First, the content to be discussed when the man proposes.
1. Marriage: Make sure that both parents agree to this marriage.
2. Wedding date: the choice and selection of wedding date. Under normal circumstances, after the proposal, the woman's parents are willing to give the bride-to-be's birthday to the man to choose the date; However, some women decide the date. You can first express your hope to get married in January or how long after your engagement. After reaching a consensus, you can get your birthday before choosing the date.
3. Engagement money: Engagement money can be divided into big engagement and small engagement. The man should take the initiative to ask the woman's views and opinions! For example, the size of the amount and whether to accept the engagement fee. Generally speaking, it means accepting a small employment and withdrawing a large one or issuing a house without paying.
1) Determine the employment amount.
2) Determine the amount of small employment.
Second, the process of proposing marriage
4) Presentation of engagement fee: check, cash or empty red envelope.
5) The bride's dowry.
4. Engagement gifts: Should I prepare 6 gifts or 12 gifts?
5. Engagement ceremony: Some people have a simple ceremony to entertain 2-3 tables of relatives and friends, and some people entertain guests when they are engaged.
6, eight characters: when the man goes back, he will find someone to set an auspicious day according to the eight characters. Will there be one in the future? Ji ke? Send it to the woman together with the red envelope. It's called. Date of invitation? . If Gibbon has an auspicious day of engagement and marriage, show it to the woman, which means that the woman has seen the date and has no other opinions, and accepts the date of engagement and marriage, then she accepts red envelopes ranging from 200 to 2000; If the woman is cautious, this auspicious day will be audited by her familiar master. This red envelope is the reward that the man prepared for her to pay the master. The groom-to-be takes Ji Shi and another red envelope, plus 12 sets of rice fragrance (marked on the outer packaging bag) to the woman's house. Because he had no problem with the date the man saw, he accepted the red envelope, and then asked the groom-to-be to take Ji Shi and six groups of rice incense back to explain to his in-laws.
7. Matchmaker's gift: To reward the matchmaker's gift, the man should pay more than the woman's gift. Depending on the friendship between the matchmaker and the couple, it is generally 2000-3000 yuan; If it really plays an important role in the communication process, it can be 3,000-6,000 yuan.
The above is what couples need to discuss when they get married and the man proposes. I hope I can help you.