We don't know how many times more we have learned and engaged in.
3. Mediocrity is the chief culprit that damages a good career. Once people fall into the state they are used to, they will lose their perception of beautiful things and their ability to adjourn.
If we feel "forced" to do something, we don't have to feel helpless or uneasy about it, because in the long run, these things may not be bad.
If you don't work hard, no one will be fair to you. Only with hard work, resources and the right to speak can we win a fair opportunity for ourselves.
"Two kinds of mistakes" cannot be committed.
Everyone has a wait for the future, a pursuit of future career, achievement and happiness.
When facing the future, we are most likely to make two mistakes: one is that we feel that there will be no great achievements in this life; The other is to assume that others will do nothing.
I made my first mistake when I was at Peking University: I judged that I had made no progress in my life, because my parents were farmers, and I was humiliated, and almost no one looked up to me and so on. Finally, he became extremely depressed and finally got tuberculosis.
Obviously, you can't make the first mistake for the simple reason that you can't choose the starting point of your life and the family where you were born. However, everyone has two legs to let you run and make you run faster. As long as you keep running, you will run out of your unexpected range.
So, remember, what we have to do is to start from the beginning and run from our point. I was arrogant at first, but I still believe that since I can struggle from a farmer's son to a student of Peking University, I can struggle from Peking University to a higher level. I believed from the bottom of my heart that I could do it, so I did it.
Some students said, "Teacher Yu, my school is quite normal. Do you think I can achieve something in the future? " Think about it. How many entrepreneurs in China have succeeded without going to college? Neither Zong Houqing of Wahaha Group nor Li Shufu of Jixiang Automobile Group went to college, so Zong Houqing became the largest beverage company in China. Isn't Li Shufu still one of the largest automobile groups in China? Geely Automobile has now acquired Volvo Cars. How do you think they achieved such success? They rely on their own concentration, their own efforts, their own hobbies and their own passions. Therefore, our love and dedication to what we have learned and engaged in is many times more important than what university you go to.
Some students say that I have no resources around me, some are the sons of ministers, and some are the daughters of party secretaries. Another classmate said that the world and society are really unfair. I don't have what others have. Look at the designer clothes he is wearing, but I don't look at them. He uses Apple computer, but I don't. He uses an iPhone, and I can't even afford a mobile phone.
However, these are not things you can complain about. Why? Because this society has never been fair. No one will be fair to you if you don't work hard. Only with hard work, resources and the right to speak can we win a fair opportunity for ourselves.
You'd better not make the second mistake. Why? You will lose a business partner who may cooperate with you in the future. For example, when you see the students around you, you may think that the last few students in the class will have no future at all, but it turns out that the opposite is true.
Peking University once made a survey of the top five and the bottom five students in the class after graduation for 20 years. The result of the survey is that the results of the last five in the class are not worse than those of the first five. The achievements of the top five students in the class are all teaching or superstition. Of course, this is not a small number, but many entrepreneurs, social activists and even politicians are all students who are not ranked well in their classes. Therefore, you must never look down on your classmates, especially those with poor academic performance.
Facing the future, there are often two kinds of people: one is that he wants to do something, and he firmly believes that he will do something in the future; There is another person who doesn't believe that he will make a difference from the bottom of his heart. What kind of people will succeed in the future? It must be the person in front.
Why? The reason is simple: how big your heart is, how far you can go. People, or eager to become a great cause, or hope to become a great entrepreneur, a great artist and so on. But why do some people do it and some people don't? Because the people who do it must believe from the heart that they can do things well in this life.
Life is like a flower that blooms all year round. Some flowers bloom in spring, some in summer, some in autumn and some in winter. The struggle of life is a lifelong process. It is too early to say whether you have achieved anything at the age of 20. Life is an endless marathon. We should fight for endurance and singleness.
In other words, the gap between you and other students is negligible. What we have to do is to work hard from now on, not be anxious or impatient, see clearly the purpose, and let our life shine brilliantly and cruelly with our goals.
Success is forced.
I think it is not difficult to write a preface to New Oriental English Magazine every month, because it is not a heavy obligation to write only one once a month. But every time the editorial department asks me for a manuscript, I feel uneasy, because I am extremely busy (mainly because of me) and I have never been able to prepare the manuscript in advance. Don't read the small preface, you can't write it after a few hours of quiet thinking. Moreover, even if you calm down, you have to be inspired to write it. People like me, who are pestered by secular firms every day, are getting more and more inspired. Sometimes after sitting for two hours, my mind is still blank.
