This is my reading experience. Let's share it with each other. I hope it will help you, adopt it. Grandmother Jia is very kind to Daiyu. First of all, I will analyze the reasons why you think Jia Mu is not good to Daiyu. We believe that grandmother's unkindness to Daiyu began with Baoyu Baochai's marriage, and Daiyu died of heartburn and vomiting blood. Yes, it's unfair to Daiyu. If that's the case, Grandmother Jia is really bad for Daiyu. But please note that this is the plot of the last forty chapters. As we all know, the last forty chapters were not written by Cao Xueqin, but continued by Gao E.
I don't think Gao E's continuation of this plot is in line with Cao Xueqin's original intention. Gao E is also an equal reader of A Dream of Red Mansions with us, and he has no right to draw conclusions for Cao Xueqin. Next, let's talk about the relationship between Jia Mu and Dai Yu in my heart. Grandmother Jia loves Daiyu very much and hopes that Baodai and Daiyu will be combined. After Daiyu entered the Jia family, the Jia family left her to live with herself, and other ladies in the Jia family could not enjoy this treatment. Baoyu lives with Grandmother Jia. Isn't it obvious that Jia Mu set them up? Because Daiyu was favored by Grandmother Jia, Mrs. Wang felt a sense of crisis. Although I dare not contradict Mrs. Jia, I always obey her duty.
Mrs. Wang always wanted Baochai to marry Baoyu, and soon Aunt Xue came back with her daughter and lived in Jia's house. Is it a coincidence? Absolutely not. Aunt Xue and Mrs. Wang also spread the words of good marriage from time to time, which created the basis of public opinion for Baochai and Baoyu's marriage. In fact, in this marriage defense war, all three people are victims of the power struggle. If you pay attention to the power structure of Jiafu, you will find that the decision makers of Jiafu's internal affairs are Jia Mu, Mrs. Wang and Wang Xifeng respectively. Jia mu is old. If Jia Mu dies, the power of Jia Fu will all fall into the hands of the Wangs. The shrewd Jia will never let go of this relationship, so she will never recruit Jia Fu from Aunt Xue's daughter to be a granddaughter.
Daiyu is his granddaughter, but Baochai is not. Jia Mu loves her daughter, me, dogs and Daiyu. Because Daiyu's life experience is poor, she takes good care of her. Therefore, it is wrong for Gao E to write that Jia Mu agreed to Baochai's marriage with Jia Fu. I want to give some evidence about Jia Mu's insistence on fixing Baodai to get married. First, after Daiyu entered Jiafu, many people in Jiafu made fun of Baodai and Daiyu.
Wang Xifeng is no exception. She once said to Daiyu, "You ate our tea, why don't you be our daughter-in-law?" It stands to reason that Wang Xifeng should help Mrs. Wang of menstruation fulfill her cousin Baochai's marriage. But she didn't. She firmly believes that Daiyu will marry Baoyu. Isn't it because the old lady loves treatment?
Second, Wang Xifeng used it to settle Jia's economic deficit. She thought that the big item of spending money in the future did not include Bao Dai's wedding money, because the grandmother would take out her own money to arrange their marriage without touching public property. Even Feng, who has always been famous for her work, thought Baoyu and Daiyu would get married, and the old lady paid for it herself. Doesn't this prove that the old lady loves Daiyu?
I'm a little confused. Does the Jia in A Dream of Red Mansions really love Daiyu?
