Lack of confidence. Self-confidence is an important motivation and feeling. People with self-confidence will accomplish the same thing actively and efficiently, while people without self-confidence always worry about all kinds of things, and everyone appreciates self-confidence. Let's share the shortcomings of lack of self-confidence.
Lack of self-confidence 1 1, unable to accept praise generously.
Modesty is a virtue, but everything is extremely contrary. Being too modest to accept praise generously may be a sign of lack of self-confidence. When others praise you for "well done", you always feel guilty and always take the credit to others, which has nothing to do with yourself. The first few times will leave a good impression on others, but over time, others will doubt what's wrong with you, and even have the opposite effect of "why are you so hypocritical".
You don't think you have anything extraordinary.
The most typical feature of people who lack self-confidence is that they always think that they have no ability and no advantages that can be compared with others. Obviously, you are really good at something, and you can accomplish what others can't, but you would rather think that "this task is relatively simple" or even "maybe others will do it, and the result will be better than me" than have some confidence in yourself.
You always take other people's ideas as your own.
People who lack self-confidence are afraid to express their opinions to others because they are already thinking, "What if he doesn't accept it?" ? ""Is this a bad idea? "Wait for negative feedback, so I have no opinion on any decision. It is easier to quote other people's ideas and think that what others say is definitely more valuable and convincing.
You think others only see your shortcomings.
It's a bit like self-doubt because you are not confident, and you doubt that you feel victimized. People who lack self-confidence often internalize the gossip around them into self-criticism, such as "you are fat", "you can't do anything well", "nobody likes you" and "everyone else can, why can't you", even though those words are not aimed at you at all. You think others always see only the bad side of themselves and laugh at it.
You seldom try new things because you are afraid of failure.
Just like the third point, "I'm afraid of being shot before speaking my mind", I hesitated before taking the first step for fear of failure. People who lack self-confidence are used to staying in the comfort zone and doing what they are good at without any difficulty; On the contrary, confident people don't want to be locked in the comfort zone. They are confident that they can break through the framework and create more possibilities.
Disadvantages of insufficient self-confidence 2 How can people with insufficient self-confidence improve?
First of all, clothes make the man.
As the saying goes, clothes make the Buddha golden. Although it is an old saying, it is not out of date today. When we dress up confident, we will feel confident. You can try it for a week and dress up as you want; Remember, this is a simple and effective way to enhance self-confidence.
Second, not seeking perfection.
Strengthening self-confidence should not be a painful thing. Don't try to be confident for the sake of confidence. Also, never idealize everything. Allow yourself to be a person who sometimes makes mistakes. People who think they can't do it are usually people who have set lofty goals in all aspects of life. I sometimes have this kind of thought, and I always feel that it is not good here and there is a problem. The reason why I think so is nothing more than asking too much of myself. What was the result? Confidence is less than half. It is important to give yourself a chance and not seek perfection.
Third, pay attention to the outside world.
When a person lacks self-confidence, he often focuses on himself. Once you focus on yourself, it's easy to think about every detail and be afraid of problems. At this moment, the more afraid of problems, the more problems. A problem is like a deflated ball. We often see this situation on the court. Always thinking about winning, always thinking about how to be sorry for the audience and the country if you can't play well. Everyone is thinking about it, but they don't want to kick the ball in front of them. Finally, their feet won't listen to them. Not only can't they score, but they will also lose. Remember, confident people tend to pay attention to themselves, while unconfident people always think about themselves.
Fourth, refuse to lose blood.
We all know that there is a kind of person who, as soon as he comes to everyone, vent his bad feelings and even belittle the people around him until everyone present is dumbfounded. Some people already feel inferior, and with this ridicule, what little self-confidence they have is gone. Some people call this kind of people "vampires", who specialize in sucking the "blood" that doesn't provide you with oxygen in your heart. How can you live without "blood" carrying oxygen? Without confidence, how can people move forward? For you, your only choice is to stay as far away from such people as possible. Don't hate them and don't judge them, as long as you know that such people are not good for improving your quality of life. In short, don't deal with such people.
Fifth, seize the opportunity.
What you were worried about before, you can try it in another way, don't go all the way to the dark, don't hit the south wall and never look back. It can be said that most people who lack confidence are very stubborn people. Don't let anyone convince you, even if you hit the south wall, you may not meet your head. If you are not so stubborn, sign up for a class or join a health club to exercise. Change your life, even a little. There is a classic advertisement that changes are always good. As you change, your self-confidence will also increase. Share a circle of friends and let friends grow together!
Sixth, pay attention to pay.
