First of all, the media
In a family, the boy is about 20 years old and the girl 15 years old. Parents begin to arrange marriages for their children, and the matchmaker leads the red line. Men and women can't meet each other, let alone get to know each other. Even in the folk period, you can only steal a look. When you entrust the media, you have to pay the matchmaker in advance. This is called buying shoes (which means you need to go to find someone else).
In the future, I will give a gift to the matchmaker and invite him to dinner. The matchmaker took the money to buy shoes, began to perform the contract to find the right object, and participated in the whole marriage process until the bride was sent to the bridal chamber. There is a saying among the people: when a new person enters the bridal chamber, the matchmaker climbs over the wall? . There is another person who keeps in touch with the matchmaker, which is good for the couple.
There are also bad couples who fight with each other and get even with the matchmaker. After marriage, you should make thank-you wine and give gifts to express your gratitude. At the end of the Republic of China and the beginning of the Qing Dynasty, some Xie Media sent two loads of millet, which was still a set of materials, while others gave two pieces as gifts. At that time, matchmaking was a profession, usually women, so it was called? Matchmaker? . The matchmaker has a glib tongue. For money, no matter whether others live or die, both sides talk well, right? The water is burning? As the saying goes: cheat the bride into the house, whether you can or not. ?
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Second, changing posts.
With the consent of the matchmaker and both parents, they gave their daughter's birthday to the matchmaker, and the matchmaker gave it to the man's parents. The man asked the fortune teller to calculate whether the two words matched. The so-called eight-character, that is, according to the date of birth shown by heavenly stems and earthly branches in the old calendar, uses the five elements to calculate whether the eight-character of both sides is a combination or a gram. If Dick is wise, marriage is impossible.
If there is a match, both parents will exchange their children's horoscopes. This is called changing posts, written in red paper and placed under the incense burner in front of the ancestral tablet. After three days, the whole family is safe, which is considered a success. Every family has something to do within three days, so send it back to GengTie.
After the successful job transfer, the woman sent a blind date family group to the man. On a blind date, she sees nothing but people, looks after the house, drives the livestock and works in the fields. The woman thinks that the man's family can come forward and talk to the matchmaker about the bride price. After many times of running-in, after the bride price reached an agreement, she chose an auspicious day. Press shoes? Does that man know shoes and shoes? Sample money? Ask the matchmaker to give it to the woman. On the appointed day, the girl will make a pair of shoes and return them to the man. After seeing the shoes, the man knew the girl's needlework and expressed satisfaction. This is the determination to get married.
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Fourth, choose good luck.
Every step of marriage, from the successful change of posts to the engagement, engagement, wedding and meeting the bride, Mr. Xingbu should be asked to choose a good date, commonly known as the date. Besides auspicious days, Nanchang people also get married in Laba every year. It is said that this is a dry dragon that went down to the south of the Yangtze River. When they came to Nanchang, it was the eighth day of the twelfth lunar month, and they performed an auspicious story. Since then, the eighth day of the twelfth lunar month has become an auspicious day, which has continued until now.
Engagement: After the marriage is confirmed, does the man choose the right date? Leading the east wine? Also called engagement wine, at the banquet, the man will give the bride price, gold and silver jewelry and all the stickers of three generations to the woman. The woman gave all her stickers to the man. After the banquet, should the man ask the matchmaker to deliver it? Dragon and phoenix stickers? Give it to the woman, and the marriage will be finally settled here.
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Verb (abbreviation for verb) hire
Before marriage, the man gives the bride a bride price, commonly known as the bride price, also known as the bride price. Bride presents include dresses, cloth, clothes, fish, meat, noodles, cakes and so on. If you have a good family, you should have hundreds of fish, meat, noodles and cakes. All kinds of meat? . The woman gives the man a dowry, including a wardrobe, a table, a dressing table, a set of five foot pads (symbolizing the graduation of five children), a girl bucket, two red mops (metaphorically speaking, yes-men), quilts, clothes and other daily necessities.