You can doubt whether Xi-feng really loves Daiyu, and whether the Lady Dowager really loves Baochai. But grandma must love Daiyu. First of all, Jia Min is her only daughter, and she loves Jia Min best. Jia Min died young. Love me, love my dog, and pity for Daiyu's loss of her mother in her childhood naturally hurt her. Secondly, many places in the original work have written about how grandma loves Daiyu. When Daiyu first entered the Jia family, she moved into the Jia family and lived with Baoyu. She is as well dressed as Baoyu, compared with her granddaughter. When Baoyu and Daiyu quarreled, Grandmother Jia said with emotion that Daiyu and Baoyu were the same in her heart. Otherwise, how can they be compared? Why didn't I see that she was Baochai and Sichun? Jia once told Aunt Xue that none of the four girls in our family can compare with Baochai, let alone compliment her. Jia regards Daiyu as his own daughter, Baochai is someone else's child, and no matter how good other people's children are, they are also their own children. What's more, Daiyu is not inferior to Baochai, and her literary talent and appearance are top-notch. As for personality, Jia likes Xifeng Qingwen Yuanyang, who has a glib tongue and aura. Daiyu's character is also temperament to Jia, with four corners, sleek and dignified. Even though she appreciates it, Jia certainly doesn't like it. Just like grandma Liu went to Baochai's house and Xuedong when she entered the Grand View Garden, Jia said that the girl's house was too plain and naive. I guess you have such doubts because in the end they secretly married Baochai to Baoyu, and Daiyu died with a grudge. But but! ! Cao Gong didn't write this! ! ! Even if the Lady Dowager refuses to let Daiyu, who is weak in health, marry Baoyu for the sake of the future of Jiafu, she must never watch Daiyu die, for fear of bad luck.
Why did the Lady Dowager first meet Daiyu in Ningguo Mansion?
Jia's mother lives in Guo Rongfu, Lin Daiyu's mother is the daughter of Shi Taijun, and Jia's wife prefers Guo Rongfu, so Guo Rongfu's status is higher than Ningguo's. The status of Ningguo Mansion is higher than that of Guo Rongfu, and it is also called "East Mansion" in the book. The main story of A Dream of Red Mansions takes place in Guo Rong Building. The ancestor of Rongguofu is Jia Mu, and the eldest son is Jia She, a hereditary first-class general. The youngest son is Jia Zheng, a member of the Ministry of Industry and the Ministry of Foreign Affairs. He is a small official, but Jia Jia prefers the youngest son, so Jia Zheng is the master of Guo Rong's family. The owner of Ningguo Mansion is Jia Zhen, a third-class general and the head of the Jia family.
How did Jia Mu predict the fate of Lin Daiyu?
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The criteria for Jia Mu to marry Baoyu are beauty and good character. The door is the second best. Of course, it is better to have the right mix, which is the icing on the cake. Daiyu is measured by two standards: beauty and good character.
Number one, there's nothing to say. Daiyu's appearance can be said to be quite beautiful, not just beautiful, enough to deserve Baoyu. The book said that she: "Two bends are like a frown, and a pair of eyes seem to be happy but not happy; It is a disease to have two sorrows; Tears a little, breath slightly; When it's quiet, it's like a dumpling flower shining on the water, and when it's moving, it's like a weak willow The heart is a little more than the stem, and the disease is not as good as the west. "How beautiful Dai jade looks! Two shallow eyebrows like mofei ink wrinkles, a pair of watery almond eyes like joy but not joy, full of affection; Touching modality comes from a sad face, while delicate modality comes from a delicate body. Clever than dry, beautiful than beautiful. How rare do you think such a beautiful woman is? Is it more beautiful than an out-of-touch fairy? Therefore, from the appearance, Daiyu definitely meets the standards set by Jia Mu.
