It is natural for us to be filial to our parents, but some men misinterpret the understanding of filial piety. After they get married, have children and find wives, they just want their wives to be filial to their parents at home and take responsibility at home. They should look after the house all day and obey their parents unconditionally. If there is anything wrong with their parents, it is wrong to be a daughter-in-law, so this son will.
If you blindly let your wife honor your parents at home, there is nothing wrong with honoring your parents, but you honor your parents in your way. Men should understand that your wife and your parents are not relatives, and sometimes you can't be too selfish and squeeze your wife in the name of love. As a man, you can't blindly listen to your parents, just what they say. You must know that we have grown up. Although sometimes you have to listen to what your parents say, you can't just listen. Sometimes we have to bravely express our views on their parents' words and bravely say no to them.
To be a man, you must have your own opinions. Our parents can't stay with us forever. We must learn to be independent. In fact, in my opinion, these excellent men just can't be independent. They just know to follow their parents and do something, and they have to ask their parents for advice before. What I want to say is whether you are manly or not.
I think women must choose their men carefully. They must choose men who are responsible and have a common topic with themselves. They must choose filial piety, but they cannot choose excellent people. They must find a man who likes them. Never find a man who likes himself and wants to share his filial piety with him