Female; 1983 February 7
Is it the lunar calendar?
Both boys and girls are born (when? )
Cann't get married accurately
Quote an online article ....
The eight-character disagreement is husband and wife!
"Don't eight words, not husband and wife? 」
In the traditional society, the Chinese character "eight characters" is the key element of mate selection and pairing between men and women, and its "combination" and "disagreement" dominate the happiness of marriage and family of hundreds of generations of ordinary people in China. This deep-rooted traditional concept of choosing a spouse still affects the thinking of many single aristocrats when choosing a spouse in the modern marriage game that advocates freedom of love.
In the field of Wei Zi's number-fighting, the accuracy of the arrangement of "eight characters" for men and women will never be lost to the traditional "eight characters". Anyone who is familiar with the principle of Wei Zi's fate knows very well: if you enter the date of birth, you can know which of the four ethnic groups: Zifulian Wuxiang, Killing Wolves, Yue Ji Tongliang and Zhuli. These "four ethnic groups" all have their own personality characteristics. From the perspective of human behavior, these characteristics are manifested in the personality, behavior and values of the parties concerned, which is quite consistent with the classification of human behavior types by modern ABO blood group. However, many fortune tellers can't get rid of the ancient concept of fate. Only by stubbornly classifying the same kind of these four ethnic groups as the same kind and the different kind as the different kind will they "feel at ease". In other words, "Fu Zilian's five fragrances" and "Killing wolves" are "one country", "Yue Ji Tong Liang" and "Ju Ri" are "another country", and everyone does not invade each other.
This kind of matching method, which has remained unchanged for thousands of years, has been seriously "wrong" in recent years. Conservative estimation: In today's society in Taiwan Province Province, more than 60% of couples are "incompatible", but their families are happy. The "eight-character disagreement" has caused many divorces, which is more tragic than the former.
This phenomenon tells modern people that the traditional law of fate is embodied in people's actual behavior, and there is a key that fortune tellers simply ignore, that is, "personality complementarity."
Experience shows that in interpersonal communication, the greater the "complementary personality", the higher the efficiency and the greater the success rate. I still remember that in the 2000 presidential election, the Kuomintang launched "Lian Xiaopei". At that time, the media agreed that it was not good, because "homogeneity" was too high and "individuality complementarity" was too little.
Personality stimulates thought, and thought determines behavior, which is a trilogy of doing things. Among them, "personality" is dominant. Complementarity of personality includes tolerance and understanding. Only by complementing each other's advantages can we achieve perfection.
Social enterprises are like this, and couples in the family are no exception. As the saying goes, "the piano harmonizes with the sound" is the best evidence to show that the husband and wife are "out of character". Twenty-five-stringed "Qin" and fifty-stringed "Se", two different musical instruments, will produce pleasant music. Otherwise, they are all the same "Qin" and "Se". Playing with them is not "harmony", but "struggle" This is by no means the way for couples to stay together for a long time.
Men are not bad, women don't love them. This is the creed that modern men and women love and attract each other. Covering up a person's moderate contrast in personality and rebellious behavior, this moderate "stimulus" will often lead to a person's ideological satisfaction and maturity. The vitality of national society is thus inspired.
Therefore, don't cherish the traditional belief totem of "matching eight characters" in choosing a spouse. "Eight words, it is husband and wife! 」