After my grandpa was buried, I shaved my head and have been unlucky for several years. What is the problem? Please enlighten me.

It has nothing to do with these, it is mainly due to our own reasons.

"There is no way for misfortunes and blessings, only people call it upon themselves." Misfortunes and blessings have no master, nor are they gods. It does not mean that if you eat the pig head as an offering, he will bless you. If there is no offering, ghosts will come looking for you. You, that's empty talk.

"There is no way for misfortunes and blessings". Neither ghosts nor gods can be your masters. God and Bodhisattva cannot be your masters. There are only people's own thoughts. The so-called "only people call themselves" means that you call yourself. of. Therefore, if we strictly reflect on all the experiences we encounter in life, we will find that pain, happiness, troubles, etc. are all caused by ourselves. The way of heaven is such a thing. The way of heaven is like a net, omnipresent but invisible. There is true wisdom but no master, but it is not nature or physical nature. In Chinese idioms, you can often see these two sentences: "The sky is vast, sparse and not leaking."

In fact, the biggest problem here is our concept problem, our problem. This is because we have formed this habit of complaining since time immemorial. We seek everything from the outside and don’t know how to look back and reflect. We always want to change others or the outside world, but we don’t know how to change ourselves. Because the outside world cannot be changed, or it is difficult to change, the only thing that can change is ourselves.

So, whenever we feel so unlucky, we will take corresponding "measures" to deal with the so-called "adversity" or trap we are in. We always want to make good out of this "adversity" or trap. It's about escaping from the trap. The result is just the opposite: they run further and further away, sink deeper and deeper, and cannot escape for the rest of their lives. In this way, you will naturally fall into a vicious cycle of cause and effect, trapping yourself in the quagmire of being misunderstood, framed, framed, etc. and unable to extricate yourself. When a person has bad luck, it does not depend on his or her name, zodiac sign, horoscope, or zodiac sign. But look at what this person has done.

Some people doubt that people who have not done a good thing have also done a lot of bad things, but they live so rich and happy. What is the truth about this? When Sima Qian wrote "The Biography of Boyi", he also raised a doubt: "How can it be that Heaven repays good deeds to good people?" He also said, "I am very confused. The so-called way of Heaven is evil and not evil." However, when he wrote this article, he did not provide an answer to this kind of confusion. He only raised a question and let the readers of his article think about it for themselves.

When it comes to religious philosophy, people often ask this question: Religion talks about right and wrong, good and evil; but some people who have been good people and done good deeds throughout their lives have suffered the most blows and suffered the most. Even the person who wrote "Historical Records" Sima Qian also had such doubts. In order to speak justice for Li Ling, Sima Qian was severely punished and suffered a lifetime of pain. He said in "The Biography of Boyi Shuqi", is the so-called way of heaven true? Fake? I don't know. There are many good people in society who suffer all their lives, while those bad people live a very comfortable life with everything good. The worse the people, the better their lives.

Buddhism’s answer is very simple. Someone is a bad person in this life, but the reason why he is in such a good situation is because the good rewards from his good deeds in his previous life have not yet been completed; what he has done in this life is The bad deeds you have done will be settled when your evil deeds are full. In my personal life experience, what Buddhism says is right.

Some people may say that this can only be heard, and neither the past life nor the next life can be seen! Regarding this question, as long as we study this life in reality, we will understand that "there is no way for misfortunes and blessings, only people call it upon themselves." Because if you reflect carefully, you will find that the biggest blow is the biggest blessing. If you don't suffer the biggest blow, your life may not be saved. Of course, living is not necessarily good! It is also sad to live too long, although most people think that longevity is also a blessing.

From the perspective of these many principles, we can understand the meaning of what Laozi said: "The sky is vast, sparse but not lost." It has no reason, no master, and no standard, but it does have a big principle and a standard; this truth is the most profound truth in any religious philosophy. To explain in a simple sentence, it is the law of cause and effect. If you create a cause, you will naturally get the effect. No one can escape. ——"I Said"

I have seen many people's life experiences, and retribution is very fast, as if it is faster than computer calculations. In fact, many people are retributioned in this world, but the people who receive the retribution themselves do not understand it. Therefore, there are four popular sayings in Chinese society: "Good deeds will be rewarded with good deeds, and evil deeds will be rewarded with evil deeds. It's not that you will not be rewarded, but the time has not yet come." This is what everyone likes to say. ——"Mencius and the whole heart"

Confucius said: Who can not leave the house? Why not?