So every time I write a preface, I secretly "resent" the people in the editorial department at my desk, hating them for always "forcing" me to submit my manuscript in the last few days, which makes me feel heavy and unwilling to eat in a relaxed day. However, it was under such repeated "coercion" that a preface was forced out, and a few years later, several books were published. Although publishing a book is entertaining, I don't expect many people to read it, and I often give it to students for free, but every time I see a beautifully bound book in front of me, I can't help but feel a sense of accomplishment. As the saying goes, no matter how ugly children are, parents will love them, and there will always be surprises in the face of their own works.
I remember when I was studying. Because I have no talent, I am forced to recite the text every time and finish the math problem every time. But all the teachers who "forced" me, I still remember them today, from the disgust when I was a child to the gratitude now.
And those teachers who didn't "force" me, especially those who indulged me, my memory is vague now, and I don't think such teachers deserve respect. In universities, teachers generally don't "force" students to study, because students have grown up and should learn to discipline themselves. But people are lazy. How many people will really "force" themselves to calm down and study in the college period when youth is flying and love is budding?
For many students nowadays, studying only means being "forced" to study hard for two weeks before the exam in order to pass the exam. Once the exam stops and the textbooks are thrown away, they will have no worries. Personally, I have a vague impression of many teachers in the university, because these teachers are basically "broad-based" teachers. No matter whether the students listen or not, there will be a paper at the end of the term, and a score will be enough. Often everyone can live.
However, there are two teachers, I still remember them vividly and feel grateful. One is our dean, Mr Li Funing, and the other is our English poetry professor, Mr Wang. Teacher Li Funing taught us the fourth book of New Concept English, which made us learn one lesson and recite another. It often embarrassed us, but it gave us a solid English foundation. Teacher Wang asked us to recite all the English poems he taught, but we were forced to recite Shelley's ode to the west wind in West Wind, but we also realized the beauty of English language more and more in recitation. Now think about it, if all the teachers are so strict with us, we may be more enterprising in college.
I recently read "I am an American Mom", which is a book about Chua Meier's parenting experience taught by overseas Chinese at Yale University. She is very strict with her two daughters, even in the cruel battlefield. From the beginning, she didn't give her children the opportunity to choose "not to try their best", and finally trained her two daughters into excellent pianists and violinists. I don't want to comment on whether these two daughters will win more in the future, but at least I can say that it is Chua Meier who "forced" her two daughters to succeed with love.
I was forced by my mother when I was a child. My mother doesn't know many words, but she makes me do my homework and read books every day. I failed in high school, and she went all over the world for help; I failed in the college entrance examination, and she asked me to take it again. Finally, I was admitted to Peking University. Therefore, if there is no strict mother, there may be no me today.
Life is never smooth sailing, and success is never easy to get. If we think we are forced to do something, we don't have to feel helpless or annoyed, because these things may not be bad from a far-reaching perspective, such as being forced by teachers to recite texts, being forced by classmates to participate in activities, being forced by bosses to work all the time, and being forced by competition to study every day. ...
Perhaps, appropriate coercion may "force" our laziness, our dullness, our courage, our future, our sense of accomplishment and happiness.
Don't take it for granted.
Habit is often the chief culprit in ruining a better life. Once people fall into a state of being used to it, they will lose their ability to perceive and experience beautiful things.
However, there are too many habits in our life: we are used to turning on the electric light in the dark to see the light; I am used to borrowing books I want to read at any time in the library; Accustomed to hearing the voices of relatives with mobile phones in any corner of the earth; I grew up accustomed to the care and love of my parents. These habits make us lose the happiness and happiness we should have in our sexual life.
Perception is the source of happiness and happiness. If you can feel the happiness of reading at school, the sense of accomplishment at work and the warmth of home when you get home, then obviously you still have the feeling of happiness and happiness. But for many people, this kind of cognition is slowly dissipating, and finally it is inevitable to fall into the habit.
We all know the saying: "If you live in the Orchid Room for a long time, you can't smell it. If you live in Abao Market for a long time, you can't smell it." Why is this happening? Because the same experience day after day will make people feel tired and bored aesthetically, and the brain has no choice but to be happy. This is the inevitable result of a physiological and psychological reflection. Regardless of people's will, they always fall into a state of paralysis or even boredom spontaneously. So, after all, how can we improve this situation and feel happy again?
The answer is: don't make good things too easy. The harder it is to get, the more you cherish it, and the longer you lose happiness. Nowadays, many children are far less happy than we were when we were young, although they are much richer materially. It is too easy for them to get one thing: buy toys if they want toys, buy mobile phones if they want mobile phones, watch movies if they want movies, and eat whatever they want. As a result, the children soon got tired of these things.