The reason why Mrs. Jia didn't choose Daiyu in the end was because Daiyu's character was not up to standard. I think the standards mentioned by Jia Mu should be roughly as follows:
First, the character is gentle and considerate. Daiyu can't reach this point. Daiyu's personality is small and easy to get angry. Maybe she can be gentle sometimes, but not considerate, but Baoyu is very considerate to her. Knowing that Baoyu and Daiyu were always at odds, Grandmother Jia got angry and quarreled, and sometimes made a scene until Grandmother Jia came out. Sometimes, she is so angry that she even calls them enemies. Two people get angry and fight, which is nothing when they are young. It is normal for children to play and fight together. Sometimes they run together and have a good time before their tears run dry. But it's different when you grow up. Two people want to live together, which is related to their happiness, especially Baoyu's life. Nowadays, we pay attention to equality between men and women. In feudal society, men were superior to women, and Jia Mu's thoughts were open again. The idea that men are superior to women may not be too serious, but it does exist. Women serve men, serve men, serve men well, and make their men feel at ease and healthy in their careers, which is also the dependence of women all their lives. It is impossible for Daiyu to serve Baoyu tenderly and tenderly. On the other hand, Baoyu served Daiyu almost as well. And if a man spends all his energy on housework and serving women, how can he do his career? Without a successful career, how can one stand in society? How to pay homage to ancestors? Grandmother Jia knew that Baoyu and Daiyu were so noisy before they got married. In the future, after they get married, Daiyu's sexual ability will be worse. How can her precious grandson stand it? Therefore, although the Lady Dowager knew that Daiyu loved Baoyu deeply, she would not fulfill them both.
The second is to respect the elders and live in harmony with others. When a woman gets married, she is no longer an independent individual. She should take the responsibility of being a daughter-in-law, honor her elders, live in harmony with her peers and servants, and unite with people around her, so that your life can be harmonious and sweet. If your in-laws are dissatisfied with you, your sister-in-law and brother-in-law can't handle the relationship well, and the servant says that you are not good all day, then your life will not be harmonious and beautiful, and it will definitely affect your husband. Officials, in particular, have a large population and complicated relationships. Just like a small society, it is difficult to handle personnel relations well and flow. Let's look at Daiyu's human relations. Jia mu has no problem with her, which is also because Jia mu is her own granddaughter. Mrs. Wang, the future mother-in-law, is enthusiastic about Daiyu on the surface, but cold inside. Aunt Zhao also avoided Daiyu. Among her peers, Daiyu's relationship with Baochai, Xiangyun and Miaoyu is not very good, but rather tense. Baochai and Xiangyun, in particular, are often bickering, angry and awkward. Even the relationship with Yingxi Sanchun is lukewarm. Daiyu is even more unpopular with the people below. Her language is sharp, and the maids all went to Baochai's place and didn't want to play with Daiyu. Daiyu is still very stingy, but the responsibility lies with herself. Seeing that Daiyu was unpopular, Grandmother Jia dared not marry her to Baoyu. If they get married, Baoyu will be alienated from everyone and become a loner.
Third, you should have a good hand at needlework, sewing and painting dragons and embroidered phoenixes, which should be almost affordable. A well-off family doesn't have to do rough work on and off the kang, but it can't be needlework at all. Daiyu usually likes to recite poems and read casual books. She may embroider some flowers, but she is certainly not as skilled as Baochai.
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Which do you like better, Lin Daiyu or Xue Baochai in A Dream of Red Mansions? Why?
Of course, I like Lin Daiyu. It is Mrs. Wang who likes Xue Baochai. Lin was born to his beloved daughter and has a very close relationship with her. However, Xue originally entered the palace draft, but was not selected, so she settled for the second best. Mrs. Wang and Aunt Xue want to turn her into Baoyu's wife. However, Jia Mu disagreed, but no one made it clear. According to Cao Xueqin's original intention, Baoyu and Xue became relatives after his mother died. In fact, Jia Jia had already seen the motives of Mrs. Wang and Aunt Xue. Jia Jia didn't tell you about the dip? She said that Baoyu's future wife, rich or poor, doesn't matter, as long as she looks good. Isn't this rich Xue? Isn't it Lin who has no money? This means that Lin has no money, but she looks fine. She has to marry Baoyu at her own expense. But only you can understand these words, hehe, Cao Xueqin (or people at that time) can't make it clear.
Why didn't the Lady Dowager finally marry Daiyu to Baoyu?
