When the other person is frustrated, it is a good time to pursue-
If we compare ourselves to balloons, then the psychological state of balloon soaring in the cloudless sky in Wan Li is the so-called sense of magnification. On the contrary, your psychological state when you are wet by autumn rain and prostrate on the ground is the so-called sense of atrophy. If a person is in the process of "expanding feelings", he doesn't need the opposite sex so much. If you taste the feeling of atrophy, the situation will change completely. At this time, he will seriously look for a true lover. place
It means that a person has suffered some kind of failure, frustration and is in some kind of crisis. Feel deeply lonely; Frustrated and frustrated, self-esteem is hurt; Fall into a serious sense of inferiority ... If you have a lover in the workplace, you can approach her when she feels shrinking, such as when she is scolded by her boss and sitting there by herself. This is your good opportunity. If she catches a cold and hasn't recovered for a long time, it's a great opportunity. You can just tell her, "Take care, or I'll worry!" "When a lover is in hospital, visiting the sick with flowers is a common method for ordinary people to increase intimacy. You might as well seize the opportunity and make good use of it.
When love is hindered to some extent, it rises instead.
Suppose two men and women who love each other say "we are going to get married", but their parents, relatives, friends, predecessors and acquaintances all call each other good and wish each other good. In this case, the relationship between men and women often can't burn. Because everything is going well and there is no stimulation, I feel at a loss. On the contrary, if there is a stubborn mother in love, just say, "What! Before I die, no matter who intercedes, I will never be allowed to say no is no! " With such resolute opposition, both sides are anxious like ants on hot bricks, trying to convince them. If the road is blocked, they even think that since they can't convince them, they should just get on the bus before buying tickets! .
-Professional women are a good opportunity to pursue when you are tired of work-
The following is a good time to meet professional women;
After working for three months, this tension disappeared, but I was a little tired, so I subconsciously hoped to have a concern of the opposite sex.
After working for three years. At this time, I'm tired of working, and I've generally learned all kinds of ways to have fun, so I'm eager for new excitement and adventure.
When the work fails. I am very unhappy because of the boss's blame, and I really want to have some fun and vent my depressed mood.
When I received the transfer order, my mood was very complicated and unstable.
When it is realized by a group. Because it is completely different from the atmosphere in the company, girls with pure complex will also be attracted to male colleagues.
-When women let their guard down, it's a good time to get to know each other-
The following are the periods when women relax, so it is easy to understand:
After eating in the restaurant for 30 minutes. After eating in the restaurant, I was full and refreshed, and my emotional needs increased.
After drinking white wine with ice. Men should know that they are very relaxed and excited after drinking.
When you first recovered from a serious illness. Disease is the most prone to dependence. When the disease has just recovered, there is a desire to seek support.
On rainy days, most people stay indoors on rainy days, and their mood is dull and their vigilance is low.
The day you get paid. When you get paid, you are naturally in high spirits and want to enjoy love.
-Adapting to a girl of sixteen or seventeen-
You should be gentle and considerate to her and treat her as a fragile doll. If it is not a matter of principle, you should try to accommodate her and make her happy. You can persuade her if the time is right. A woman of this age is characterized by fun and excitement, and taking her to entertainment places will make her very happy. If there are exciting activities, be sure to bring her. It is important to coax some things.
-Be romantic with a girl in her twenties-
You should try your best to show her your financial ability and show a little romance. You should choose the topic you are best at and talk to her, so as to show your skills. It is best to win her respect and trust. If you want to choose a romantic place to date her, you must bear all the expenses of the date. Don't be too ambitious. For women in their twenties, they are your prey. You must take it step by step. Don't always want to get her! .
-Be steady with mature women in their thirties-
You should show your maturity and sense of maturity, and don't pester her like an underage boy. Offer to serve her on a date. Generally, women of this age have maternal feelings and will naturally show maternal care and love to you. Therefore, you might as well show her the fragile side of men moderately and be cheerful and coquettish to her, but be careful not to overdo it. If you are too fragile, you will make her feel insecure and disappointed. When it is necessary to show your masculinity and courage, you must not shrink back from the routine.
