You can't arrange flowers with your heart, but you can't plant willows without your heart.
In the operation of most organizations, Green is the last person among the four figures to get involved in political struggle. Green instinctively rejects conflict and argument. When the opportunity comes, they are naturally "indifferent" and don't tend to take the initiative to fight for it, and because they don't belong to any small group, at the same time, in others' impression, "unintentional planning and skill" has become a green symbol, which makes it easy for him to get it and become the ultimate winner.
At an executive seminar held in Shenzhen, a student who served as the president of the district court showed great distance and difference from other students from all walks of life from the moment he entered the classroom. Whether he is sitting in a serious posture, his expression is serious and unchanging, or his words are full of logic and watertight, people around him can feel that this is a typical blue+yellow character. However, after our personality test, we were surprised to find that the judge was green! People around him can't understand why he looks so unlike Green.
A conversation of chatting between classes made me find the real answer. "Gui Geng?"
At your age, how is it developing in your system at present? ""not bad. "
"Have you ever thought about when you can be the president of the listing court?" "I didn't think about it, and I didn't think about it." "Then how did you get to where you are now?" "I didn't do it myself, they told me to do it."
It turned out that there were two other candidates who could compete for posts together, but the other two colleagues were Huang. In terms of professional ability, everyone's professional level is similar, but in terms of mass relations and popularity, green far exceeds the other two yellow candidates. So on the basis of consulting public opinion, Green naturally took up his present position.
Like this judge, Green often doesn't fight for anything, but strangely, many good things always fall on him. Maybe green has no appeal or influence from other personalities, but you will find that they get along well with others and never make trouble.
Green can easily escape political struggle, because they have a deep desire for money and power.
Hope is not lasting. Yellow has a positive driving force, but because of their strength, they make many enemies. When choosing leaders, the upper class and the people often have a soft spot for those who have no enemies.
Smart, smart, smart, sensible.
In the advanced seminar, I asked the students who had completed the basic seminar the following questions: "How do the four phenomena of great wisdom, great wisdom and great stupidity correspond to the four personalities respectively?" Assuming that "wisdom" symbolizes more "wisdom" than "cleverness" here, I try to interpret the "great wisdom is like a fool" of the young character with four characters in four classical masterpieces.
Smart man (red). A bright mind, a bright mouth, and a flow of words. People show themselves in front of others, and then they are white. Assuming they are red, they like to take advantage of others. Generally, I feel good about myself, sometimes I have manly spirit, incompetent impulse, easy to be swayed by considerations of gain and loss, and my mood fluctuates greatly. Typical representative: Journey to the West, a noisy and clever pig on the way to learn from the scriptures.
Smart man (blue). Careful thinking will produce more genius. Talent is not exposed; Pay attention to the long-term, do not dispute the length of time; He is good at controlling, but not at adjusting himself. He is not open-minded, and at the same time he is stuck in a rut. He is too obsessed with right and wrong and lacks open-mindedness. Typical representative: Zhou Yu, smarter than him in the Romance of the Three Kingdoms, met Zhuge Liang, a genius with a bluer personality, calculated too much and finally got angry with him.
Smart man (yellow). Good at planning, unwilling to suffer losses, accurate grasp of interests, with 10 thousand minds. Smart people are often brilliant, sharp-edged and aggressive. They are the most active group in life. Typical representative: In A Dream of Red Mansions, the organs are exhausted, and so is Xifeng, who is in the limelight.
Understand people (green). No matter how smart a person is, he is also stupid. He is good at hiding others and returning to nature. A smart person makes a smart start. Understand that people can be independent, have a clear understanding of the world, be indifferent to their ambitions, advance and retreat freely, be calm about life and death, and be as calm as water. Typical representative: Gongsun Sheng, the only person in Water Margin who didn't hit Fang La, was the first wise man in Liangshan.
Laozi said, "He who knows others is wise, and he who knows himself is wise". "Understanding" is the highest realm of life, and many heroes and talented superstars can't reach it all their lives. Smart people, smart people, smart people are still one step away from understanding people. Let's take a look at the common state of four personalities seeking wisdom on the road of life:
Red, because the mind is too sensitive and the heart is full of things, it is difficult to master everything, but it is not as good as a dull person who specializes in one subject; Blue is not satisfied with its own intelligence and continues to pursue a higher realm, but blue can't "let go" because it is too obsessed with looking at life; Yellow is often overconfident in yourself. For those who are not as smart as themselves, the subconscious is a condescending attitude, which makes them ignore the flash of the fool's light, but they don't know that this "flash" is often the answer that the wise try to find; And green, who really devote themselves to great wisdom, are often these studious people who "I know I'm stupid".
