1, proposal date
There are not so many taboos and concerns about proposing marriage now, but if conditions permit, it is more appropriate to choose a good day in the lunar calendar as far as possible. Two days are also welcomed by most parents, and the 6th is more auspicious.
It's time to propose marriage.
Most of the time to propose relatives will be in the morning, and it is best not to exceed noon.
3. Number of proposals
The number of people is preferably even. In addition to the prospective groom and parents, you can also invite the prestigious elders in your family to go with you.
Proposal process
1. The man first wears a formal suit to visit the woman's house, tells her parents that she intends to get married, and asks when it is convenient to propose. If he agrees, he can propose on another day.
2. After the marriage proposal is decided, you can take the characters of both sides first. Some parents will think it is impolite to propose marriage with eight characters, and then let the matchmaker make a special trip to get eight characters.
3. The woman gives the eight characters to the man. After the man gets the eight characters, he will find a professional numerologist to set the auspicious day according to the eight characters. After the date is set, an auspicious red paper and a red envelope will be sent to the woman's house together. This is called an invitation. The woman can choose one of the above auspicious days, and the amount of red envelopes varies. After accepting it, it means agreeing to hold the wedding on this date. As for the matchmaker's red envelope, it generally depends on the friendship between the matchmaker and the couple.
Four essential gifts for marriage proposal
Cigarettes are essential whether you meet your parents for the first time, get engaged, get married, or go back to the door. What you want is a good sign. When delivering cigarettes, you must pay attention to two items. This is called "pairing".
Like cigarettes, wine is also essential when proposing marriage. When sending wine, you should also send two boxes, preferably high-quality white wine. This wine can be drunk on any occasion, and it is more in line with the needs of male elders.
Candy, symbolizing sweetness, means that the married life of newlyweds will be sweeter than honey, crisp candy, lactose, fruit candy, cotton candy, milk candy and so on. , in duplicate, which not only meets the needs of elders, but also meets the tastes of children.
Tea, even if you don't smoke, drink or eat sugar, you will occasionally drink tea, which is the most healthy gift among the four farewell gifts. Canned tea or tea bricks are good, and you can buy anything you want.
Propose marriage and discuss things
1. Confirm that both parties will agree and recognize this marriage.
2, set the wedding date: generally speaking, after the kiss, it is best to set the date at least half a year later, with sufficient time to prepare.
3. Engagement money: Engagement money is generally divided into local employment and small employment. Nowadays, large-scale employment is officially returned as engagement money or the most expensive banquet. Therefore, the amount of big employment and small employment, whether it is collected or not, and whether the engagement money includes the wedding cake should be discussed in detail. Wedding cake: Who decides? Choose Chinese pie or western wedding cake? What is the quantity?
4. Banquet venue: After consultation, the estimated number of tables and suitable venue will be preliminarily determined.
Matters needing attention for men
1, clean and tidy makeup, not unkempt.
2. Go to the woman's house and keep smiling, listen more and let the elders talk more.
Be sure to arrive at the scene on time. If you are late for some reason, I will also call you.
Generally, you will choose to go to the woman's house at 9:00- 10:00 and leave before noon 12, so as not to give people the feeling of "full".