Rich parents even gave their daughter's coffin to the man as a dowry. In a sense, parents who love their daughter spend more money on dowry than on marriage, and people who prefer sons to daughters in society regard her as a product at a loss. Therefore, some poor people have given birth to daughters. On the one hand, they can't afford to raise them, on the other hand, they can't afford to marry them, and they have been child brides for others since childhood.
Sixth, the wedding
The day before the wedding, there will be a wedding. The man wears a crown and the woman wears a crown, so it is also called a crown ceremony. The groom first kowtowed to heaven and earth and ancestors to thank them for their blessings, then kowtowed to his parents to thank them for their upbringing, and then kowtowed to the elders of the same clan to thank them for their care and education. Then, the groom's parents open the door to welcome the guests, his son is sitting at a special table, and his parents are educating their children in public.
By about four o'clock in the afternoon, the sedan chair stopped in the middle of the room and the band began to play. The groom kowtowed to heaven and earth, ancestors and parents again, and then held a banquet. At the party, everyone sang He Lang's songs. Whoever can't sing will be fined. The contents of He Lang's songs are all related to marriage. They are all good words and auspicious words, and some of them are very amusing. For example, a pair of flowers and candles are beaming, and eight bald heads are sitting on the table. Eat Hualang wine today and strip your head tomorrow.
Another example: put a pair of flowers and candles on both sides. Thank you for the gift. One is to hang up the wedding tent, the other is to light candles, the third is to send official candles to the house, the fourth is to send five catties of hoof flowers, the fifth is to send the golden rooster groom to eat, the sixth is to send a set of clothes with a hat off, the seventh is to send a gold ribbon, the eighth is to send a pair of satin shoes, the ninth is to send the scarlet letter camellia cake, and the tenth is to send the carp to jump over the dragon gate.
A pair of flowers, fresh and fresh. They are inserted into dried beancurd, which is made of beans, and a bean sends out 1000 cigarettes. On Daughter's Day, the bride should kowtow to her parents and the patriarch, and then tie her hair to open her face, which is also called sewing, that is, tie her hair on her head, make it into a bun and insert flowers. To open a face is to cut off the hair on your face with a thread.
From this day on, the bride will not eat anything, only some thread powder, meatballs, longan, lotus seed soup and so on. Before marriage, the bride wants to cry and marry, which shows that she is inseparable from her relatives. Mom also wants to cry and sing wedding songs, such as? Teach your mother a few things. The first thing to remember is to sweep the floor first, and don't touch your mother's body with dust. .
Weeping wedding songs are very rich in content, teaching daughters to be filial to their parents-in-law, to respect their elders, to manage their families diligently, and to live in harmony between husband and wife. The sadder a mother cries, the better. The longer she cries, the better. The longer she cried, the more she cried. The longest crying wedding lasted 48 days. The time to cry is before going to bed and before dawn.
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1, marry the bride
On this day, the man greeted the bride with a sedan chair. Sedan chairs are divided into three grades: high-grade sedan chairs are luxuriously decorated, surrounded by HongLing, embroidered with dragon wind, mandarin ducks playing in water, magpies playing with plums, peonies and other patterns, and the deacons and bearers are all dressed in red. Middle and low-grade sedan chairs are simply decorated, and deacons and bearers are not allowed to wear formal dresses.
Please show the two old ladies before the man delivers the sedan chair. The two old people want to get married, have children and grandchildren and live a long life. According to the purpose of the sedan chair, check whether the sedan chair is stable. If the sedan chair leans to the left, they think the bride will sympathize with her parents in the future. If the sedan chair leans to the right, they think that the bride will sympathize with her husband's family in the future and demand that the sedan chair be impartial. According to the car, couplets must be posted on both sides of the door. The man first posts the couplets on the right and gives them to the woman, who posts the couplets on the left. The couplets are rich in content, such as:
Male-dominated League: What kind of wife is it to add people?
Women's Left Alliance: Marry Pan Lang with fields, rice and water.
