My elder brother Leslie Cheung could be said to be a legendary superstar at that time, but when he was famous, there were also many paparazzi who made a fuss about his private life.
My brother’s sexual orientation is male. This is a personal preference. It still seems a bit shocking to us in modern times, but it is acceptable. At that time, this was exposed and people talked about it so much that my brother suffered from depression.
My brother is from Hong Kong, and his funeral customs are also in accordance with the style of Hong Kong people. We can see from the custom that at Hong Kong funerals, men come to support the deceased. At the wedding of the famous Hong Kong actress Anita Mui, a woman came to support the deceased, which was said to be a break from traditional customs. From my personal point of view, it is normal that there are no women in supporting the spirit. In the eyes of ordinary people, women are usually less courageous than men. It would be very stressful for a girl to carry the coffin, and Hong Kong was superstitious about ghosts and gods at that time. Especially heavy. According to him, women’s horoscopes are lighter, and women are yin, which makes them more likely to attract unclean things and bring bad luck. Men’s horoscopes are hard and full of yang energy, which can get rid of evil spirits and bring peace to the deceased. Go peacefully.
This is based on customary concepts. From a common sense perspective, it is not appropriate for women to support the souls. Can a grown man be as strong as a girl? This is an important reason why boys are more reliable than girls in supporting spirits. To put it simply, a supporting spirit is a coffin carrier. A coffin can weigh up to several hundred kilograms. It is so heavy. Isn’t it a bit unrealistic to ask girls to move things?
And carrying the coffin means lifting the coffin from the place where it is buried to the place of burial. Once you start, you cannot stop. You have to carry it to the burial place in one breath. This distance is relatively long, and even men of average strength cannot bear it, let alone For women, it is not realistic for women to support the souls, so from ancient times to the present, men have been the main ones to support the souls. Anita Mui’s funeral is just an example. It is a manifestation of breaking the stereotype and does not suit most people!