It should be said that among grandchildren, Jia Jia loves Baoyu the most for boys and Daiyu the most for girls. Not to mention why I love Baoyu the most, now let's talk about why I love Daiyu the most. There are Daiyu, Baochai, Xiangyun, Baoqin, yingtan Xi Sanchun and Xing Xiuyan in the Grand View Garden. Among these granddaughters, Lady Jia loves Daiyu the most. Why does Lady Jia love Daiyu the most? First of all, when Dai came for the first time, she put Daiyu in the blue gauze cabinet nearest to Grandmother Jia. When Daiyu didn't come, only Baoyu could enjoy this treatment, and others, such as Ying Sanchun and Jia Huan, could not enjoy it. Daiyu came and enjoyed the same treatment as Baoyu. Compared with other grandchildren, my grandmother loves Daiyu more. Secondly, in terms of service personnel, there are also concessions. When Daiyu came, she only brought two people, one was Sister Wang and the other was Xueyan, a ten-year-old maid. Grandmother Jia saw that Xueyan was young, but she was not young. She is four years older than Daiyu, and Mammy Wang is very old. In the same situation that other service staff welcomed Sanchun, they gave her a second-class maid, Ying Ge. Grandmother Jia gave all the maids in the room to others, only Baoyu and Daiyu. Xiren and Qingwen were originally used by the old lady, but later they were given to Baoyu. Now that Daiyu has arrived and given Ying Ge to Daiyu, it can be seen that my grandmother loves Daiyu more than anyone in her grandchildren except Baoyu. Why does Grandmother Jia love Daiyu? First of all, it goes without saying that Baoyu is his grandson and Daiyu is his granddaughter and daughter. By blood, she must have kissed Baochai, Baoqin and Xiangyun. Xiangyun is also her granddaughter, but not her own brother's granddaughter, but an uncle's granddaughter, which is bound to go further than Daiyu. Baochai and Baoqin are only daughters of the daughter-in-law Mrs. Wang's sister, and they can't be compared with Daiyu Xiangyun at all. You know, blood is always thicker than water. Secondly, when Daiyu was a child, her parents died and she was lonely, which made people feel sympathy, not to mention her grandmother's sympathy. Sanchun, Baochai, Baoqin and so on. Everyone has their own parents or siblings to get together, or at least one relative around. Although Shi Xiangyun's parents are gone, she is much better than Dai Yu because she is embarrassed to live with her aunt and uncle. Jia mu has a kind heart. She has compassion for ordinary poor people, not to mention her own flesh and blood. This is why, besides Baoyu, Grandmother Jia loves Daiyu the most. At first, Grandmother Jia wanted to marry Daiyu to Baoyu. However, why did Jia later change his mind? Why did you change your mind and choose Xue Baochai? The first thing to see here is who loves Daiyu. Compared with Yingchun, Baochai and Xiangyun, Lady Jia certainly loves Daiyu the most, but if compared with Baoyu, Daiyu will come second. Why? First, under the feudal social system, it is the mainstream consciousness and concept of society that men are superior to women. In the end, men are the masters of society and family. Compared with Daiyu, Baoyu is certainly more important than Daiyu. Baoyu will be the pillar of Fu Rong in the future. Although Jia Mu has two sons-Jia She and Jia Zheng, the eldest son Jia She doesn't like it, which will inevitably affect Jia Lian's position in her heart. For various reasons, Jia Mu doesn't like her eldest son Jia She. One possibility is that Jia She is not as good as Jia Zheng. Although Jia She was the boss and impacted the position of the first-class general, she was arrogant and extravagant, and colluded with lawless people to do evil. It was because of her moral corruption that the Jia family was copied later. Jia was tired of playing, so he took his son Jia Lian as a concubine and forced Yuanyang. Jia Mu knew that Jia She was morally