At a friend's gathering last weekend, someone mentioned the topic of "urging marriage", and for a moment, the atmosphere became inexplicably lively.
Friends complained about their experiences of being forced to get married. Except for a few married people, everyone else has a history of blood and tears of being forced to get married.
F said: “When I go home during the holidays, I am either going on a blind date or preparing for a blind date.”
D said: “My mother gave me a movie ticket. I was so happy, but I didn’t expect this to be a routine. She arranged for me to go on a blind date with a certain man in the movie theater. "
W said: "My relatives are more powerful and always give my WeChat ID to the blind date."< /p>
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It seems that being urged to get married is indeed a common worry for singles.
Science and Technology Ziwei Constellation Network recommends several methods for you to deal with the urge to get married, hoping to bring you some help. Of course, don’t use such stupid tricks as renting a lover to take home. Not only is it risky, it also doesn’t solve the root cause.
01. Show your attitude and seek common ground while reserving differences
When you reach the marriageable age and you refuse to complete the "task" of getting married, your parents are not sure when you will be willing to start a family of your own. , urging marriage.
Since they are unsure, then you should give them a reassurance and show your attitude - the marriage will definitely happen.
This is seeking common ground.
After you give them reassurance, your parents may ask, when exactly will you get married?
Regarding this issue, we must not make random decisions.
Tell them that you will get married as early as possible, but the "early" here is based on meeting the marriage conditions set in your mind (a suitable candidate appears; your career reaches a certain height; your material conditions reach a certain level). level, etc.).
This is a matter of reservation.
After all, most people's marriage conditions are achievable. Faced with these achievable pre-marriage preparations, parents have confidence in their hearts, and perhaps the frequency and intensity of urging marriage will be reduced.
Applicable parents: Taurus, Gemini, Cancer
02. Show strength, be confident and optimistic
Parents urge you to get married, mostly because they hope you can be happy. And they think that you are not enough to achieve happiness with the strength of one person, and hope that you can find a partner who can stick with you through thick and thin.
Try to analyze your parents’ mentality and understand their needs. You will understand that as your closest relative, the reason why they rush to get married is because they are worried that you will still be alone when they grow old. This will be very harmful to them. It's very cruel.
If you don’t want to make your parents feel distressed, you must take the right medicine.
Try to convince your parents that there are many ways to obtain happiness, and you are capable of pursuing happiness even without getting married. If you really don't have this ability at the moment, instead of talking back to your parents, it's better to actively improve yourself.
If you are a non-marriage person and you are indeed able to afford your personal happiness, don't be afraid to show your strength to your parents.
Perhaps this method cannot fully meet your parents’ expectations, but in the end they will settle for the next best thing and choose to accept the reality that you are not getting married.
Applicable parents: Aries, Leo, Virgo
03. Give negative examples and be reasonable
If you cannot get married hastily, you must want to wait for the best life partner Show up and get married to the right person. This
is a sign of responsibility for oneself.
Think about it, are there any examples around you that have fallen into painful marriages due to hasty marriages? When parents urge marriage, using these examples as negative teaching materials is definitely a powerful "means" to deal with the urge to get married.
Tell your parents that you can live your life carelessly and choose anyone to marry, but the result of doing so is likely to be that you will face a failed marriage.
As your parents, they cannot bear to bet on your future.
For your future, I believe your parents are willing to give you some time to find true happiness.
Applicable parent groups: Libra, Capricorn, Pisces
04. When faced with pressure, raise questions
If the above three tricks don’t work, it’s time to resort to the last resort Recruited.
Parents press for marriage endlessly, and even use extraordinary means to force marriage. At this time, there is no need to argue. You can ask your parents: "If I find someone to marry just to deal with you, my future marriage life will not be happy." , ended up in divorce, can you be responsible for this?"
Your parents may be speechless when they hear such questions, and their morale will inevitably be damaged, but your purpose is not to do so. Confronting them until they are speechless is just to elicit the following explanation.
Tell your parents patiently that although the marriage you choose may not be 100% happy, because it is your choice, you will be more willing to put effort into managing it.
On the contrary, if you accept someone you don't want to accept against your will, you will have little patience and resilience to adjust and manage when problems arise in your marriage.
Applicable parent groups: Scorpio, Sagittarius, and Aquarius
When parents urge marriage, they will have antagonism with their parents and quarrel when they open their mouths. Not only will the problem not be solved, but the quarrel will also lead to impulsive emotions. , using harsh words is harmful to both parties.
If you still can't stop your parents' blind date arrangement, then ask your parents to get the other person's birth date and horoscopes to calculate the purple and micro horoscopes for the marriage between the two of you. "The horoscopes don't match" - this way, your parents won't force you!
Of course, if you meet someone with a very high compatibility index, Zi Xiaoxian still recommends that you get along and have a look. After all, it is not easy to find someone who is very compatible with your natal chart in the vast sea of ??people.
If you are passing by, don’t miss it easily! If a beautiful marriage is achieved, wouldn't it solve the parents' anxiety once and for all?