There is an old saying that you have to pay first to get it. Remember this sentence, if you want to gain something in life, you have to pay first. For example, making friends, if you want to get help or advice from friends when you need it most, then help others more in peacetime. When dealing with people, try to make people think that you are a confident and valuable person. Help others build confidence, and you will get the same thing. Call it karma or equivalent exchange. In a word, it works. Try it if you don't believe me.
Seventh, learn to forgive.
Many people are very strict with themselves and don't know how to forgive their past behavior. If you indulge in past failures or mistakes, then your self-confidence will not be much left. The correct way is to admit your mistakes or mistakes and then forget them all. Similarly, if there is someone in your life who needs your forgiveness, forgive him. Forgiving others is not for others, but for yourself.
Eighth, the answer is yes.
Always ask yourself some questions, and then your answer is "I am confident". Over time, it will be good for you to enhance your self-confidence. This is called positive psychological suggestion. If you don't believe me, you can find a book to explain psychological hints and do it according to the method introduced in the book to see if it works. However, if you ask the question "Why am I so confident", you may get better results. Do you know what happened here? Subconscious. You know, although the subconscious mind is simple, it can play a role. When you ask yourself this question, the subconscious will immediately start to work and find the answer, and it will report to you in a quite confident way.
Ninth, lead by example.
Another way to enhance your self-confidence is to find a super-confident person to be your role model. If you can make friends with a very confident person, so much the better. As the saying goes, those who are near Zhu Zhechi are black. Always be with happy people, and you will be happier. Always be with confident people, and you will have strong self-confidence. Don't forget, psychological emotions are also contagious. If you can't make such friends, find a confident actor or celebrity to read, and then follow their example and learn from them. Study their behavior. Do it several times a week, and their confident way will affect you. Over time, you will become a confident person.
Tenth, learn to be grateful.
Will thank others or their own people, peace of mind, peace of mind will produce self-confidence Learn to list the things you are grateful for, especially the advantages or qualities that make you stand out. Maybe you are a great swimmer, or you are good at math and healthy. Either you are an excellent dancer, or you have an extraordinary sense of humor, or you are good at designing, or you are a singer, or you are a very good friend, or you have some other positive qualities. Find out the good things about you, and then thank those excellent qualities one by one. Thanks for your excellent qualities will enhance your self-confidence and help you establish a good image, which is crucial to your success in life.
Disadvantages of lack of self-confidence 3 First of all, we should know our strengths and weaknesses.
Find some small cards and divide them into two colors: one represents advantages and the other represents disadvantages. Write down an advantage and a disadvantage on each card. Then check which advantages are not played out and how to play them out; What shortcomings can you ignore? Get rid of these neglected and unnoticed shortcomings. So you won't protect yourself too much, and then you will find that your advantages outweigh your disadvantages. This will enable you to concentrate on your strengths and overcome your weaknesses.
Second, focus on your own advantages and don't always think about your own shortcomings.
Give full play to your strengths and you will naturally do well in your work. And your own achievements, big or small, can enhance your self-confidence.
Third, don't blame others too much.
If you often criticize others in your letters, it may become a habit. We should gradually overcome this shortcoming, and always criticizing others is a sign of unconfidence.
Fourth, self-appreciation and self-motivation.
List clearly on paper the work you have accomplished or the achievements you are proud of, and let yourself enjoy it. At this time, you will suddenly find that you have a hundred times of courage and are sure that your ability to do things is better than others. Sometimes, others may not notice what you feel obvious. When you blush when you speak in front of people, your audience may only see the blush and wetness on your cheeks, which is very pleasant. In fact, your embarrassment is hard for others to find.
Keep close contact with friends who appreciate you.
Because they know you and have confidence in you, once you doubt your ability, they will do their work in a targeted way so that you will not lose your determination to finish things.
6. Learn from failures and mistakes.
Failure is also a good thing. Learning to learn from failure can enhance wisdom and increase the chances of turning failure into victory. You should be brave enough to be caught by it and look for ways to deal with it with a positive attitude.
Seven, determine the goal, stick to it.
No matter what kind of confidence you take, you should stick to it. Set a goal and follow your own path, and you will succeed.
Eight, speed up your walking by 25%
Physical exercise is the result of mental activity. Using this "25% faster" technology can help you build confidence. Walk faster with your head held high and you will feel more confident.
Nine, have something to say loudly.
Shy people speak very quietly. You might as well raise your voice, and you will be more convinced of your right to speak.
Ten, laugh heartily
Laughter can not only prolong life, but also increase wisdom. It is a good medicine for treating lack of confidence. People often frown when encountering setbacks and failures, but if you try to laugh, it can give you confidence and drive away fear, anxiety and depression. Open your mouth and laugh, and you will feel that "the good days are coming again."