1, engagement sentence In the old society, marriage was a matchmaker's word, and the matchmaker arranged it according to his parents' orders. The two are similar in age and appearance, and both sides think that they are not suitable for each other. The man has prepared a small amount of gift money, red cakes and red rope (wool) for the woman to "order". Both parents are commensurate with their in-laws.
2, bride price sentence In the old society, the woman asked for a bride price before marriage, called a bride price. The thickness of gifts varies from rich to poor. Rich people have gold and silver jewelry, silks and satins and clothes (materials). Poor households have few gifts, but fish, meat, cakes, sugar and evergreen (grass) are indispensable. In rural areas, most bridesmaids do dowry for their daughters, and the richness of dowry depends on the thickness of bride price.
3. On the eve of the wedding, the woman's parents gave a banquet for the "Quanfu" girl among relatives and friends (parents of both parties) and bid farewell to the married woman, which is called drinking and waiting to be married.
On the wedding day or the day before, the dowry of the married woman is sent by the man to meet and collect it. Generally, there are eight pieces of wood (boxes, kitchens, cabinets, tables, stools, children's barrels, pots) and so on. There are rich and poor, but buckets (toilets) are necessary for children and grandchildren (indicating that children and grandchildren are blessed). This practice has been followed in rural areas to this day.
On the wedding day, the man must pick up the bride in a sedan chair and "warm the sedan chair" and "sacrifice the sedan chair god" before the sedan chair is issued. When the sedan chair reaches the woman, you will be rewarded with "opening money" The bride is bedridden, called "bed", and her brother has to pay for getting up. The bride is carried on the sedan chair by her father and brother, which is called "carrying the sedan chair". Before getting on the sedan chair, the mother and daughter cried bitterly and called "crying for marriage" as a farewell. When the sedan chair reaches the man, the bride is not allowed to get out of it. This is called "endurance". When you get off the sedan chair, the sack enters the house. This is called "Dai". After going to the guest room to "meet the bride" and send it to the bridal chamber, you are married. After liberation, the old habits have been changed, and both parties to the marriage have registered with the grassroots government according to the marriage law and obtained the license to get married.
6. When newcomers enter the bridal chamber, young men and women compete to meet the bride, teasing the newlyweds in various ways and making fun of them, which is called "building a new house". Others teased grandpa and uncle and said, "Three dynasties have no size." This custom is still popular.
7. The bride's father, brother, brother, uncle and uncle went to the man's relatives' home in other provinces on the second day after marriage, and met the man's main relatives for the first time, which was called the new wedding party, and the man received it with grand courtesy. Before the banquet, three teas (sugar, cakes and eggs) are essential. Most relatives are men.
8. The returning bride will return to her family three days after marriage, which is called "returning to the door". Nowadays, with convenient transportation and open communication, this custom has faded. Others will meet relatives and go back to their hometown on the wedding day, which is called "one family".
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Making up means wearing red. When the bride got off the sedan chair, a girl with a father and a mother helped her get off the sedan chair, and then a woman painted the bride's face red. A woman who wears makeup must have a husband, a son and a daughter, and tell a happy story while wearing makeup. The order of makeup is that the first point is in the middle of the eyebrows, the second point is at the tip of the nose, and the third to tenth points are on both sides of the face. After putting on makeup, the girl will help the bride into the man's house.
Ten makeup songs:
A little makeup will lead to a long life, and a little makeup will help happiness from now on.
Three-point makeup, three yuan and four points makeup are the best.
Five points of makeup, five points of makeup, six points of makeup.
At seven o'clock, seven children are reunited, and at eight o'clock, eight holes are immortals.
Make-up at nine o'clock, leave it for nine generations, and make-up at ten o'clock is true.
the Spring Festival; Chinese New Year
That sentence is called Chinese New Year. When the twelfth lunar month arrives, every household will buy new year's goods and make new clothes. The new year's goods mainly include: curing meat, chicken, goose and duck, buying melon seeds, peanuts, sweets and cakes, and wrapping new year's greetings. The mother sews cotton-padded clothes and trousers for her children and takes soles to make new shoes. A few days before New Year's Eve, we soaked bean curd and made rice cakes and steamed bread. In addition, in order to bid farewell to the old and welcome the new, every household should clean up, which is commonly known as "dust removal" among the people. We have to clean up the old things at home, clean up the dust on the roof wall and the old New Year pictures, scrub the stove and furniture, clean the washstand and fill it with water. Everyone should take a bath in the bathhouse to welcome the New Year cleanly.