Never have a fire in your life, and skillfully unload conflicts.
Automatic shielding function
The green old Meng married the red+yellow wife. After 35 years of marriage, my wife has been doing her best. Over the years, Lao Meng has never done any housework, and it is no exaggeration to say that he has never touched the bowl once. His wife is kind to him. However, this is the case. Relatives at both ends have always commented that Meng Xiao's mother was lucky to find a good husband in her last life. However, no one ever said that Lao Meng had a good life and found a good wife; This aroused my great curiosity. For 35 years, a person has never asked about family affairs, enjoyed the blessing of his master and gained a good reputation. This beauty must be clarified.
It takes a long time to find out the reason. It turns out that Hong+Huang's wife is often angry about small things. After decades of marriage, her temper has been kept at a relatively young level, and every time she breaks out, she is like a scourge, with the roar of an oriental lion. In the eyes of outsiders, things as big as sesame seeds are often shown to my husband's face. It is not easy for Comrade Lao Meng to bear the burden of humiliation these years. What outsiders can't see is Mrs. Meng's hard work at home, but just focus on Lao Meng's ability to resist mountain torrents. This is the fulfillment of "good things don't go out, bad things spread thousands of miles".
The tigress sometimes scolds the man in green loudly. Usually, Green plays the role of bowing his head to admit his mistakes and accepting reform. However, because Green didn't resist, he kept silent and responded for a long time. Sometimes, Huang Xie went out of the gallbladder and left. At this time, Green was so nervous that he quickly begged Huang to continue casting spells, but Huang was so angry that he didn't even want to scold. In short, in any case, Green has this ability, seldom gets angry, and will not be angered by you. They even think it is very tiring to be angered by others. Is it worth it?
Red has "selective forgetting", they can selectively forget those painful memories and keep their own beauty and happiness; Green has "selective listening" and only chooses to listen to what makes him feel comfortable.
Eliminate the storm of eating chicken during the epidemic of avian influenza.
This kind of green hero, red, yellow and blue people's "instant deafness" kung fu may be difficult to practice all their lives. In essence, green not only avoids fighting in the external organs, but also never has the consciousness of fighting in the heart.
In the final analysis, green is not only the conflict between "selective listening" and "polite reply", but also the pursuit of relaxation in a peaceful and harmonious environment. Sometimes I think it's easy, but I can't clean up the yellow ones. Look at how somebody else's green mother beautifully solves it:
My son is a typical blue+yellow, and correct guidance is useful when getting along. Recently, because of bird flu, one day my son insisted on eating KFC and even smashing things, but my mother Huang refused to buy it for him. Two people had a big fight, and my mother had a heart attack. I watched them fight the world war. Finally, I just told the child that the hen was sick and the mother hen took him to see a doctor. As a result, the child suddenly stopped crying and asked how pitiful the chicken was. I led his thoughts to another topic and he passed, while my mother took medicine for several days.
From this point of view, the probability of yellow suffering from heart disease should be much higher than other personalities. He had a heart attack because of a simple quarrel. Such a hard business is not cost-effective, and Green will not be killed. As I explained in detail in my last article, Yellow likes fighting. Sometimes fighting becomes a draw water with a sieve. Unfortunately, they are still immersed in the pleasure of fighting.
Green is a self-satisfied and pleasant individual. He can accept anyone in life. They can adapt to all different colors without worrying about the opposite behavioral differences. Their kind nature and humble people have won them many loyal friendships.
Nature is tolerant, patient and gentle.
You go your way, I'll go my wooden bridge.
"The general can race horses on his forehead, and the prime minister can take a boat in his stomach!" Green can become a racetrack and dock because they have two conditions: first, they do not interfere with the freedom of others; Secondly, forgive those who have hurt themselves. Let's see what "non-interference" means first.