-Sincere but not arrogant-
Both men and women should keep appointments on time, so as to feel each other's sincerity. If you are unexpectedly late, you should apologize and explain why. Look natural and graceful after the meeting. Being too shy will lead to the other person being bound; Being too free and easy often makes the other party suspicious. When listening to each other, don't be absent-minded or stare at each other. It is advisable to look natural.
-Is the clothes neat or not-
As the saying goes, "seven points of appearance, three points of dress." For people who go on a date, they should dress better than usual, which is a sign of attaching importance to dating and respecting each other. The woman's clothes can be brighter, and the man should never wear dirty clothes to date. Pay attention to the neatness of the clubhouse collar in summer, and don't forget the handkerchief. If possible, choose clothes that best suit your skin color and figure, and wear them to "foster strengths and avoid weaknesses". Of course, excessive pursuit of fashionable clothes often has the opposite effect.
-Talk passionately without frivolity-
It's probably a custom in China that the protagonist of the first date should be the man, while the woman is reserved. This person should take the initiative to ask some questions to get Tan Xing's attention. Both sides should avoid long silence. The content of the conversation should be broad and popular, the questions should be brief, and the other party should be willing and able to answer. We can talk about work, study, hobbies and trivial things in life. Don't embarrass the other party, let alone ask questions that make it difficult for the other party. If the other person is silent and unresponsive, you should change the subject quickly. Both men and women can consciously introduce themselves, including their family members and personal hobbies and specialties. But don't brag about yourself. Some young people have some bad habits, so don't let them spoil the fun of the first date. Swearing should not be said, otherwise it will be regarded as disrespectful, uncivilized and impolite to each other.
-When dating, the topic should be light and pleasant-
Talking on a date is the best time to get to know each other and show yourself. At this time, you should take the initiative in the hospital conversation, learn as much as possible about each other's hobbies from the conversation, avoid exposing your shortcomings to each other as soon as possible, and make the situation develop in a direction that is beneficial to you. The topic of dating is best to make the atmosphere happy. Therefore, when dating, you must keep a happy and cheerful mood and state of mind, because dating is not a class, and you don't need to preach or stimulate your personality, so the topic must be relaxed. If she likes to talk a lot, don't interrupt her discussion Just be a loyal listener. In the meantime, don't say anything about the grave yourself. When dating, it is best to talk about things that often happen around the village, such as social pages of TV programs and newspapers, or about music. Exercise your lovely pets, such as cats, dogs, tropical fish, pigeons and birds, because talking about some relaxing and interesting topics can bring us closer together.
-Dating etiquette can't be ignored-
As a special form of social communication, dating should be permeated with the color of modern civilization, and politeness runs through the whole process of dating. Pay attention to etiquette when making an appointment. When sending an invitation, whether it is an oral invitation, a telephone invitation or a letter invitation, the initiator should use a polite and negotiated tone, and should not ask the other party in an imperative tone. When deciding on the appointment place, you should first ask the other party's opinion and take the convenience of the other party as the principle. If the other party makes it clear that you want to make a decision before you put forward your own opinion, ask the other party to make a decision, and the other party can make a decision only if it thinks it is appropriate. Etiquette and politeness are more important on the issue of time. Generally speaking, the inviter should arrive for a period of time first, which is a respect for the other party. In case of special circumstances, if you can't keep the appointment on time or need to change the appointment time, you should try to inform the other party. If you really can't tell the other party in time, you should apologize to the other party afterwards. Because it's disrespectful to stand and talk like it's easy. The party who comes first should also give understanding and comfort to the party who is late or who stands up for special reasons, and don't make trouble without reason. The termination of the contract is proposed by the promisee and the woman. The inviter, male, can of course terminate the appointment directly if there is an emergency, but he should apologize to the other party. On a date, if you don't think the other person is the only thrill, don't just talk for three or five minutes and leave. If there is nothing to say between two people, they can talk about something else and form a certain atmosphere before leaving politely. After the date, the man should send the woman, which is a respect for women. If it is not too late or during the day, you can put the woman on the car or tram and watch her go; If it's late at night, take the initiative to send this woman home. If the woman doesn't object, it should always be delivered to the door.