People believe that the kitchen god (the master of the kitchen) is in charge of all the fate of a family. Therefore, on the 23rd day of the twelfth lunar month before the Spring Festival, every household has to offer sacrifices to the kitchen stove (to respect the chef), make steamed dumplings (to stick their mouths), make rice cakes (to paste their mouths), sprinkle seasoning beans and burn the old kitchen god, which is called "sending the kitchen stove". On New Year's Eve, a new statue of Kitchen God will be replaced, which is called "taking the kitchen".
On New Year's Eve, adults prepare New Year's Eve and put up New Year pictures. All doors at home should be pasted with new couplets, and banners and red paper carvings should be pasted on the lintels. The number of "hanging down" is odd. Cowshed, pigsty, chicken coop, stove and water tank should all be affixed with corresponding newspapers, with the contents of "Six Livestock Flourishing", "Happy Harvest" and "Happy Harvest". Windows and pillars should be affixed with "Wealth" and "Blessing", and Spring Festival couplets should be written in ink and red paper. The mourners used yellow paper in those days, and the next year they changed to green paper. In the third year, red paper couplets were resumed, and debt collectors could not come to the door after the couplets came to the door.
Before New Year's Eve, people serve food to worship their ancestors, burn incense, light candles and burn paper money (tin foil is folded into ingots), and people kowtow and bow. After paying homage to the ancestors, the food will be sent back to the kitchen and then served on the table. After setting off firecrackers, the whole family will sit down and have a reunion dinner. In the meantime, the elders will give the younger generation "lucky money", fry melon seeds and peanuts after meals, and buy jiaozi (eat jiaozi for breakfast on the first day of the first month).
On the first day of the first month, every household set off firecrackers to collect "heaven and earth", and all men, women and children put on new clothes and hats. When neighbors meet, there will be blessings.
Happy new year. There are rules for New Year greetings. I don't go out on the first day. I worship my parents and neighbors at home. The next day, I paid homage to my uncle. My uncle is a big guy. On the third day, I worshipped my grandfather. On the fourth day and beyond, I visited menstruation and menstruation.
On the fifth day, every household set off firecrackers early in the morning to collect the "God of Wealth".
On the fifteenth day of the first lunar month
There are many "Henan people" in Jurong who fled from Guangshan and Luoshan in Henan hundreds of years ago.
Jurong "Henan people" had the custom of the fifteenth day of the first month, and there is a saying that "the fifteenth day of the first month is like the New Year". Why is there such a custom
According to legend, during the Sui and Tang Dynasties, Li Shimin led troops to fight, and the battle lasted until the year before and the year after, but he never caught it on the eve of the 30th night.
The battle is over, it is the fifteenth day of the first month. Li Shimin was very happy to win the battle. He said that he never caught it in 2000, but he made up for it today.
As a result, it took a year to kill pigs and sheep, which was more grand than the usual Chinese New Year.
This is handed down from the custom of celebrating the New Year on the fifteenth day of the first month, and there is also a saying that the fifteenth day of the first month is like celebrating the New Year.
There are also many "Hubei guys" in Jurong, from Shashi and Xiangfan, Hubei Province, and there is also this custom.
Some people call Henan people in Nanxiang "Hubei guys". Why? It turns out that the areas around Guangshan and Luoshan in Henan Province also belonged to "Hubei" a long time ago.
The fifteenth day of the first month of Jurong Nanxiang has been preserved to this day, but little is known about the origin of this custom. Recently, I interviewed an old man in his nineties and learned the ins and outs of the matter.
This custom is unknown in their hometown.
Qingming Festival
Family members bring "new paper" and shovels to the grave to "hang paper". First, dig two bowl-shaped grass clods (grave caps) in the ridge, then take off the old grave caps, fold the new ones one by one, press new paper in the middle, clean the grave with a shovel and kowtow to the ancestors. It is said that wicker is inserted on the eaves of houses to eliminate disasters and exorcise evil spirits. Fold paper money to prepare dining tables, light candles to burn incense, burn paper to kowtow, put a little of each meal on the table in a cup, pour it into the air outside the door, and read, "Go slow, ancestor, come back at half past seven."