"Non-interference" in management means that everyone can give full play to their initiative, instead of being directed to do this and that every day. Green bosses don't want to work overtime, they prefer to enjoy family happiness, and natural employees rarely work overtime, as long as you finish what you should do at work.
"Non-interference" in marriage and love means that both men and women have their own independent space instead of sticking together every day. Compared with those who want to live for 24 hours, it is undoubtedly healthy.
In education, "non-interference" represents the real independent space for children to grow up and let everyone make their own life decisions. Therefore, children who grow up in a green environment are physically and mentally healthy and live in their own world, and there are few children in a yellow and blue family environment who are depressed. Green always smiles and says, "It's going to rain, mom is getting married, and the child is getting older. Let him go!" " .
For Huang's parents, it is to let you follow their life route; If you don't do this, you will be offended and punished by standing on your knees and spanking. When you find that the hardness of your wings is beyond the scope of the law, you will curse that "the father wants his son to die, and the son has to die." Unfilial and rebellious, dare to commit the following crimes, family misfortune, family misfortune, family misfortune! "Then, cut off the father-son relationship.
For blue parents and blue mothers, it will be very gratifying for you to take the life route they want; If not, it must be well-intentioned, like Tang Sanzang, moving with reason, moving with emotion, and finally being ground to tears; Either you insist enough, and they finally shed tears. "How did you give birth to such a son?" You are so stubborn that you hurt your parents' hearts? "The weak Lord agreed to their request against his will in sparse tears.
Whether it is yellow or blue, the characteristic of * * * is that after you give in, there will always be a concluding speech at the end. The central idea is nothing more than "you are young now, but you are not sensible." Mom and dad have been there before. Do this, and you will know that you will hate us now. When you grow up, you will understand. " I told my friend that I was educated all the way, but he still didn't believe me, saying that their education was based on "letting nature take its course,
Very natural. "As a result, people's parents are different varieties, green mom and green dad, how happy they are!
How do you feel that people with green personality are too suitable for being wives? (? ﹏? ) take one home if you have one ~
Anyway, talk about the disadvantages of green!
Whether external or internal.
It is usually popular that "men are outside and women are inside." If the "men" here are green, don't expect to be the head of the family. Usually they are happy to hand over power to each other, and they are too lazy to make any decisions for themselves. But sometimes green indifference and neglect make you have to whip them forward. A yellow housewife describes her glib husband like this.
When I met him in yellow, I met a "natural enemy". From the date, he will only express his love for me in one way, and that is "waiting". Come to our company every day before marriage and wait at the subway station every day after marriage; I went out for a meeting for three days. He cooked a pot of sauce at home and cooked noodles every day until I came back. "Waiting" has become one of my most annoying things.
I forced him to get married, and he never dared to tell his parents. Because he wanted a household registration book, he timidly told his family the day before registration. I forced him to buy a house and got pregnant. I must ask him to give us a stable nest. Every weekend, I take the lead, look at all the houses in the area, and pick out the ones that are satisfactory before letting him come forward for review (maybe we were still living in the street when he went to look for them). I ran outside for more than a month in winter, and it was not until I caught a bad cold and coughed all night that he volunteered to see the house himself. I thought the baby in my belly and I finally had something to rely on, so I called him at night. He said he didn't see the right one and asked me again and again before telling me the truth. After watching an episode, he slipped back to sleep.
Green prefers to be a follower or a humble role and let everyone make a decision. Green prefers to accept other people's decisions, and yellow likes to make decisions so much. Coincidentally, Huang likes to make decisions not only for himself, but also for others, which is just right. Zhou Yu hit Huang Gai, one was willing to hit the other, and the two hit it off. This is why green can easily become a partner with yellow in marriage.
In the relationship between yellow and green, we often hear some strong criticisms, that is, the anger of being passive against green and refusing to change! Green will never understand how much their irresponsible attitude towards life hurts those who love and care about them!
Fear of unfamiliar environment
"Fear of strange environment" is the first problem that timid people face. This is exactly what a student said about his wife:
Maybe her ideal state of life is to be completely unchanged every day. Her old job needs to be changed every once in a while, and she has to keep in touch with new environments and people. This job has caused her great pain. I feel much better now that I have changed my job with a stable environment. Once, the unit asked her to have a meeting at a school near her home, 1 km. Because she has never been to this school, she is afraid to go. She insisted that I go with her. After being resolutely rejected, she finally went by herself, with no problem at all.