When the sedan chair is issued, the wedding procession is led by the lantern dragon, followed by the honor guard and propagandist, and the sedan chair is in the middle. The matchmaker goes with the sedan chair in an official sedan chair or rickshaw. The groom is waiting for the sedan chair to come back at home. On this day, the bride will dress up early in the morning and be accompanied by the elders in the room.
When the woman saw the bride's sedan chair coming, she quickly closed the door. The representative of the man asked to open the door, and the representative of the woman took the opportunity to bargain. The representatives of the two sides bargained and quarreled until noon, but the representative of the woman pushed her luck and was finally dissatisfied. However, after the adjustment, the matchmaker stepped in and the man paid all kinds of gifts before the woman could let the sedan chair into the yard. This is called getting louder and louder. Quarrel is just a form, and you will never really get angry.
After the sedan chair entered the hospital, the woman sent two long-lived and happy old ladies to see the sedan chair. When looking at the sedan chair, the bride's mother held a piece of paper dipped in clear oil and twisted it to sing to the sedan chair? According to "Song of Sedan Chair"? Sedan chair comes early, children's shoes are old, sedan chair comes late, and husband and wife have Qi Mei. There are four lamps on the corner of the sedan chair, which can send thousands of cigarettes to the husband's family.
Mother sang a song of taking photos of the sedan chair as a blessing to her daughter. The bride was well dressed, wearing a crest, Xia Yi, embroidered robe, children's shoes and red silk embroidered shoes, and was carried on the sedan chair by her uncle or brother. After the bride changed her children's shoes and put on new shoes, her feet could not touch the ground, and she was considered to have robbed the family of wealth. The bride's parents are sitting in their daughter's room, stomping on a firewood tied with red silk. Chai? With what? Money? Homophonic, her rich girl can't take it away.
Before the bride got into the sedan chair, the mother and sisters cried and pushed the wedding to a climax, singing wedding songs while crying, one after another, crying more and more. The drummer played, and a big red rooster was put on the big red sedan chair. When we set out, the rich family fired three shots into the air and the poor family set off firecrackers to see us off. The family threw tea and rice on the sedan chair. As the saying goes, once the tea leaves, rice will be a guest next time.
Blowing and beating all the way, the sedan chair finally arrived at her husband's house and was welcomed by everyone. At this time, the groom stepped forward to open the curtain, put his silver hairpin on the bride's head, and took off the hairpin on the bride's head and put it on his head. What's this called? Change hair clips? . Put the bride's wishful thinking or the jewelry on her head in your arms without changing her hair. What's this called? Blind date? . Someone threw tea on the sedan chair. What is it called? Is it broken? .
Then, the sedan chair was carried to the wedding hall, the bride was led by her mother, and the groom took off the red hijab. First, the two men worshipped the sedan chair and bowed to all sides of the sedan chair. Worship heaven and earth in the cheers of the master of ceremonies, first worship heaven and earth, second worship ancestors, third worship parents, and then, husband and wife worship each other. Both the bride and groom bow to the guests, and the guests will be rewarded after being worshipped.
After the ceremony, the couple raised their glasses, filled bowls with rice and meat, and made a gesture of thanks to their parents. Filial piety? . At this time, the banquet was full, and the bride stood on the stool in the living room. The watching children threw food at the bride, indicating that she would have more children in the future. After the banquet, the guests deliberately threw chopsticks on the ground, and the bride came down from the stool to pick them up. This is called coming out.
Step 2 sit on the bed
When the couple entered the bridal chamber, there were five men and two women sitting on the bed, and the singer sang? Sitting on the bed? While singing, throw red dates, peanuts, longan, melon seeds and other foods on the bed. The children's scramble for food means that they have a baby long ago. After singing colorful words, give each child sitting on the bed a gift or give money.
Step 3 make trouble in the bridal chamber
The wedding night will be the wedding night. It was too much, too rude, and it got worse and worse until the bride began to laugh.
