This situation is very common in marriage. What is the appropriate age difference between men and women? How to understand numerology?
First of all, marriage is fundamentally a kind of fate, which can be met but not sought. It is often said that there is no love and hate for no reason in the world. From the perspective of reincarnation, the reason why two people in the vast sea of people can get to know each other and love each other must be that they have met and fallen in love in this life. From a modern point of view, there must be messages of mutual appreciation, mutual attraction and resonance at the same frequency. Some have the same "smell", some have complementary advantages and so on. When men and women first began to have a good impression, it was your love and my wish, without any conditions attached, so the feeling at that time was accurate and pure, which was a good foundation for falling in love or getting married in the future.
Secondly, from the perspective of numerology, there is no age limit for men and women to get married. In China, 12 is generally regarded as a small cycle of time, so people below 12 are peers, and it is easy to have feelings in this category. Most couples in China are in this age group, which is the first mating area. If the difference is 12 years old to 24 years old, although it is two small reincarnation, it is also within the scope of emotional, and this kind of couple is not uncommon. This is the second mating area. If the difference is over 24 years old and belongs to two generations, the probability of feelings is relatively low. If there is, it is also because I forgot to make friends, fell in love when I was young, or some objective factors. This is the third mating area.
These three mating areas have their own mating characteristics. Even in the first district with a difference of 12 years, not all ages are suitable for marriage, and there are unfortunate facts about marriage. According to relevant statistics, the highest divorce rate occurred in 12 years old. However, the divorce rate in the other two high-age marriage areas is very low. In reality, young people with a small age gap, uncompromising, unconvinced and not understanding each other, are the primary factors leading to marital misfortune; And because of the uncertainty of young people, they often have empathy, do whatever they want, and have extramarital affairs. This is also a factor that leads to the unfortunate marriage; Because they have young capital, they think that love can start again, and they don't cherish fate and established marriage, which eventually leads to the tragedy of divorce; Then, the economic foundation of both sides is unstable, and the pressure of work and life is too great, which leads to psychopathy or emotional out of control. Couples often quarrel because of trivial things in life, and finally hurt their feelings, thus parting ways.
Comparatively speaking, couples with a big age gap, because of their mature and stable age, relatively good psychological quality and economic foundation, are not easily moved by external feelings, know how to cherish love, love, tolerate and tolerate, and the younger ones are extremely favored, less worried about life, easy to enjoy the happiness of marriage, and also infected with the older ones, so they tend to live happily and share joy, so the marriage rate is very unhappy.
Traditionally, in ancient China, people didn't care much about the age gap between husband and wife. At this time, the main gatekeeper is right. The so-called "suitable for each household" generally refers to the material basis. As we all know, in the old society, there was a big age gap between many couples. Generally speaking, men are older than women, and there are many men and women in the second mating area. This is because of the influence of traditional ideas and numerology. In a sense, the reason why the gap of marriage age in modern society is narrowed is because of the so-called advocating new marriage concept and paying attention to gender equality. Equality between men and women is understandable, but if it is applied to marriage, it will be somewhat "unequal". This seemingly "same age" marriage has advantages and disadvantages.
In fact, in traditional marriage, the ancients had already broken through the shackles of this concept of "age equality". In numerology, the combination of heaven and earth, six in one, does not take the age gap into account, but goes with the flow and is happy with it.
According to the concept of the ancients, a perfect marriage is a superior marriage, but their ages are quite different. For example, a tiger girl in 1974 should be matched with a pig man in 1959 to form a harmony between heaven and earth, with a difference of 15 years, which belongs to the second marriage area. In reality, there are not a few couples in the second district. For example, the woman who has lived with Jin Yong for a long time is called Lin Leyi. She used to be a waitress in a hotel. She 16 years old, 27 years younger than Jin Yong, "looks beautiful and refined." Everyone secretly called her "Little Dragon Girl". They fell in love at first sight. After they got married, Jin Yong sent his little wife to study in Australia. Up to now, Jin Yong is still traveling and giving lectures with Teacher Lin. When asked how to manage the marriage at the turn of the year, he said with a smile that the most important thing is to respect each other and follow Qi Mei's example. Another example is the marriage between Li Ao and Wang Xiaotun. Wang Xiaotun is 29 years younger than Li Ao, but age has not become an obstacle to their love. After eight years of love test, Li Ao and Wang Xiaotong finally got married. There were both predictable and unpredictable storms. She is free from vulgarity and naive, and he is brilliant. They laugh at people's doubts and live truly. Although the above two couples are different in age, they share the same interest in culture and knowledge.