If you let Green go to a strange environment alone, you will often encounter the following reaction: Green girl is probably "I don't know why, I just don't want to go alone, I want you to accompany me." If it's a man, it's "ah, want to go?" Forget it, it's too much trouble. I still have a lot of things here. Can I not go? "In fact, green's so-called' a bunch of things' is nothing more than sleeping and watching TV, but it has really constituted a major event in green's mind. Why didn't he dare to attend? It turns out that green has strong dependence. They will be relaxed and casual when they are familiar with the state, but they have instinctive fear of strange space.
Green is the person who needs stability most among the four personalities. They are naturally lazy to change and need to break the environment and interpersonal relationships they have adapted to in a state of frequent changes, which makes Green feel the lack of security.
Fear of being scolded
The second reaction of timidity is fear of being scolded.
Because his wife just came to see him in The Lion Roar the day before, the green husband came home from work early to please him and took out all the clothes in his wife's closet to wash. As a result, I didn't expect all the dark and light clothes to be mixed together and made a mess. This is a catastrophe! Scared that the green husband just wanted to iron the clothes to make up for it, suddenly his wife came back early (she hadn't seen the dyed clothes yet) and suddenly became nervous. According to Murphy's law, "everything that can go wrong will go wrong", and as a result, I really burned a hole in my clothes, and it was completely over! When the wife saw it, she glanced at the green and cursed.
The yellow wife can't understand why the green husband helps him. Things can be bought back, but hurt feelings can't be bought back. Green said nothing but tears at that time, and everything was criticized by yellow. What I describe here is not yellow, but green itself. Green man, because of his behavior, I regard him as a timid person.
Green often produces unnecessary inexplicable fears. Instinctive nervousness and fear of being scolded will only breed pathological compromise, but will not prompt them to take responsible solutions.
Fear of conflict
If "fear of the environment" and "fear of being scolded" are still passive avoidance of contradictions, then "fear of conflict" is subjective self-deception. The basic logic is that if I make a request, there will be conflicts, so I just have to suffer some losses myself. It's like a train, sleeping next to you and snoring, so you have to cover your head with a quilt all night, but you still can't sleep until morning, but your eyes are wide open, but you yawn. They paralyze themselves with the sign that "losing is taking advantage", thus conniving at others to bully themselves in a certain sense.
Freshmen report for duty, and some students arrive first, occupying all the cabinets. When a green Shandong man arrived later, he piled his luggage on the bed and waited, instead of letting others give him his seat. Until the other students couldn't stand it, the person who occupied the site gave way, and that person reluctantly gave up.
Don't think that Shandong Dahan must be a tough and brave man, full of blood and good manners, all of whom are like wolves-his personality has nothing to do with his height and figure. If a cowardly green man meets a fierce yellow villain, he is still beaten by Huang.
In recent years, campus violence, which has been widely reported, is actually a joint effort of several girls to destroy flowers, and the attack is even hotter than the axe gang. If educators want to
To cut off this phenomenon, I suggest starting with the personality analysis of the deceiver and the deceived. If there is no improper judgment, most of these gangs are backbone leaders (excluding the reasons for my poor care and unhealthy psychology). As far as personality is concerned, traders are mostly yellow. And if the weak and the deceived have been looking forward to fleeing from the conflict, it is undoubtedly green. I don't know the more I want to escape in this world, the more I can't escape!
Do you find three buzzwords for green? That is "anyway", "can" and "anyway"
"Whatever" means telling you: I don't decide, you decide.
"Not bad" is a hint: I don't want to directly veto and embarrass you. You don't have to ask me. "It doesn't matter" means: as long as you are happy, I am not happy, whether it is life or death.
The nickname "follower" is often used for such a green body. After you make up your mind, he can just follow. If you ask his advice, you can't expect to get any substantive advice from him except encouraging you to "go your own way". Don't say I miss you. Even when he thinks about himself, his own brain is unwilling to think about it. Why? Lazy! Why are you lazy? Because everything is fine now, there is no need to change, and change is a very hard and troublesome thing. See how people around green evaluate the characteristics of green.