We were different when we were young. At that time, owning a toy hand or watching a movie was extremely extravagant. I remember when I was young, a relative from Shanghai came to the countryside and gave me a toy hand. As a result, this gun became my personal magic weapon and accompanied me for ten years. Until now, I can still feel the happiness and satisfaction it once brought me. When I was a child, I often walked ten miles in the dark when I was watching movies in the open air, but at that time, I felt less happy and happy than going to the cinema a hundred times now. Therefore, I am glad that I lived in the countryside since I was a child and spent my childhood and adolescent study time when kerosene lamps were lit, because it made me cherish today's life very much.
Someone told me: I never lacked anything since I was a child. I live in a rich family and live a contented life, but I lost my ability to perceive a better life in a hurry. This is what we often say, "I don't know if I am blessed." To improve this state, the best measure is to let yourself lose it first and then feel it.
How to lose first? Temporarily separate your accustomed warm home, abandon the convenient life of "turning on the switch is the light, turning on the tap is the clean water", pack your backpack, walk in the wasteland without water and electricity for three days, chew dry food in loneliness during the day, and stay in the tent timidly at night. Then, when you go home again, you will know how hateful home is and how happy your daily life is.
We can't get used to beautiful things too much, otherwise, the rest of life can only be more and more pain. Because people tend to get used to beautiful things, but the perception of pain will only become sensitive with the accumulation of years. If we don't know how to perceive happiness and happiness, we can only fill our hearts with pain and indignation.
So, let's get rid of our habits, wipe our hearts and eyes again, and truly feel the little happiness in ordinary days, so that every day can be spent in emptiness, happiness and harmony.
"A lot of people are working, working with resentment and resentment, and your work is not good. Some views on how to make things more successful. The first point is how to combine your long-term goals with your short-term goals as much as possible. We must first make clear what we want to do all our lives and what we can do at once, so that we don't have to do it. China has a saying, urgent things should be handled slowly. The more anxious you are, the more careful you are, and the better you can get things done. And the more anxious, the faster, the more you do. I think this is a big deal. The second element is to decide what you want to do with your life. Then there is another point that I think is very important, that is, the planning of time when doing things at ordinary times. Another point is that success requires self-discipline. At any time, when you face the huge temptation in front of you and any other possible temptation, if you feel that you can't stop, then don't chase that thing. Because you can't stop chasing that thing, you must be the last one to trip. "
Feeling:
This speech shows that he is good at his work and he succeeded. There are two key points: first, set long-term goals and short-term goals for yourself. On this basis, another point is to strictly enforce self-discipline to achieve the goal. This is the key to success. I also shared the things you have to do in your life, which you can do right away and never have to do again. I seem a little confused about this at the moment, but I still have to think about it. There seems to be some truth. Most of us are doing some repetitive work, which often gets half the result with half the effort. It's time for us to consider how to improve our work efficiency. Regarding the attitude towards temptation, Mr. Yu also gave us a hint, that is, "If you think you can't stop when temptation may happen, then you should never chase that thing." That is, self-discipline that can succeed. It seems easy, but people can't help themselves in Jianghu. On some occasions, there are some things that you are forced to complete. Even if it is to sacrifice the goals set by yourself, it is really not easy to do. Maybe I haven't seen the secret of success yet! I haven't really understood the true nature of this "constraint"! As Mr. Yu said, "it is the planning of time when doing things at ordinary times."
There are two ways of life. The first way is to live like grass. Although you are alive and growing every year, you are still a grass. You have absorbed the rain and dew, but people can step on you when you are young, but people will not suffer because of your pain. People won't feel sorry for you because you have been trampled, because people have never seen you themselves. Therefore, each of us should grow up like a tree. Even if we are nothing now, as long as you have the seeds of trees, even if you are trampled in the middle of the soil, you can still absorb the ingredients of the soil and grow on your own. When you grow into a towering tree, people can see you walk into you in the distance, and you can give people a piece of green. Life is a beautiful scenery. Dead or pillar, alive or dead is useful. This is each of our classmates.
Every river has its own life curve, but every river has its own dream, which is to run to the sea. Sometimes our life will precipitate. You may slowly settle down like sediment. Once you settle down, you may not have to work hard for progress, but you will never see the sun. So I suggest that no matter what your life is like now, you must have the spirit of water, accumulate strength and make breakthroughs like water. When you find that the timing is wrong, accumulate your own thickness. At that time, you can rush into the sea and achieve your own life.
In a word, the essence of Yu's inspirational speech is not something we can immediately understand, but the shock and purification of the soul is real. As a student, we should know how to study, establish the moral quality that a college student should have, and be worthy of the legacy left by our ancestors and the future of our motherland.
The great responsibility of the class! We should not only strengthen our own cultural accomplishment, but also strive to make people around us improve their personality charm in an all-round way, greatly improve the quality of China people and make the Chinese nation stronger step by step.