First, let your girlfriend find a relative or someone close to her family to be a symbolic matchmaker, but only two or four. You should invite the matchmaker to dinner, give gifts and deliver things. Then, according to your request, let the matchmaker go to her house to discuss the door.
You are in love, first you have to go through that door. You can give them any bride price they want. Then there are alcohol and tobacco gifts.
The woman went to your house for the first time and asked your parents to be parents. Your parents should give you a red envelope. Brother-in-law and sister-in-law also come together and give red envelopes. When relatives come to your house for the first time, they should set off firecrackers at the door to welcome them and send them when they leave.
Then pick up your in-laws. First of all, your family should bring gifts to pick up their families, then go to your home to find the most talkative and respectable person to accompany you, and then their families will invite you to recognize your kinship (set off firecrackers when you come and go, the bigger the better; The more grand the reception, the better).
Note: Cousins and uncles don't associate with each other, but before entering the door, the man needs to bring gifts to show his respect.
Then after you enter the door, the formal relationship between the two sides has been established, and then you get married. We will discuss it with each other. The procedure is basically the same as going through the door, and it is also a gift and the like. There is one more thing to note here.
The bride price given by your family was brought to you when the woman got married, and the dowry was bought by the woman alone. So don't worry about the amount of bride price. This is a good rule in our family.