-Did you pay special attention to observing each other-
Love is based on mutual understanding. You want to know each other's personality, personality, specialty, etc. On the occasions where the other person often goes, you will often appear there unconsciously, even if you just look at the other person, you will feel inexplicable excitement. As long as there is an opportunity, regardless of the length of time, you should pay attention to observe each other's gestures and further ponder each other's psychological activities. As your eyes follow, the other person, as the image of your love, will also be exposed in the negative film of your heart.
-See if you like each other unusually-
Like is produced by the aesthetic feeling revealed from each other. It starts from a certain part and develops, turning Zhejiang into a good impression. For example, if you like the other person's big eyes, you may gradually like the whole person, and the more you look, the better you look. This is what people often say, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder". In your opinion, the beauty of the other person is different, which can arouse your inner praise and pride and make you stay with the other person.
-Do you think you really need each other?
We often feel this way about the people we love. With happiness, I want to tell each other as soon as possible; When I have troubles, I always want to talk to each other, and even I want to ask how to deal with some things. It seems that everything is inextricably linked. As long as I have the other person, I feel at ease, but once the other person leaves, I am at a loss.
-Do you care about each other?
If you love each other, you will care about everything about her. If the other party is going to take the filial piety test, you will take the initiative to help the other party review; If the other party encounters something unsatisfactory, you will try your best to solve it for the other party; If the other person's life is in danger, you are willing to protect each other with your life. "Cutting is still chaotic." When you fall in love with someone, that kind of inner emotional experience is enough to make you toss and turn!
-Does she often make excuses to be with you?-
Anyone can take the initiative to love each other, but most women are ashamed to do so because of the influence of traditional ideas. Obviously, she really wants to be with you, but she always has to find an excuse to cover up her real motives. Sensitive men, from a woman's ambiguous behavior, it is not difficult to detect her heart for you.
-Does she often ask people about you?
Asking about the situation may be out of "curiosity", but often asking about a man's situation is not explained by "curiosity", but mostly because he cares about this man. This concern is the expression of his silent dedication to him. Just because of face, I dare not ask a man directly, so I adopt a tortuous expression.
-Is she particularly sensitive to what you say and do?-
Some small things, even you didn't notice, but she noticed "why haven't you been to work recently?" "What are you up to?" "Where have you been?" These problems are not only the concern of colleagues, but also the germination of women's love. Of course, if it is the latter, the tone of speech is different from the former. Sometimes only careful people can notice this difference.
-Are you interested in asking you some questions about love-
Some women like you very much in their hearts, but they are embarrassed to show it and are afraid of wishful thinking. So I often take an implicit way to test whether you have a lover. For example, she will find an excuse to ask you when to invite her to eat wedding candy. I don't know if I heard you say it would take a long time. There will be a look of relief in her brow. These subtle facial changes are mostly signs that love is budding in my heart.
-Does she mean what you say casually?-
Sometimes you will say, "I have to buy a new scarf this winter." Before long, she will find an excuse to give you the scarf she knitted, or quietly tell you where to buy the right scarf. Sometimes you inadvertently show interest in a book, and she will unconsciously send it to you. At present, in most people's minds, going to the movies with men and women seems to be a public expression of falling in love. Generally speaking, a woman says that she bought a ticket for you, but it is probably the information that you invited her to see a movie.
-Does she like to know about your past, future and family?
If she is not interested in you, there is no need to know you. The reason why women like to know this situation is that your image has been sown in her mind, and she needs to have a comprehensive and three-dimensional understanding of you. Caring and even asking about your family is actually for the same purpose, which may also indicate that she is considering whether to determine her relationship with you.
-Is she similar to you?-
For example, you like watching football, but she has no interest in sports. However, strange things are likely to happen. She has some interest in sports. When you say "expert words", she will insert a few "amateur words" or show concern for her sales interest. Sometimes, when someone talks to her about a problem, it seems boring to her, but she will be happy to accompany her and show interest. This is not only infected by you, but also actively adapts to you, which subtly permeates the element of "love".