corrupt, but Jia Zheng was different. Jia Zheng is studious and enterprising, and is honest and upright for the officials. He is a gentleman, so to speak. Of course, Jia Zheng likes Jia Zheng. There may be another reason why Jia Mu prefers her second son Jia Zheng, that is, Yuan Fei is Jia Zhengsheng's daughter. From this perspective, Jia Mu will also like Jia Zheng better. Because it is Jia Zheng's daughter who brings incomparable glory and noble status to Jia Fu, it is understandable that Jia Jia prefers Jia Zheng. So the old lady lived in the main courtyard, leaving Jia Zheng to live in the main courtyard and his eldest son Jia She to live in the side courtyard. Because grandma doesn't like the eldest son, she likes the younger son, and because she loves me, love my dog, she certainly doesn't like Jia Lian and likes Baoyu. This is one of the reasons for loving Baoyu. Second, Baoyu looks like his grandfather Jia Daishan. This is an important reason why Grandmother Jia loves Baoyu. Entrusted by Yuan Chun, Jia Mu led the people from Rongning House to Qingxuguan to get food. Zhang Daochang of Qingxu Guan said Baoyu, "I see a person's description of his posture, words and actions ... >>"
Why didn't the Lady Dowager let Baoyu and Daiyu be together?
Mother always likes Daiyu more than Baochai, and Baoyu is her favorite. If Daiyu and Baoyu are together, she is the happiest. Whether it is family or aesthetic taste, Jia Mu prefers Daiyu. Jia Min is her only cherished daughter, and Daiyu is her only granddaughter by blood. How could she be willing to let Daiyu remarry and suffer? In the first 80 chapters of the book, it can be seen in many places that Jia Mu secretly supports Bao Dai. She really doesn't like Baochai very much, just perfunctory in front of relatives. Some explanations for grandma's refusal to let Baoyu and Daiyu be together are: Lin Daiyu is in poor health, which is not conducive to carrying on the family line. Actually, this is not a problem at all. If Baoyu married a concubine, everything would be solved, and grandma wouldn't even think of it. If we say that this is a matter of opinion, it is not a problem. The Lins are also a family with a scholarly family, while Lin Ruhai is still exploring flowers. If they are not suitable, they will not marry in the past, so the Lins and Jia families are suitable. Many things in Gao E's sequel are badly written, and the strongest supporters of Baodai's love affair are actually Jia Mu and Wang Xifeng. You only need to watch the first 80 times, and the last 40 times are of little value.
What is Jia Mu's attitude towards Lin Daiyu?
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Does Grandmother Jia really love Daiyu?
What kind of person does Jia Mu like?
She likes Xifeng.
There is no doubt that Jia Mu likes Wang Xifeng. Feng Chili peppers are lively and generous, and they can speak well. She can always make Jia Mu laugh. She is not only the head of the Jia family, but also the happy fruit of the Jia family.
Xifeng's character is by no means gentle and dignified. She was very hard on her servants, and she took great pains with her second sister Qiu Tong and others. She is greedy and heartless. However, what she presented to Jia Mu was lively, intelligent, considerate and generous. This is what Jia likes. Her personality is obviously quite different from Xue Baochai's "quiet and tranquil" personality. No matter how confused Grandmother Jia is, she can't help but see that Xifeng is not a quiet person, can she?
She likes mandarin ducks.
Grandmother Jia likes Yuanyang and can't live without it for a day. She can't eat without it. Even the white-haired son of a senior official asked her for a mandarin duck as an aunt, and she didn't give it to him. He not only refused, but also flew into a rage. Jia She didn't dare to see him for half a year, and asked Jia Lian to pay his respects every day.
What kind of person is Yuanyang?
