can forgive others is what determines a person's maturity.
Is there a foundation for more achievements and greater future? What's more, at the time, you couldn't understand the pressure the adults in your family were facing in very difficult circumstances. Remember: when you forgive others, you forgive yourself and liberate yourself.
The second issue is the relationship with family members. Deep down, you may be dissatisfied with your family. Do you dare to admit it, the one who is most dissatisfied may be the mother you said can't let go. (If I am wrong, please forgive me. If I am right, please admit it boldly, so that you can have the conditions for further treatment
). . . And this kind of dissatisfaction cannot be expressed according to traditional moral concepts. This creates greater pressure. Do other family members also have this problem? ——In this way, everyone adheres to social morality on the surface, but is under tremendous pressure in their hearts.
We can only release it in quarrels, and this release is negative, because every time it is released, there are buried Unpleasant seeds. Usually everyone says that they are for each other, and indeed they do everything possible to consider others, but they happen to neglect themselves. In my heart, I really hope that others
will also consider myself, but I am always not satisfied. The pressure increases repeatedly but cannot be expressed in words. Regarding this issue, you have to start with yourself, because you are now the more promising person in the family and the hope of the family, and your status has accordingly improved a lot. First of all
Let’s admit that everyone is dissatisfied with each other, but they don’t say it out loud. Second, be comfortable with this dissatisfaction. You can express your dissatisfaction, but you can't exaggerate it, and you can't use the topic to think of other unpleasant things. Then, think maturely that the hurt between loved ones is often deeper. This vicious cycle must end. We still need to use tolerance to help everyone achieve harmony. You should take the lead in admitting to your mother that sometimes you make mistakes and ask her to forgive you. And be brave enough not to shirk responsibility when there is going to be a quarrel and dare to take responsibility. . . .
One thing is also very important for you: when your mother repeatedly talks about how difficult it is for her to raise you alone when she is unhappy, treat it calmly and stop feeling guilty. Because you didn't cause this. You can use your own efforts to make your mother live a better life, but there is no need to pay for her misfortune in life. This is the most practical and responsible mentality. When you overcome this weakness, the above two problems will be solved.
----------Because I don’t understand the in-depth situation, please forgive me for any inappropriateness. If there is something that was not explained clearly, you can also add information. Hope this text is helpful to you. I wish you good health and may your family be happy.