-Did she have a bright face when she received your love message-
For example, if you find an excuse to accompany her, she looks very excited. If you write to her, she will reply to you soon, and besides words, there is also the content of "understanding". These are all messages of love.
-Be brave and talk to her-
At the thought of approaching that girl for the first time and talking to her, I was both excited and uneasy, fearing that she would ignore it. How embarrassing! It is this fear that hinders your determination to approach her. Actually, you don't have to worry. As far as most girls are concerned, their hearts are very eager for men to approach her and talk to her. Although some girls are quiet on the surface, they have made their mark in Chun Qing. Why not give it a try? You can have a symbolic "talk" with her at first. After choosing an appropriate prologue, you can say whatever you want, as long as you can think of it in your mind, you can talk about it as a topic of Kan Kan. Perhaps, in this process, girls will have a good impression on you.
-Calm down and get ready to hit a wall-
When you get up the courage to approach a girl, you may get the girl's "dirty eyes". This is normal. When everyone is disheartened, more than one man in the world refuses to drink soup. If you are depressed because of this, your heart will hurt, or you will be cautious from now on, then you are simply stupid. It is important to know how to laugh at yourself after hitting a wall. You should think calmly about the reasons for your failure, perhaps because you approached the girl in an inappropriate way, perhaps because you chose the wrong time first, perhaps because your heart is not sincere enough. ...
-Praise her honestly and appropriately-
The difficulty lies in the first contact, the woman has a reaction, and then it will be easy. If a girl says something to you, it means that she doesn't hate you. At this time, you can talk frankly about your first impression of her and praise her appropriately, such as "You are so beautiful and charming", "This skirt suits you very well", "You are cheerful and I feel very happy with you" and so on. Hearing these words, she may be shy, but she is still very happy. It should be noted that your words should be artistic, both frank and artistic, such as paying special attention to proper limit. Excessive praise of the other party will make people uncomfortable; If you are hypocritical and full of benevolence and morality, you will make the other person's interest dull, and saying some low-level words will make her feel disgusted.
-Respect yourself, don't focus too much-
If you are lucky enough to meet a beautiful and lovely girl, you are seduced by her and you are fascinated by her. You can try your best to get close to her, let her know you and fall in love with you, but don't be self-defeating. But don't be too careful. If you try to please her like a pug, you may be self-defeating Most honest girls don't like spineless men. Then you will be fascinated by her and try your best to please her. Although you are so infatuated, the girl ignores you. You are like a bowl of boiled water, which makes people see the end at a glance. There is no interest at all, so the girl has to say goodbye to you forever.
If you are frugal and extravagant, you will win your heart.
Some men are generous to girls. When shopping, he will buy her this and that, and when he enters the hotel, he will always have "seven dishes and eight bowls"; Even if you meet a beggar, the informant will pay a lot of money in front of the girl. It seems that only in this way can he show his manhood. As everyone knows, while spending a lot of money, his image in the girl's heart has gradually shrunk. Because most girls will have some associations when they see this behavior, she will think about how you will live in the future and what kind of person you will become in the future. Your actions will undoubtedly scare her away, and even if you don't exclude Xu, your actions will win the favor of individual girls. But as far as most girls are concerned, they hate profligate men the most. Therefore, even if you are rich, don't spend money like water, and don't leave a swollen face for girls.
-Be gentle. It's the only way to win your heart-
There is a small piece of ice in the girl's heart, which is small but not easy to melt and hard as ice. If you want to melt the ice, you must first release her guard with gentle words. If you look dirty and have an unpretentious attitude, there is no hope. The ocean block is not only hard and cold, but also will not be bigger than before! Girls love gentle and considerate men because they have absorbed countless experiences from colleagues, relatives and friends around them. They have heard enough and seen enough, so they can't help but take a warning. Unless you treat her with sincerity and gentleness, she won't repay you with the same kindness. Therefore, whether you are just approaching a girl or your relationship has made some progress, you need to be extremely gentle. As long as you show tenderness, thoughtfulness and kindness everywhere and give people a sense of trust, girls will naturally have a good impression on you. Of course, this gentleness, thoughtfulness and kindness must not be hypocritical, but must be from the heart. If tenderness is just a means, it is all wet.