Although Confucius lamented the times, he believed that it was still right to take the right path. A gentleman should not bow to reality. The final victory and final success will still come from the right path. He gave an example: "Who can't leave the house?" The door in the gate is the house. He said that whoever wants to go out can do so without going through a door? Only when you leave the door can you take the right path. People must take the right path. If they follow the wrong path and follow the wrong path, they will eventually be tortuous and difficult to achieve results.

That is to say, people must have standards for being a human being. Although many people are proud of themselves for a while by not following the right path, they still have problems in the end. However, many people still only focus on the present, regardless of their own consequences. Although we see many people who have committed many evil deeds and still enjoy a peaceful life, this debt will eventually be settled in the afterlife. ——"The Analects of Confucius"

Buddhism talks about karma and retribution, and it is believed that what you sow will get what you get.

For example, if you scolded someone yesterday and they smiled at you, you already have hatred in your heart. If there is a chance, they will definitely repay you and they will not be polite. This is cause and effect, this is called karma.

Then we can think that when you are scolded or do other things that you think are unlucky, it is because he is repaying you. Therefore, it is said, "If you have no crime, you will not be beaten, and if you have no crime, you will not be scolded. When adversity comes, it brings you virtue. You must not only endure it, but also be grateful" - "Jing Si Quotations"

If you can't stand it, then continue in the future, or in the next life, and the next life, and keep reincarnating until you repent.

In ancient times, there was a man named Lin Tuizhai who had good moral cultivation. This man had great blessings and had many children and grandchildren. When he was dying, his descendants knelt in front of him and said, "You are leaving us, so leave something for us to follow throughout our lives."

He said, "You must learn to suffer losses." This is exactly what he said. It is his greatest concern for his children and grandchildren, letting them know that suffering is a blessing.

It is often said in society: "If you are too petty, you will not be a gentleman, and if you are not poisonous, you will not be a husband." It originally meant "If you are too petty, you will not be a husband." It was mistakenly read as "If you are not poisonous, you will not be a husband," which makes people mistakenly think that you are "not a husband." "Vicious" is the husband. "Du" means measure and magnanimity. A man without measure cannot be called a husband. "A small amount is not a gentleman, and a small amount is not a husband." It is a good motto to cultivate people's capacity.

Confucius said: "Life and death have destiny, wealth and honor are in heaven"

Your present destiny is what you summoned in the past, but your future destiny and your present destiny are your present destiny What you do can be resolved. So in order to give you a good life in the future, you must do more good deeds now and live seriously. If you give without stealing, you will become rich; if you are frugal, greedy and steal, you will become poor. If you are willing to help others, you will have noble people. If you do not do what is right, no one will help you. Wealth and honor, poverty and poverty are all your own calling. When encountering adverse circumstances, follow bad fate, without anger [chēn huì], and all karmic obstacles will be eliminated; when encountering favorable circumstances, follow good fate, without greed and delusion, and all blessings and wisdom will appear. Wish yourself luck! I recommend you an article that can help your fortune. Search the Internet for "Liao Fan's Four Trainings in Vernacular"

Man is the spirit of all things, and your heart is the most spiritual! If you don’t know that people have such great spirituality, and you just complain blindly, will your life be better? It can't be good! Some people say: "My life is not good, I have been unlucky in my life." Well, the more they say it, the better it will be, and it will make you miserable. In fact, everyone has a sufficient Buddha nature, and it only listens to us. This is very effective. If you say, "Oh, this definitely won't work." The more you say it, the less likely it will be. Don't say that good intentions are not rewarded, and don't say that there are no good people around you. Some women say, "Men don't have any good things." Can any good things be arranged for you? Because what you ask for is "men don't have good things." This is your wish and your conclusion. Don't lose on the good side, and mistakenly think that worry is a good intention. Remember, worrying is the same as cursing, cursing. We must be cautious when drawing any conclusions, so the Chinese character for Zhongyong is to put a seal on your mouth, telling you not to talk nonsense, seal your mouth first. We should create benign programs: "I am surrounded by good people", "When I suffer a loss, I am blessed", "This person is not good to me, so he will be transferred", "The sicker I get, the more I catch a cold, the more I detoxify", who heard that the more I catch a cold? The shorter your life span? This is not necessarily the case. If you are sick, just take medicine. So we have to have a good program. I often give myself benign programs: "If you lose money, you will have luck with wealth." It's not this program. I'm a "right eye jumper" and I jump on good things.

Karma and retribution are the natural laws of the universe. This is the development law of nature. However, it is relative. It does not remain unchanged at a certain time, but changes with the changes in the universe. There is no absolute law of cause and effect in the universe. What ultimately determines destiny is each person's own concept of value. Simply put, only you can decide everything about yourself and control your own destiny.

Rather than saying that things or people make you suffer, it is better to say that your own cultivation is not enough