Don't think about how to save him, how to save this marriage, or if you are wrong? Do you want to change ... and so on, these questions.
Oh, by the way, there are children. The most unfortunate thing for women is that their husbands cheat after having children. At this time, they will restrain themselves, restrain themselves, force themselves, and forcibly forgive the man who betrayed him for the sake of their children's growth and mental health.
I forced myself to believe, "only this time, there will be no second time, he will change." Actually, I have made mistakes myself. I should correct my mistakes and maintain a happy family. Everything is for the children ... ".
However, there are only zero and countless times of derailment. A successful cat will be calm and restrained for a period of time after being beaten by its owner. However, can cats who have tasted delicious food really restrain themselves?
So there was a second time. If you didn't find out, you might be happier. If you find out when the child was born, don't suffer too much. This is only the second time. He will change. Well, after this time, he will definitely change. Believe in the father of the child, believe in him, everything is for the sake of the child ... "
There are many such things, and the feelings are definitely not as good as before. You are neither the best actress nor the children are fools. After a long time, there are some problems between you, and he can see the false harmony in your family, because the false is the false.
Therefore, in order not to affect him, the fake harmonious family you run is just wishful thinking after all. Letting the man go again and again not only increased his arrogance, but also made him feel down and out, without dignity.
The flowers in the greenhouse have not been weathered by natural wind and rain. How do we know how powerful they are under this seemingly devastating blow?
There is a text about planting trees in junior high school textbooks. There was a man who planted trees very well, so someone asked him, "I planted trees on fertile land to shelter it from the wind and rain, and often watered and fertilized it, weeding, pruning and cutting leaves. Why is it not as good as the trees in your class?" Do you have any secrets? "
The old man who planted trees took people to the place where trees were planted, a barren land full of weeds. That man is puzzled! ! ! I'll go. Can trees be planted in this place? Uncle, are you fucking kidding?
Grandpa forcibly explained a wave of "you are so kind to your tree, it is used to passive acquisition and will not take the initiative to pursue it. My tree, although there is no fertile land, has no careful care." Because of this, it will try to stretch its roots down and pursue every kind of nutrition that can help it grow. And the wind and rain of nature, for it, is not a blow, but a joy falling from the sky! "
So what tree in your family can compare with my pure natural, pollution-free, self-improvement, hard work and self-DIY tree?
Children are not as fragile as you think. Although every emotional shock is an injury, it is also a rainbow that grows up without experiencing wind and rain.
Back to the topic, marriage must be divorced. Divorce gives women a natural advantage. If you want children, they must be yours, and men have to pay alimony.
So if you still have hope for men, leave the children to your ex-husband, take half of the property and live a new life. A man is responsible for his lower body. On the contrary, take the child and educate him well. Whether it is a boy or a girl, don't weave such a stupid fairy tale that dad just left temporarily and will come back later.
Tell them the cruel truth and the reason why you made this choice, the complete truth. Well, people always habitually put themselves on the weak side.
Life goes on. Even if your ex-husband gives alimony, you should still try to make yourself and your children happy and live a better life.
Well, having said that, you don't have to have children. .....
Anyway, you can't have this man who wants to break up after making a mistake. Let's break up and live a new life. The division of property is naturally to ask a lawyer to help you. Starting from your actual situation, you can get as many points as you want, so don't force it.
People always make mistakes, so everything has to pay for this mistake. Whether it is good or bad, it is growth, sentiment and memory.
How can we meet better ones without losing the fruits eroded by mistakes?