It can be seen from the passage "Yuanyang woman swears never to be Yuanyang Europe" that she is a girl with strong personality and personality. Yuanyang grew up beside the old lady, not only with a bunch of maids such as Yuanyang, Amber, Zijuan and Cuilv, but also with the old lady's girl. If Jia Jia likes her gentle and dignified personality, can these girls develop such changeable personalities one by one? Zijuan helped Daiyu express her thoughts and took care of Daiyu like a sister, which was not a female slave in the traditional requirements at all. Follow that auspicious cloud, as innocent and lively as Xiangyun; Even Amber, who rarely shows up, feels that Baoyu or Daiyu will be jealous when they see that Baoqin is extremely loved by the grandmother. A few words show the image of a girl with naive words and no scheming.
No wonder Feng teased the old lady and said, "Who taught the old lady how to adjust people? How can she complain that someone wants it? "
She likes Qingwen.
Qingwen's appearance is needless to say. "Cut shoulders, snake waist, demon overseas Chinese", "eyebrows are a bit like sister Lin". She is a charming girl with a straightforward personality. Mrs. Wang hates her guts and drives her back to find the grandmother. Grandmother Jia said, "I think Qingwen is very good. None of these girls are as clever as her, and only she can be used by Baoyu in the future. " When Mrs. Wang heard this, she made up a lot of lies, saying that Qingwen was "musical", "not too heavy" and "had a daughter tuberculosis". I said a lot to coax Jia Mu. Hearing this, Jia Jia had to stop.
However, she likes Qingwen, but it is certain.
Baoqin is "young and enthusiastic" and very cute. Jia Mu was very happy when she saw it. She asked Aunt Xue about Baoqin's birthday. Aunt Xue probably wanted to match Baoyu, so she had to tell Baoyu that Baoqin had been betrothed.
This passage has been noticed by readers now. Grandmother Jia asked Baoqin clearly, but secretly refused Baochai. Baoqin and Li Wan's menstruation and Mrs. Xing's niece went to Beijing. The three families walked all the way, and Baoqin has been betrothed to others. Will Jia Mu not know? At this time, I said that I have been married for several years. Xue Baochai is a girl of seventeen or eighteen, and Baoyu is sixteen. If Jia Mu agrees to this marriage, what does she have to wait for? Why do you ask about your birthday? Who was promised?
Almost all the girls that Jia Mu likes are the same kind of people, who are straightforward, smart and lively, and have a glib tongue. These girls all have a faint shadow of Daiyu.
Grandmother Jia showed Granny Liu around the Grand View Garden, and the first one was Daiyu's Xiaoxiang Pavilion. What does this mean?
More importantly, the last forty chapters of A Dream of Red Mansions were written with high jaw, which did not meet Cao Xueqin's wishes. Cao Xueqin probably conceived this way: Daiyu died (although it is difficult to guess how), but Baoyu married Baochai. This is not what Jia Mu likes.
Why does the Lady Dowager object to Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu being together?
First of all, we must affirm Lin Daiyu's talent and beauty. She and Baoyu are indeed the same kind of people, but for Jia Mu, things are not so simple. In the social environment at that time, marriage must be suitable, and Daiyu was the initiator. Although her mother is Jia's favorite daughter, her father is just a small official, not very powerful, so her family background is not as good as Xue Baochai's, and she was born in the Xue family in Jinling-this is one thing. Moreover, Daiyu is weak, sometimes she is really mean, and her temperament is not very good. She is not as versatile as Baochai. Baochai is a traditional good woman who only does what she should do and says what she should say. At the same time, she also has certain housekeeping means. At that time, Xifeng was sick and couldn't manage Jia's affairs, so she and Yingchun managed the garden in an orderly way. Through a series of measures, Jia's situation was greatly improved. In contrast, Daiyu has a heart in this respect, but she is also powerless. The other is the so-called "golden marriage". Grandma knew that Baoyu needed a gold hairpin to marry him, in order to get rid of the ghost that haunted Baoyu (usually thanks to his spiritual protection, and later Baoyu lost it). To sum up, the grandmother Jia will definitely let Baoyu marry Baochai, and it is self-evident that she opposes Baoyu and Daiyu.