1996 there was another female rat, which should be matched with Niu Nan of 6 1 year, with a difference of 35 years, belonging to the third mating area. It sounds impossible, but in today's society, there are many people who are over 30 years old, such as Yang Zhenning of Weng Fan and his wife, who are 54 years old.
For many years, society has neglected the essence of marriage between men and women, only paying attention to age and forgetting the essence. The essence of marriage between men and women is not age, but happiness. Colleagues are not necessarily happy, and non-peers are not necessarily unhappy. The measure of marital happiness is not age, but whether soul mates hit it off, whether they hit it off with each other, whether they sympathize with each other, and whether they follow Qi Mei's example ... So, as long as men and women who love each other can be happy together, they don't have to care about age, and there is no need for people other than them not to understand or obstruct.
In addition, from the perspective of prenatal and postnatal care, the age gap between husband and wife is large, and the children born have high intelligence and good health. This is because the mature wisdom of the father and the healthy genes of the mother are passed on to future generations. The parents of Nobel Prize winners are over 15 years old, and the parents of Chinese godfather Confucius are over 50 years old. The smaller the age gap, just like inbreeding, the quality of the children born will be discounted, which is a well-known concept in today's society.
As for the age gap, it is the most suitable marriage. Generally speaking, the second marriage area is the most suitable, and this kind of marriage is the most stable and lasting. The first mating area is the second, and this mating is easy to change. Thirdly, there is the third mating area, which is rare.
In the first aspect, we also pay attention to the appropriate age. Habitually, they are three, five and seven years old, but this is not absolute.
If we put aside the concept of age, the most scientific numerology marriage is to pay attention to the cooperation of the five elements and avoid the punishment of the local branch. The combination is the combination of heaven and earth, and the combination of heaven and earth is one, two, three, three and five. Dizhi Liuhe is a combination of Ugliness, Yin Hai, Mao Xu, Chen You, Shen He and Wu He. The earthly branches of Liuhong are Woods Chong, Ugly Buchong, Shen Yinchong, You Mao Chong, Chen Xuchong and Hayes Chong.
The method is to look at the year of birth. For example, a boy born in Chen Bing in 1976, a girl with a heart of 8 1 is a perfect match, commonly known as a "dragon and phoenix match" and a girl of 87 Ding Mao, a boy of 82 Ren Xu and a girl of 86 Bingyin, and a boy of 7 1 Xinhai. Although the work in some years is incompatible, it may complement each other, or it may complement each other, but the local branches are also compatible, such as 85 ugly women, which can match 72 male children; 83-year-old female, can match Jia Yin 74-year-old male; 84 children, can be matched with 73 ugly men; 88-year-old female, with 8 1 year-old male; 89-year-old female can be matched with 80-year-old male of Geng Shen. Of course, this is only from the general view of that year. It will be more accurate and specific if we can combine the overall situation of the two characters, or at least combine the state of the solar columns on both sides.
To sum up, it can be seen that the essence of marriage is not quantity, but quality. The so-called quantity is the age and the number of marriages. The so-called quality is fate, feeling and tacit understanding. I believe no one wants to pursue the number of marriages. To achieve a scientific and reasonable marriage, we must first change our concepts, not only young people, but also elders, never understanding to understanding, never supporting to supporting, so as to have a real love marriage, a real free marriage and the most ideal marriage.