When many people are not together, they give blindly in a self-motivated manner, eager to impress the other person through their pursuit day after day. After they were together, their expectations for the relationship were too high, causing the other person to become exhausted in the relationship. There must be a certain amount of affection, otherwise it will hurt others and yourself.
For example, the desire for gain and loss is unbalanced, and the crazy pursuit of emotional reciprocity
Everyone has the desire for gain and loss, but when you give all your feelings, the desire for gain and loss will be out of balance.
The more you care about the other person, the more afraid you will be of losing the other person, so you just give and endure, hoping to get the other person's equal love in return.
In this case, as long as the other party does not respond to your feelings in time, you will worry about gains and losses.
Severe inferiority complex and paranoia
Inferiority complex and paranoia can appear almost at the same time in a deeply affectionate person.
Paranoid psychology, in layman’s terms, means that when a person has an expectation for the future, he will unconsciously adjust his behavior according to this expectation during his actions. It is precisely these adjustments that ultimately create the expectation. accomplish.
In a relationship, the more you feel that the other party has no feedback, the more you want to get feedback from the other party and at the same time exaggerate your own efforts.
The more you suspect that the other person is cheating, the more evidence of his cheating you will collect from all over the place, and your loyalty will be tested again and again.
Inferiority mentality means that you are extremely unconfident in this relationship when facing this person. You are cautious in everything you do, and you are keen on other people's feedback and opinions.
If the feedback is bad, you will first attribute all the responsibility to yourself, and then force yourself to change, so as to please the other party.
“It’s enough to drink six points to get drunk, to eat seven points to be full, and to love your lover eight points.” The remaining two points are encouragement and affirmation left to yourself.
The manifestation of extreme wealth is losing oneself, putting others first, and gaining recognition and a sense of existence by satisfying others. The biggest problem with this model is that over the years, people will lose themselves and self-love.
The most useful way to change this situation is self-encouragement, self-affirmation, and self-acceptance. Only after accepting yourself can you develop in a good direction.
Believe that efforts will be reciprocated in return, and there will also be regrets and misses. Put self-feeling first and calmly accept changes in the outside world.
Yin's encouragement and self-love can make people feel more powerful in relationships, life, and growth than Bijie's spurs and demands. (Not for everyone, specific analysis of the horoscope)
The difference between the two is:
Bijie’s requirements and spurs are to make you strive to become a better person;
The encouragement and self-love of seals tell you that you are a good person;
Although they are both positive energy, the processes and effects are completely different.
Those who are "deeply in love and never live long" reprint it in order to love themselves more, and the deep love is just right.