-Create special occasions where you two can do some activities together-
For example, you can pick a common thing first and then continue to do it, such as having breakfast together and talking about the trivia of the day, and then you can extend these activities and savor them slowly. In this way, it will help your relationship and make you feel more worthwhile.
-Give something to someone you love once in a while that won't last-
Of course, you'd better send something that the other person likes. Maybe some people think it's too wasteful to spend money on flowers or flip a coin to sing, but it's not. This is a gift that you two should have. So when you want to do something for each other, you might as well spend some money on this kind of thing. In addition, when buying gifts, you don't have to buy some practical gifts for each other, and occasionally you can show that you don't pay much attention to practical functions. In this way, it can help you realize the value of love itself-even if the gift doesn't bring us any practical value.
-Show your love by touching-
It is generally believed that touching each other is only a manifestation of sex, so they seldom touch each other. In fact, touching each other is just an expression of love, and you don't have to have sex.
-Try to do something that you both like to do-
Picnics, outings, movies ... whatever ... try to remember what you enjoyed with him before you go. Don't say you won't. It is best for the two to meet in a well-lit late atmosphere and share each other's happiness and sense of accomplishment. Even if the party time is short, you might as well study how you behave and how comfortable you are when you get along happily. And in the same mood, * * * to do more things.
-Be sincere and simple when expressing love-
When you show your love, be honest and let the other person realize that you are telling the truth. The following methods of showing love are very popular:
(1) naturally say, "I like you very much."
(2) Look her in the eye and say, "I like you."
(3) Say bluntly: "I love you!"
(4) "Let's live together!"
(5) "Would you like to walk the road of life with me?"
(6) "I hope to be with you forever."
-Choose a good place to show your love-
The following are good places to express your love:
(1) When listening to emotional music in the car
(2) A place where you can see the sea.
(3) Where there is no one around.
(4) In more romantic places, such as cafes.
(5) On the way back from play.
-The language of love can be a love movie-
The more you listen to the sentence that makes your teeth float, the more practical it is, the more delicious it is, and women will start to think that you may be telling the truth. So, you don't need to convince her with theory, you just need to stimulate her feelings. The following are some expressions of love in love movies, which you can try if necessary:
"This is a very important beginning, don't you think?"
"Do you know that you have fallen in love with me?"
"I realize now that I feel so happy with the woman I love."
"The next time I introduce you to my friend, can I say that you are my woman?"
"I have a problem recently, no matter what songs I listen to, I feel.
-Men with successful careers are easily favored by women-
What is a man's old success in dealing with women? Perhaps, netizens will think that "please" female colleagues is enough, which has nothing to do with work; However, which girl wants to love a "nobody" who has made no achievements in her work?
-More contact with women will make people mature-
Love is like a touchstone. When you compete with your opponent, you can know each other through love, and you can also know yourself through love. A few years ago, there was a play called "We Don't Know Love at First Love", which was very popular. Later, it was changed into a movie to tell a truth that first love is often blind. Because people in first love are too naive psychologically, the object of first love is often not a rational choice, but an emotion or even an inexplicable psychological agitation. One or both parties jump into the ocean of love and are carried away by love. At this time, people have love, but they don't know love. Entering marriage with the unreliable impulse of first love, if both parties do not strengthen psychological construction after marriage and promote the mutual cognitive psychology of both parties to mature, marriage will often be in crisis. Therefore, a person really knows each other, and also knows that it often takes many times to achieve in love. After tossing and turning in my feelings for several times, I understand the "helplessness of the outside world" and what kind of person I am, and I also know what kind of person I need.
