It is also important to learn from Buddhism and practice, and it is also important to talk less. Nonsense, empty talk, lies, miscellaneous words, dirty words, bad words and lies can all be summarized as "gossip". Why do you want to talk less?
First of all, practitioners should keep a pure heart. Practice is to cultivate one's self-cultivation, cultivate one's mind and cultivate one's nature, and it is also very important to cultivate one's mouth. Seeing some monks and great virtues, they usually talk very little, and only teach a few words when they talk about practice; They are almost silent when talking about worldly things and other things. They will not dig their brains and distract their attention in order to continue the dialogue, which violates the purity of practitioners.
In addition to keeping your heart clean, it is also important to talk less at ordinary times to protect our dental industry. Many people chat, chat, and they will talk about others, and then they will talk about the right and wrong of others, and unconsciously create a career. Practitioners should pay attention to "keeping a good job and not mocking others", so as not to let the hard-earned blessings be lost from words, and to cut off the good karma and good karma on the Bodhi road to a greater extent. Moreover, people often say that "disaster comes from the mouth", talk less, stay away from right and wrong, prevent evil and avoid unnecessary troubles and disasters.
In Buddhist language, it is said that "people are flat and speechless, and the hierarchy does not flow", and the Book of Changes also says that "Ji people talk less". Ordinary people like to gossip, in fact, because they have a heavy habit of greed, ignorance and suspicion. If they are true practitioners, they will always cherish their time and spend their energy listening to the scriptures, reading books, chanting Buddha and worshiping Buddha, instead of wasting it on gossiping.
Master Huineng, the sixth ancestor, said in the Tanjing: "I really cultivate people and have never seen the world." Ordinary people, on the other hand, have a heavy habit of worrying, complaining when things go wrong, and criticizing people when they don't like it. You can avoid these mistakes by talking less, and force yourself to overcome the habit of worrying. Gradually, you will "see no one but yourself", and gradually the center of the earth will no longer be rotated by the outside world, and your heart will naturally be more happy and less worried.
Talking less can improve one's sincerity and respect, which is what Buddhas and Bodhisattvas like, and it is a manifestation of persisting in teaching, which can get greater blessings from Buddhas and Bodhisattvas. One more sincere respect will eliminate one more sin, one more blessing and wisdom, and one more blessing from Buddha and Bodhisattva.
Goode warned us: "Speak less and speak more Buddha, you will be killed, so you can live by the law." Practitioners should talk less gossip, say more words that are conducive to unity and harmony, praise good deeds, say good words, say compassionate words, and read more Buddhist scriptures, which is conducive to their own practice and accumulate merits, which is of great help to us to learn from Buddhism!
Expert 2: I think you should not care too much about others gossiping about you behind your back, because there are only two kinds of people gossiping about you.
One is a person who has no ability. An incompetent man talks about a woman all day, evaluating a woman's dress, her morality, her past and her feelings. Needless to say, a man who is as talkative as a woman must be the kind of man who can't stay at home every day!
The second is a woman who is jealous of you.
Because you are better than her in all aspects, she can't surpass you, but he is more jealous than anyone else. He will talk about you and make irresponsible remarks in the future, which will ruin your reputation. Sometimes he even deliberately makes you look bad and says something in front of you, because she knows you are talking about yourself, and you will still care about her words. This is what she wants.
So you don't have to care too much about people who gossip about you behind your back, because people who are better than you are too lazy to pay attention to you. Only dissatisfied people will hate you, affect your mood and harass your life.
Expert 3: What if someone gossips behind my back? This is really a very disturbing thing, which not only affects mood, but also affects work efficiency and quality of life. The subject must want to know how to get rid of the gossip of villains. Then let's analyze it carefully and try to solve it.
People who like gossip.
I believe many people have seen some scenes in the movie. Groups of people gathered together, still in the alley of my old house and under the big tree in the country, where Zhang San's cow was lost, and Li Si found a mistress in the city ... Look carefully, they are all idle people, and they have nothing to do, so they talk about others behind their backs. This is idle gossip. In addition, people who can't meet their psychological expectations also like gossip. Such people always feel psychologically unbalanced. As long as they can't achieve their goals, they will turn their dissatisfaction into action and into negative remarks behind others' backs, intentionally or unintentionally.
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People who love to gossip are all negative psychologically.
Jealousy Such people look down on others who are better than themselves. Seeing others make money, he will say that others have money? Not the right way; If someone marries a beautiful daughter-in-law, they will say that the beautiful daughter-in-law can't stay; Seeing others get promoted, he will say that the higher he climbs, the heavier he falls; Even when he sees others being praised a lot for something, he will add something like fear. There are always people who don't like others, so they try their best to throw cold water on their backs and say a few bad words, all because of jealousy.
Comparative psychology. This kind of psychology usually happens to two people with equal level and competitive relationship. For example, A and B compete for a position. In order to have an advantage over the other party, A tries to say something behind B's back and even make some small moves, so that everyone can leave a brand in their hearts and think that B's character and behavior are not good, thus creating momentum for themselves. In fact, people who are capable are busy with their own affairs, and those who are incapable will be idle and injured. Only by making yourself strong will you not have this kind of comparison psychology.
Despise psychology. Such people really look down on others and always think they are strong and capable. Just like spraying all day, it is not easy to mix things. He won't stop. It is an unchangeable truth that people are not as good as people. Have you ever heard of thirty years east and thirty years west? Only modesty can make continuous progress.
Humor psychology. Such people are afraid of chaos in the world. They like to see other people's gossip in their work or life, and I am also good at and like to spread such gossip. They don't like a quiet life like water. They hope that other people's lives will often go wrong and be in a mess, so that they can sit there and watch the fire. Time is precious. Instead of wasting time here, we should spend more time with our families, take care of our children, read more books to enrich ourselves and constantly improve ourselves.
Face the gossip with a positive attitude.
Psychologically despise him. We should have strong psychological endurance and turn a deaf ear to his gossip. After a long time, he killed himself and gave up.
Beat him at work. The more I envy you, the more I gossip about you behind your back. At this time, it is necessary to break through the tight encirclement in adversity and give the sprayers a loud slap in the face with excellent work results.
Ignore him in life. Having a good life, a happy family, well-behaved children and healthy parents ... makes the sprayers have nowhere to eat.
Expert 4: The higher the tree, the bigger the shadow; The more diligent people are, the more scandals there are.
It's easy to talk with your hands behind your back.
Not being noticed by gossip means being lazy or avoiding, doing nothing or being irrelevant.
Useless people, people who are fine, can avoid and cater to gossip.
No matter who chews you and your business, what is the motivation, praise or sarcasm; Whether it is fame or praise; Whether it is fetters or flowers.
Go your own way.
Trees need wind and rain to grow, and people need an audience to have passion.
Don't get lost in gossip, encourage when you are satisfied, and urge when you are ugly.
A firm goal, although insignificant, although insignificant, although the goal has become a post for thousands of passers-by. It must be your lofty goal, such as the college entrance examination, such as love, such as the Spring Festival. ...
Since the goal is set, don't be confused by other people's wine, don't be nostalgic by other people's sweet words, and don't be picky by others.
Life is not easy. Go with the flow, some people are ignorant of you, some people are conscientious, some people giggle at you, some people are silent, some people look down on you, and some people are challenging you.
Gossip is the sea of Wang Yang, and it can't reach the vast shore, and it can't get rid of roaring and sinking.
Gossip is sticky mud. It's not innocent to rob mud. If you try your best to be clean, it will be dirtier.
Go your own way, with bumpy but flat perseverance, tortuous but ideal straight, muddy but brilliant face, snowstorm but warm heart.