There are thousands of marriages, but the biggest pain for women is domestic violence. Women who encounter domestic violence not only lose confidence in love, but also suffer physical pain and mental torture. When their hearts are devastated, they dare not make a decisive choice before marriage. They think that as long as they endure, they can compromise. As we all know, the best way to liberate after domestic violence is to break up decisively, otherwise the perpetrators will get worse.
On the afternoon of May 2 1, a domestic violence video was circulated on the Internet, causing an uproar among netizens. In this era of celebrity violence, there are countless cases of domestic violence in ordinary people's homes. We hate those savage men who can swing their fists mercilessly, and we are more sympathetic to those poor female victims.
How can we avoid all this? It is best to see the essence of this man before marriage. Men who are prone to domestic violence tend to behave in one way or another. Therefore, those unmarried women should keep their eyes open before marriage.
Seeing such news, Xiaoman couldn't help thinking of her past and the man who was cruel to her. Every time I think about it, she will feel tinnitus in her left ear and severe pain in her back caused by blunt instrument. But Xiaoman was lucky that she had not married him at that time. As long as she tries her best to break up with him and never contact him again, she will be free.
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Those women who encounter domestic violence in marriage are much more painful than Xiaoman. While suffering physically and mentally, Xiaoman thought that if he has the ability, he should also write his own experience to keep more women away from rude men and injuries.
Xiaoman was first moved by this man because of his enthusiasm for her. Xiaoman's father was hospitalized with a sudden cerebral infarction, and Xiaoman was at a loss. Before that, she never felt that her strong father would suddenly fall ill. She panicked and quickly sent a circle of friends to ask for help.
Xiaoman's father got sick at eleven o'clock in the morning. Of all my friends, only the man named Hong Gang drove to the hospital for nearly an hour. In fact, Xiaoman and he are just ordinary friends, and through this incident, Xiaoman has a great affection for him, even a sense of dependence.
With the diligent help of Hong Gang, Xiaoman successfully sent his father to the hospital and went through all the formalities. The doctor said that because they came in time, Xiaoman's father was basically fine, as long as he paid attention to rest and diet. After several days in hospital, Hong Gang appeared at the door of the ward when he was discharged on time. He took it as his responsibility to bring Xiaoman's father home.
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With this experience, Xiaoman's dependence on Hong Gang is increasing day by day, and Hong Gang seems to be able to give Xiaoman everything he wants. His work place is not close to Xiaoman's home, but he can always appear in front of Xiaoman when she needs it most. Xiaoman has no reason to refuse a man who is so enthusiastic about himself.
However, after becoming boyfriend and girlfriend, Xiaoman gradually felt uncomfortable. Every time I receive a phone call from a friend, Honggang always asks Xiaoman who the other person is. If it was a woman, Hong Gang wouldn't say anything. If the other person is a man, Hong Gang will always get to the bottom of it. Xiaoman became more and more disgusted with Honggang's sensitive and suspicious behavior, and she began to wonder, is this a gain or loss in her feelings? Is this Hong Gang's distrust of her or self-distrust?
Xiaoman tried to introduce Honggang to her friends, but Honggang was always silent at the party. He doesn't like to communicate with Xiaoman's friends, and he also shows impatience. Seeing this, Xiaoman hastily ended his party with friends and went home early. Xiaoman told Hong Gang that if she didn't like her friends, she couldn't attend the party in the future, but Hong Gang said sternly that Xiaoman was not allowed to associate with her friends in the future. They are all boastful people. What is the significance of association?
Xiaoman thinks that what Hong Gang did is because of his inner inferiority. Among Xiaoman's friends, he is not outstanding. He looks average, works average, and his family conditions are worse than her friends. But Xiao Man was deeply moved by Honggang's desperate efforts to help their father and daughter. She was attracted by Honggang's kindness to her, and she didn't care about other conditions.
However, only after in-depth contact will you know whether a person is suitable for you. Xiaoman is extroverted and has many friends, while Hong Gang is not only introverted, but also has some inferiority. He is worried that he is not as good as Xiaoman's friends, and even more afraid that he is not worthy of Xiaoman in the eyes of others. Therefore, he has repeatedly asked Xiaoman not to always meet and chat with friends, and it is best to completely cut off contact. Xiaoman will naturally stick to her principles. Of course she has the right to make friends, Hong Gang.
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In a fierce quarrel, Hong Gang raised his hand. When his hand fell on Xiaoman's left face, Xiaoman knew in her heart that her relationship with Hong Gang had been broken. At the beginning, it was too hasty to accept a man easily because he was kind to himself.
Xiaoman seriously recalled Hong Gang's character. He is sensitive, suspicious, silent, self-abased, and depressed at work. Such a man is prone to temper tantrums in life, but he dare not vent on others, only attacking the weak women at home. These characteristics all prove the man's tendency to domestic violence, and she should have seen it long ago.
Fortunately, she and Hong Gang just tried to get together and didn't get married, otherwise she would have a more tragic ending. Xiaoman hopes that more women can stare at a man before deciding to associate with him, so that many things can be prevented before they happen.