-If you want to be stable in love, you'd better be "fit"-
For contemporary young people, talking about marriage and love seems outdated and inappropriate, but it has its scientific side, that is, it helps to stabilize marriage. We want to say that the family is right. It is not that we are too poor to love the rich, but that the two parties who are married and listening have similar backgrounds such as family, society, culture, education and life customs, and there will be less friction and misunderstanding when communicating with each other. It doesn't mean that a marriage that "the door is not right" is necessarily bad. However, both sides of marriage should have strong psychological endurance, and both sides or one side should have great changes. For example, if a rich girl marries a poor man, one of the two parties will sacrifice a lot of things, and it is impossible for both parties to remain calm for a long time. It is in this sense that when looking for a marriage partner, we should pay attention to "dragon with dragon, phoenix with phoenix". However, nothing is static, and there is no absolute truth in the world. Happy marriage is not uncommon, which is determined by men's and women's views on marriage, subjective and objective environment and people's quality.
-Don't expect to marry a woman with both talents and looks-
Don't be too hard on the so-called "talented and beautiful" woman, it's just a term in this world. Unless she is gifted, a beautiful woman seldom has talent at the same time. Beautiful women often refuse to make efforts in the cultivation of knowledge because of dependence. On the contrary, an unattractive woman cannot be relied on because she lacks "capital" that can be used in life. This is a natural thing. You can't have your cake and eat it. What about spiritual beauty? Still beautiful? When a man wants to choose a woman, he should decide in advance.
-Don't have two feet on both sides-
If you have many good female friends, it is understandable, but if you really love one of them, please don't date other girls. "Running around" is not only frivolous, hypocritical and insincere, but also shows that you are not single-minded and hunt everywhere, like a dissolute son. As long as a girl with a little brain knows your little trick, she will leave immediately and ignore you, no matter how smart and talented you are. Therefore, don't "step on several boats", otherwise, it will only turn over and fall into the water in the end.
-Don't waste time complaining after falling out of love-
Complaining about others will make you disheartened and depressed. Of course, it is inevitable that you will bear a grudge when you encounter such a thing for the first time, but you should get rid of her as soon as possible, not hate her. If you run into each other, be generous. Otherwise, it is tantamount to surrendering to the other side. Because whether you say a good word or scold, it objectively shows your psychological weakness and failure. You don't need to spend your energy on this, but you should sort out your feelings as soon as possible and find another object that is more suitable for you.
-Don't ask her to come back to you-
Begging for mercy is a lovely idea, even if it is not a fantasy, it is stupid and naive. You must abandon this idea, control yourself and work hard.
-There's no need to recall the past love history-
You should try to avoid going to places where you two love each other and reduce social activities that can remind you of the past. In the above-mentioned occasions, we should also stop unnecessary affection, restore normal reason, and eliminate the traces of past love as soon as possible. This should be achieved by reason, and we should not dwell on past memories.
-Don't rush to find another lover to really fill your emptiness-
It is best to get to know new friends of the opposite sex slowly. Because your mental trauma has not healed, you should first concentrate on some interesting hobbies and divert your attention. You shouldn't fall in love with other girlfriends until your mood returns to a permanent state.
-Don't give up on yourself-
Don't feel like a useless person just because you are lovelorn. I didn't know you were still a lovely young man, and you also had your own loveliness. Why should we be negative and inferior? However, you should learn a lesson. If you make friends with the opposite sex in the future, you should be very careful not to show your enthusiasm too early. You should cherish your feelings and never abuse them again. Men look down on girlfriends who give him feelings easily; While women feel sorry for the emotional "love the water" people.
-You don't have to live in seclusion-
When you are in love, you naturally don't have many opportunities to associate with other friends, especially friends of the opposite sex. Now, you have no burden, you should go out and associate with them. One can make you forget that unpleasant thing, and one can give you a chance to find a more suitable person among many people.
-Never break your heart-
Why not tell your friends about the past over and over again? It won't comfort your broken heart and it won't do you any good. Let bygones be bygones. No one can help you get back on your feet, you can only rely on yourself! You still have valuable enthusiasm, you still have a bright future, and you still have many relatives and friends. Why do you have to break your heart for a lifetime? Don't be paranoid, don't walk into a dead end, take out the vitality of your young people, throw yourself into a fiery life and find a new world of love in the ocean of life. As long as the tree of life lasts, it will eventually bear rich fruits of love. The countermeasure of lovelorn is: cheer up!