Seven, three dynasties meeting door
The third day of marriage is called the Three Dynasties. The bride and groom all go back to their father-in-law's house with gifts, and their parents-in-law send relatives to meet them on the road, calling them son-in-law? New guests? Three dynasties are back? Through the door? . My parents-in-law will reward my new son-in-law, hold a banquet and say goodbye to my mother and daughter.
A couple is going back to her husband's house that day and can't spend the night. It was not until the first month of the following year that my parents-in-law chose a lucky day and welcomed a new uncle. When returning to my father-in-law's house, the couple should visit their parents first, then visit the ancestral hall, relatives and elders, and relatives and friends bring gifts. This time, the couple can stay for a few more days, but they can't share the same bed. ?
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The special marriage in the marriage custom of Nanchang, Jiangxi;
Child bride: In the past, boys were more popular than girls. The parents who gave birth to the girl were given away as child brides for adoption. If only there were boys. If there are no boys, we have to wait for a boy to be born later. This is also called the bride of Wang Lang. Many child brides are discriminated and abused by their adoptive parents since childhood, and then they marry their adoptive parents' sons in adulthood. However, there are great differences in age, and some women are 5 to 15 years older than men. Wedding etiquette is relatively simple, just go to the bride's house and have a few tables of wine. Most of these marriages are unhappy.
Daughter-in-law: If a woman loses her husband, or if both husband and wife have never given birth to a boy, and the family has money, they will recruit a son-in-law to adopt him. Grab the door? Children born by adoption are often discriminated against, and children take their mother's surname.
Remarriage: In the past, people had serious feudal thoughts. Men are superior to women? ; ? Martyrs don't marry mistresses? A man who loses his wife can have a second wife, while a woman who loses her husband is a widow for life. Chastity? . Widows are mentally miserable, have a hard life, are abused by their in-laws, and have to escape. Sort of? Foucault? He is a unlucky man.
If you are forced to remarry, you must first burn paper and kowtow to your late husband and return the bride price to your in-laws as a gift of parenting. You can only use the back door on the wedding day. To make matters worse, there are four ways to deal with an engaged girl, or a girl married to her husband's family. After receiving the dowry, her fiance died.
One is to hold a wedding when the fiance is seriously ill. Rush to Xi? If you are ready, you can stop. If you die, this girl will be widowed for life. Lin Yutang's novel Clouds in Beijing is such a thing. The Zeng family's husband, named Zeng Pingya, got typhoid fever and was blind in ointment. The Tseng family rushed to celebrate their son's success and asked him to marry Jiangxi's cousin Manni. It was after drinking a glass of evening wine that Mannia died of illness, and Mannia was widowed for life.
Second, after the death of her fiance, the girl held a spiritual tablet to pay homage to the bride and remained a widow for life. At the end of the Qing Dynasty, there was a first family named Liu in Liucun, Songshan County, Nanchang City. He is an official in Dingnan, Jiangxi. He betrothed his youngest daughter Liu Tingzi to his cousin Gu Yisheng. After that, his family background gradually declined because his father ate opium. The mother of the pavilion proposed to abolish this marriage, and refused to let Gu Yisheng be born outside the door on the grounds of high dowry. Cousin was helpless and hanged himself in a rage.
The girl in the pavilion was very sad. On the eighth day of the twelfth lunar month, there is goose feather and heavy snow in the sky. The pavilion was dressed in mourning and sat in a white sedan chair. She went to the family home and got married with her cousin's spirit tablet, and went to the door to be widowed. Later generations sorted out the literary term "Gu Jiaji" in Nanchang, which was widely circulated in the society.
Third, parents in the south are more open-minded. After the son died, they asked the woman to return the dowry and cancel the engagement.
In four aspects, it is rare that both men and women have a certain emotional foundation. If the fiance dies suddenly, the two sides can negotiate without returning the bride price, but the woman must send two things to the deceased; The first thing is to send a pair of pants for girls to wear to the dead; The second thing is to send couplets.
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