When I was young, my idea of ??love was hearing the words "I love you" from the person I like.
Later, when I grew up, I discovered that compared to saying "I love you" many times a day, what makes me feel more at ease is that you are by my side.
NO.1
A netizen sent me a private message and told me that the boy she liked confessed to her. Logically speaking, she should be very happy, but I don’t know why. At that moment she But hesitated.
It’s not that the boy treats her badly, or that she doesn’t like the boy anymore.
It’s just that she feels that boys always seem to make her feel a little worse.
This has nothing to do with whether it is good or not, and it has nothing to do with whether you like it or not. It is like the sun in the cold wind. It seems warm, but it actually feels warmer.
She feels that she is not a clingy person, but sometimes she can clearly feel her impatience in the boy's few words.
It was an emotion that had nothing to do with love, but at that moment she felt like an outsider.
The boy's approach of rejecting her mercilessly was almost the same as his predecessor.
Of course, she did not deliberately compare the boy with her ex.
She just doesn’t like this sudden feeling of strangeness, nor does she like that he talks affectionately about how much he loves you, but on the other hand, he repeatedly breaks appointments and doesn’t come to accompany you.
Coming to accompany you when I am free is the biggest lie in love.
She didn’t believe it at first until she separated from her ex. ?
She didn’t want to make the same mistake again, so in the end she decisively refused.
NO.2
I shared her troubles with my friends in the group:
Some people say that love has no scale, and everyone we meet No one, including herself, can be perfect. She shouldn't use her ex as a yardstick to measure other boys.
I admit that what my friend said is right, but I think that in love, it is impossible for anyone who has had an ex to compare with the current one.
Those who say they can’t do it at all, either don’t have an ex at all, or they have never really liked someone.
But even those girls who don’t have an ex will unconsciously compare their boyfriends with the boyfriends of their best friends and friends.
Many boys are disgusted with this kind of comparison between girls. They always feel that the implicit meaning of this kind of comparison between girls is disgust.
But I want to say that in fact, the word "comparison" itself is not malicious. A girl who really wants love has a strong balance in her heart, and it will not be because of her ex or her best friend's boyfriend. When it exists, it disappears.
Some girls are very clingy, and they like a boyfriend who is always by their side;
And some girls want to have their own private space, so they She will like a boyfriend who can give her a small space;
And that netizen is no exception. She likes a boyfriend who will not give her a "feeling of strangeness".
So, boys, when your girlfriend compares you with other boys, please don't blame her.
Because girls who are demanding in love often know what the partner they are looking for looks like. They will not easily deny you because of some of your shortcomings, nor will they because of your occasional I have a little temper to argue with you.
On the contrary, they will only think that since they identify it as you, nothing else matters.
Because for them, the most important person is you, that’s enough.
NO.3
Each of us is imperfect. The person you choose may be more imperfect than many people, but that is not important. What is important is Yes, when you need it, that more imperfect person is always by your side.
This is what love should be like.
Some people say that if there is a lack of freshness in love, it will easily deteriorate.
But I believe that love itself will not deteriorate. What can really deteriorate is the human heart.
If a person always attributes the end of a relationship to the lack of freshness, it can only be said that this person does not really love the other person, or that he does not cherish the other person or treat the other person well. Treat the other person as a very important person in your life.
You know, the more a person values ??something, the more time and effort he will spend on it.
The same goes for loving someone.
Those who talk about love but are slow to act are simply not loving enough.
And those who really love you are the ones who want to run to you when they say they want to see you.
Essentially speaking, each of us has the same requirements for love:
There is no need for the other person to be the most perfect in the world, nor does it need for the other person to have the same birthday or horoscope. The one who is the most compatible among the zodiac signs does not need the other person to say "I love you" a hundred times every day.
As long as that person is by your side when you need him, then he is the right person in your life and the person you should cherish.
So, have you met that person?
If you meet it, you should cherish it;
If you haven’t yet, please don’t be too impatient. He does not exist, he is just on the way to see you.
(ps: the picture comes from the Internet)