What kind of person you are, what kind of person you will meet, and you will naturally marry someone similar to you.
It is fate to meet thousands of miles away, but it is difficult to hold hands opposite.
As Miyazaki Hayao elaborated in "City of the Sky":
Many things are predestined, just like what kind of people you will meet, what kind of pain you will experience and how you will eventually leave this world. Nothing can change your destiny.
Everyone will meet the person who crossed Qian Shan, come to your side and share a bright future with you.
Marriage is destiny takes a hand, and these three places will tell you what it is like to hold your hand for a lifetime.
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Like-minded attraction
When people get along with each other, they must communicate. Only when the interests and hobbies are similar can we communicate smoothly.
I have seen a definition before, "What is chat and what is not chat":
Chatting is the affirmation and acceptance of each other's value, which will make the psychological distance between two people closer and closer, thus attracting.
The reason why we can't talk properly is actually because we don't agree with each other's beliefs and values. This difference makes the two people more and more unfamiliar. First, the feelings are not harmonious, then they are out of control, and finally they are unbearable.
If there is nothing to say between partners, love often dissipates in silence.
The novel records the interesting marriage life of Shen Heyun and his wife.
What Shen Fu and his wife have in common is that they are also full of love for life.
18 years old, they are married, singing with the harp, talking about poetry and books in the boudoir, enjoying the moon and drinking, talking nonsense, and painting poetry.
In a good mood, Chen Yun disguised herself as a man and went to meet her husband.
Shen Aishu is normal, and so is Chen Yun. She didn't like jewelry very much, so she gave pearls to her mother-in-law to marry her sister-in-law.
The maid felt pity. She said, "Everything is pure Yin, and pearls are the essence of pure Yin. They are used as jewelry, and Yang is all grams. Why is it expensive? " .
If the book is incomplete, it will be collected and sorted out, and it will be divided into two parts, which will be named "Incomplete Compilation of Following Jane".
The two men picked up a stone with a fairly large grain in the mountain, discussed it, folded a rockery with a rectangular basin, and made stripes on the back of the mountain, just like the stone mountain by the river. White duckweed was planted in the river mud, dill was planted on the stone, and a vine bonsai was made.
So "like-minded", why not let people envy! The so-called boudoir can be said to be more enjoyable than thrush.
This childish behavior is ridiculous and amiable, and can only be described as "romantic infatuation".
There is such a thing in "". "
People with similar interests and views are more likely to get together.
Everyone's personality and gas field are like a force field, which will always bring people and things closer to you subtly.
And this invisible force will never disappear for everyone.
People with different interests, it is difficult to understand your joys and sorrows, do not understand what you say, such a relationship is only suffering.
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The same degree of attraction
It is easier to make progress together by finding a partner at the same level.
Old people always say "they are suitable for each other", which sounds like this. In fact, there is some truth.
Not only because of the family background, but also because our concepts, consumption concepts and ways of looking at objects are all in the same direction.
Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang are examples of "every household is suitable".
Both of them are scholarly families, and behind them are noble families.
Qian Zhongshu was born in an educational family in Wuxi, Jiangsu. His uncle,, and his uncle's money;
Jiang Yang was also born in a scholarly family in Wuxi, and Yang Yinhang was a progressive scholar and jurist in the modern history of China.
Both of them are famous families in Jiangnan.
In fact, the fate of two people has been forged as early as childhood. As early as 19 19, 8-year-old Jiang Yang went to Qian Zhongshu's house with his parents, but he was young and not impressed.
But this experience just opened the "frontier" between the two. The combination of the two can be described as "perfect match", and the two families are really "happy".
1932, Jiang Yang was admitted to Tsinghua and Qian Zhongshu was admitted to Tsinghua, and they met.
1933, engaged to Jiang Yang. After graduating from Tsinghua University Foreign Languages Department, he taught at Guanghua University.
1935, one of them was admitted to boxer indemnity at public expense, and Jiang Yang went to Oxford University in England to study.
1937 after obtaining a bachelor's degree from Oxford university, Jiang Yang went to Paris university for research. Daughter Qian Yuan was born.
They kept the same pace from studying together in Tsinghua to studying and studying together at Oxford University in England and Paris University in France. After reading, Jiang Yang and Qian Zhongshu also held a reading contest, reading more than anyone else.
Reading, writing and laughing, their marriage life is full of leisure and envy of others.
Qian Zhongshu once summed up his love with Jiang Yang like this: "Three incompatible unique combinations: wife, lover and friend."
The love between lovers in the literary world is not only the romance under the peach blossom and crescent moon, but also the tacit understanding and persistence of the two.
No compromise, no flattery, a well-matched marriage, evenly matched, attractive and independent.
Similar living environment, education and family will make two people's values similar.
Two people with the same values will be attracted to each other involuntarily, which is why childhood friends are the most enviable reason.
It is not children, not money, but spiritual growth that keeps a marriage together.
If everything is wrong, the laggard will be kicked out.
Therefore, the attraction at close range is even more attractive.
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Have the same personality attraction
People have aura.
People with the same temperament and personality will naturally attract each other, while people with different ambitions and different ways can only get along with each other at that time, and the outcome will inevitably be to go their separate ways.
The so-called love at first sight is just a matter of seeing the color. True love begins with the face value and is loyal to the character.
There is a story in "Talking about Different Ideas":
Liu's sister came from Kyoto to hold a wedding ceremony. Seeing that the wedding day was coming, she didn't want to enter the country, so the family had to dress her up and plan to get married early.
Unfortunately, people are not as good as the sky. Liu Nv was taken away by a group of Qing soldiers before she was ready. The leader of the Qing army treated Liu Nv with courtesy and meticulous care. Liu did not attempt suicide, and the leader was more satisfied.
Soon, the leader captured a young man, similar to Liu's age. Although the young man is in trouble, he is still very polite, and the leader seems to like it. So he arranged for Liu to marry the young man.
The night after their wedding, they introduced each other, only to know that this young man is Dai Sheng, and the day they got married was the original wedding date.
Both of them were treated leniently by the leaders of the Qing army because of their gentle and kind personalities.
Attitude determines everything, and what kind of future there will be if there is any attitude; Personality determines fate, and what kind of personality there is, what kind of life there is.
"Flying with the phoenix, it must be a handsome bird; Walking with tigers and wolves must be an animal! "
The longer two people get along, the more they will find that a person's personality is deeply rooted in his bones, and personality is precisely the basis of mutual attraction.
The so-called love at first sight is just a matter of seeing the color. True love begins with the face value and is loyal to the character.
Marriage has its own destiny.
This sentence is by no means, birds of a feather flock together, people are divided into groups, and interpersonal communication is the most basic premise.
Many people are looking forward to a perfect marriage, but they don't know who you are or who you will marry.
People with similar frequencies will naturally get together, and people with different magnetic fields will keep talking.
It's just a fantasy to change your marriage without changing yourself.
May you and I both see through the truth of marriage, strive to improve ourselves, get a bosom lover, and grow old with our children!
The above is about the spouse who is destined to meet the eight characters, and it is about the sharing of marriage. I saw birthdates' super-marriage, I hope this will help everyone!