Nowadays, young people are really happy, with freedom of love, marriage, work and so on. They can release themselves. Everything is forgiven and loves freedom. They can pursue poetry and distance without scruple and fly their ideal wings without worry.
In the past, people were bound by traditional moral norms and step-by-step rules. At what age, they must do something. But you can't do whatever you want. For example, in marriage, everything should be "the words of the matchmaker", and it is necessary to pay attention to "the right door" and someone should count the "birthday". If all these are right and closed, then this marriage is also complete, perfect and blessed.
It is precisely because people used to hold the attitude of "grow old together and never leave" that they were cautious about the marriage of men and women, which led to many taboos and taboos before marriage. No matter how cruel and unscientific their taboos and taboos are, there is only one ultimate goal, that is, they hope that men and women will grow old together, live in harmony and love each other forever.
What does an old saying in the countryside mean "marry a woman who is not a sheep and a man who is not a chicken"? Is this sentence reasonable? Is there any scientific basis?
Coincidentally, this old saying reminds me of one of my relatives, that is, the marriage between my fourth cousin and my cousin's husband. The fourth cousin is the daughter of the third aunt. She is 4 1 year old this year. She is a sheep. She was born in December. Her husband is a chicken, 39 years old.
They met when they were teachers in a primary school in the county.
She was my cousin's first cousin. My cousin didn't quite agree when she learned that she was two years older than him. She is afraid to find a husband younger than herself, and she should be more tolerant of his immaturity and so on. But my cousin likes my cousin wholeheartedly, so they got married at the age of 26. After marriage, they gave birth to a son and a daughter, and they lived well.
Although my cousin is two years younger than my cousin, he is very mature, tolerant and hardworking. Now both of them are teaching in a private school in the south, and their cousins have become vice principals. The husband and wife respect and love each other, and their work and family are very smooth. It is a model of deep affection between husband and wife among relatives.
My cousin is a sheep and just married a man who is a chicken. And married a chicken man two years younger than her. But their happy life now can't help but make me question and doubt the old saying: "marry a woman who belongs to the sheep and marry a man who belongs to the chicken."
First, marry a woman who is a sheep.
This sentence also reminds me of another old saying, "Marry a wife and don't marry a twelfth month sheep."
Everyone knows that sheep is a very docile and single-minded, but also very withdrawn and calm animal. It only likes eating grass, and others don't seem to like it very much. In the cold winter, the mountains and plains are cold and withered, and sheep that only eat grass will inevitably starve to death. That's why sheep born in the twelfth lunar month are doomed to toil, starve and suffer all their lives.
In fact, many examples in reality prove that this sentence is incorrect, because the cousin I just mentioned, including her own mother, is a sheep born in the twelfth month. Are relatively happy. Although they are either rich or expensive, they have never been indifferent all their lives and have a better life than the last one.
There is also a saying that "ten sheep are incomplete and one sits in a golden rice bowl". Nine of the ten sheep are suffering from twists and turns, and the others may only have one good life and enjoy the success.
In fact, this sentence is misinformed. The earliest sentence was "Ten sheep are nine blessings, and one sheep sits on a golden plate". It shows that the fate of most sheep is better. But somehow, there is a saying that "ten sheep and nine springs of happiness, one sitting in a golden basin", and the word "fu" means "no", so over time, it has become "ten sheep and nine springs of happiness". Therefore, a woman who belongs to the sheep bears such a tragic reputation and is judged as a miserable person at birth.
At present, this is totally unfounded and unreasonable in science. Among the women I know who belong to the sheep, they are gentle, gentle, generous, sincere, loving home and hardworking. They all live happily.
Second, marry a man instead of a chicken man.
"Chicken" ranks tenth and second to last in the zodiac. Perhaps people used to think that chickens were timid, although cocks were brave at dawn and powerful when they craned their necks to crow.
But people think that chickens belong to hard work, get up early and announce the world, and they will not be rich or expensive all their lives. And "chicken" and "hungry" are homophones. Therefore, people think that marrying a man who is a chicken means going hungry from now on, working all his life and having no future.
Several of my closest relatives are chickens, including me and my brother. They have worked hard all their lives, working at sunrise and resting at sunset. Although there is not much wealth, life is getting better and better. And my former head teacher at school, who is also a chicken. At that time, he was just a teacher in a medical college. Now he is not only the hospital director, but also a leader in a certain professional field.
Therefore, it is meaningless to "marry a man without marrying a chicken man".
Three, these two rural old sayings have no scientific reason and basis. This is just people's imagination and sustenance for the beautiful marriage in the past. Happiness depends on oneself and has nothing to do with the zodiac.
When I was a child, I often heard: Wow! You are a pig, so lucky, you don't have to be displaced all your life, you have to eat and drink all your life, and you will be fat and worry-free! Ah! You are a monkey, then you must be very smart and have good academic performance! Others said, wow! You are a dragon, so you will aim high and have a successful career in this life. ...
Destiny is always in your own hands.
Some people were born with golden keys, but they play good cards. They didn't inherit the wealth and contacts their parents gave them. But because I don't work hard, I spend too much, I live in poverty, and I borrow money everywhere. There are also people who were born in suffering, and through self-improvement, perseverance, step by step towards success.
Therefore, a person's success and fate have nothing to do with the zodiac. It has a lot to do with your efforts and perseverance.
End with this eternal couplet and encourage you.
Where there is a will, there is a way. If you burn your bridges, you will end up in Chu.
Hard-working people live up to expectations, and 3 thousand armor can swallow Wu.
Bless all those who struggle for their destiny. Perseverance and hard work will definitely lead to a happy life.
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The above is about whether the ram and the female monkey are doomed to divorce, and it is about the sharing of marriage. I hope this will be helpful for everyone to read the story of the sheep monkey!