In the evening, I met my green friend in the restaurant. We have eaten almost, but she and her friends just came in. She and I usually go to this shop. We have been there at least five times in the last two months. They sat next to us and her friend asked her to recommend them. She hesitated there for a long time, faltered, and then kept looking at my desk. I'll tell her what we want to eat at once, and tell her which is better by the way. She beamed and copied a table without thinking.
Indeed, I remember when my brother bought a house. At first, a green agent showed him more than a dozen houses, but every time he rushed out, he came back with a gloomy face. Because the intermediary has never explicitly recommended a set to my brother, he always said, "This one is good ... that one is also very good ..." And my green brother is also a person who doesn't know how to decide.
I have been advocating a friend of mine to change jobs. Every time he says "Well, I see", there is nothing else to say. Finally, he said to me, "Forget it. If you want to go, please help me write an application letter. I don't know where to go. what do you think? You know me better, you have decided. " "Where to go is your own business!" "It doesn't matter, your decision doesn't matter."
The above-mentioned green has always put on a nonchalant look: "I don't care about myself." You don't have to think about me. I exist for you. As long as you are satisfied, I am satisfied. I'll do whatever you say. " When people get used to green and give them the right to live, people will no longer seek any advice from green. Obviously, how can we expect a person who can't make up his mind about his own affairs to give advice to others? Why do you expect others to respect the same green? In the eyes of ordinary people, there are only two equations: brainless = irresponsible for one's own life; No opinion = waiting for others to judge their own destiny.
Green has always felt that he has no opinion. Even if she hurts, she will hurt herself, let alone others-I want to hurt myself because this is my own business, not yours. Why should I be criticized? Interestingly, they have a general mentality that always underestimating their own problems will hurt others. But some problems will not disappear by themselves after they appear. Green's indecisive and indifferent attitude virtually shifted all the pressure and burden to others, which indirectly brought a lot of trouble to others.
Green, I have never understood a truth in my life. When they always raise the banner of "ok" and "indifferent" to protect themselves, they also give up many opportunities in life. What's more, they gave many life choices to others.
Salesman's favorite
It is a blessing for a salesman to meet a green housewife. As long as someone sells and introduces products to her, she will definitely buy them. That's how my aunt got five insurances and a box of detergent.
Does this mean that people with other personalities will refuse not to buy in the face of door-to-door salesmen? From the overall proportion, blue is the least easy to buy, because blue has always been highly vigilant against class enemies. Red and green are owners who send money to salesmen. The difference is that the red one drinks a few words of ecstasy soup, puts on a top hat, and the other party calls to buy it immediately, and then helps the small seller. Belongs to the owner who helps several people pay money after being sold by traffickers; And green, mostly because it is a pity to see each other's disguise, there is no credit and hard work. Even if it is useless, it should only be absorbed under the mentality of worshipping bodhisattva and doing good deeds, and most of them are too lazy to let others know after buying it.
Yellow, do you want to buy it? I don't know, depending on the salesman's skill and Huang's mood at that time, but the most interesting thing is the reaction after buying. I will make a comparison between the yellow mother and the green mother. You can see for yourself:
Huang's mother: At the words of the salesman, my mother bought it resolutely. My father and I advised her not to buy this door-to-door product. There is probably no warranty, but my mother did it anyway. A few months later, the newspaper published the news that the product was "three noes" When my mother saw it, there was no expression of regret at all. On the other hand, she accused me of always wasting money on books, even if I bought them, I didn't read them, which was more wasteful than the books she bought.
Green mother: One day I called home, and my mother told me that someone was cleaning the range hood at home and selling her potion. I warned her not to buy it, but she bought it after we got home. Also said that it was a good deal, buy one get one free, and I was in distress situation. Later, she said, look at the poor man, so she bought it.
So we can know: yellow, wrong is right; Green, wrong is wrong.
You probably have a deep understanding of green character here. The quality of green personality has been fully demonstrated in several cases. From the beginning of this article, the explanation of personality ends here (? -ω-`)
Hehe, in fact, it is to find typical interesting examples from books and then copy and paste them to find pictures ~ sort out the essence of books. I'm so tired. I have been working all afternoon. Green is gentle, but being too gentle and not motivated will make people angry and not pay their lives. (? )〕
The above examples are all taken from the book "Know People with Color Eyes", and will be deleted if there is any infringement.