This sentence has some truth, but it is not entirely correct.
Some people are naturally talkative and agreeable, while others are the opposite.
First of all, everyone has his or her own temperament to a greater or lesser extent.
It may give people a feeling of elegance, or it may give people a feeling of young talent, or it may give people a feeling of tranquility.
This is demonstrated by each person's different temperament.
The accumulation of cultural accomplishment can indeed affect or change a person's temperament to a certain extent.
Temperament (temperament), explained from psychology, refers to the permanent characteristics that a person is born with, such as excitement and adaptability. Temperament is determined by an individual's biological characteristics, which are recognized by psychologists, such as genetics, prenatal influences, or both.
A popular model divides temperament into three temperament dimensions, namely emotionality (the intensity of emotional responses), activity (the general level of energy) and sociability (the ability to interact with others). general tendency to contact or interact).
Temperament and character both constitute a person’s personality, so temperament is possessed by every person with personality.
However, temperament will also be affected to a certain extent through acquired life experiences, learning, social environment, etc., so acquired efforts are also an important way to cultivate temperament.
Su Shi has such a poem that depicts a person who is cultured and has temperament. His poem is like this: "There is poetry and calligraphy in the belly." A person who is cultured and has temperament , then he (she) must be a literate person. Su Shi also mentioned this very clearly in his poem. If a person is culturally accomplished, the temperament on his body will be radiated from the inside out. Even if he is wearing tattered clothes, that It is also impossible to cover up the light on the body.
In the final analysis, if a person wants to have a temperament, it cannot be achieved through training and practice. The most important thing is to practice diligently, read more books, and read For some works with connotation, only after such a kind of tempering, that kind of temperament will naturally be revealed in every gesture.
Only some so-called nouveau riche believe that the so-called temperament can be trained. This kind of trained temperament is just an illusion. A truly temperamental person does not necessarily say that he or she has temperament, but that others can feel it from his or her words and deeds.
Of course not everyone has such a temperament, but if you want to become such a temperamental person, the best way is to study. As long as you read more, you will You will naturally understand a lot of truths, and your body will naturally reveal the kind of temperament you mentioned.
Temperament should be said to be a kind of cultural accomplishment. As long as a person is knowledgeable and rich, he will naturally have the kind of temperament that ordinary people can't achieve, and such a temperament is precisely what he needs to go through Keep reading to enrich yourself. If you want to become a person of temperament, then you must first read and read a lot of books, so that you can make your heart stronger and more connotative; secondly, you must have noble moral character; Once again, we must maintain a positive and optimistic attitude at all times.
For any person with temperament, it must have experienced cultural cultivation and precipitation of time. Only in this way can he reflect his charm, so such a temperament does not Not everyone has it.
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Temperament, Chinese dictionary definition:
1. Refers to a person’s physical, psychological and other qualities, which is a fairly stable personality characteristic.
2. Style, appearance.
I think the word temperament in the question should be a synthesis of these two interpretations, which has both internal cultivation and external manifestations.
Usually when we say that this person is very temperamental, it generally means that this person is very connotative, well-educated, gives people a strong sense of aura, and is always pleasing to the eye. For example, handsome men and elegant women are showing their temperament.
From a physiological point of view, most of the characteristics of people are innate. During the growth process of people, they are relatively stable and not easy to change, such as lively, active, silent and quiet personality traits. , in this way, it is very similar to a person’s temper and character, and is a manifestation of external temperament. Of course, acquired environment may also cause a person's temperament to change drastically, such as sudden stimulation or some other external harm.
Psychologically speaking, I think psychological quality is the development of inner temperament. Psychological quality has a great relationship with the acquired living environment. Family, society, education, etc. are all its mutagenic factors. A good family environment and social environment can easily cultivate a good mentality.
Education is of vital importance, and all human acquired behaviors are acquired through learning. Education includes various forms of education, not limited to music, chess, calligraphy and painting, poetry, wine, flower tea, etc. Through study, exercise, and experience, a person's inner cultivation is cultivated in the process of growth.
Practice means cultivating one’s health and one’s nature, cultivating a strong heart. Therefore, it is said that the acquired internal and external temperament is inseparable from the accumulation of years, experience, and insights, so that one’s own unique charm can be revealed.
From this point of view, temperament should be possessed by everyone, because everyone needs to experience and practice in this life. Just judging from the performance, whether it has been cultivated to the level that we can distinguish at a glance!
"There are poems and books in your belly, and you are Chinese". To put it simply, if you read a lot of books, you will naturally have a good temperament.
There are two types of temperament, one is innate and the other is acquired.
Therefore, not everyone has what the questioner mentioned, and the answer is yes.
First, you cannot learn the temperament and genetic factors that others are born with.
Second, not everyone likes to read. Even if you read, you like comic books. I like celebrity biographies that only delve into historical technology.
If the influence is different, the subsequent weather quality must be different.
Those who like humanities and history are mostly elegant and bookish;
Those who like online writing are mostly quick-thinking and full of imagination;
People who like to study scientific theories are mostly silent and reserved, and cautious in their words and deeds.
Acquired temperament can not only calm the mind through reading more, but it is also the product of social activities, treating others and doing things.
Thank you,
I have been saying this for many years.
In fact, it is the difference between "vulgar" and "elegant".
Everyone comes into this world with a blank piece of paper. Family influence and acquired education shape a person’s life. Some people may not look good in appearance, but the temperament leaking out of their bodies is enough to bring pressure. Heroes.
The only way to cultivate and change people's temperament is to read.
Zeng Guofan once said:
People's temperament is difficult to change due to their innate nature. Only reading can change their temperament. Ancient people who were good at physiognomy also said that reading can change the physiognomy.
Everyone has temperament, and everyone’s temperament is different based on their experiences. The gangster leader has the temperament of a ruffian, the battle-hardened general has the air of a king, the policeman who fulfills his duty has the air of righteousness, the scholar who has not been involved in the world for a long time has the temperament of a scholar...
A person is born with With a golden spoon, you will never have to worry about money in your life, and it is easy to cultivate a calm and unhurried temperament; if a person has been among hundreds of flowers, and not a leaf touches his body, then it is difficult for him to be tempted by lust; a person has experienced all kinds of human relationships, good and bad, Over time, it is easy to develop a calm and fearless temperament.
In short, temperament is a reflection of a person’s experience. It comes from the heart, from the arrogance cultivated by material accumulation, from having no desires and desires, from experience, and even from one’s own strong strength. .
Everyone can have temperament, because temperament is a kind of cultivation, some are innate and some are acquired. A person's temperament does not lie in his face and figure, but in the past he has experienced, which is the imprint left on his heart, making people feel deep and peaceful. Therefore, elegance is not a pretense, but the accumulation of experience; indifference is not a pretense, but the accumulation of a period of life. Time will make a soul become more and more moving. Control your temper and be a well-educated person.
When you are not strong enough and good enough, don’t spend too much precious time socializing, spend more time reading, improving your own value, and accumulating more. Give up those useless social interactions, improve yourself, gather strength, and your world will be bigger. Remember: if you are not in your own circle, don’t force yourself to join! ?
The simpler, the wiser, the simpler, the more beautiful, the simpler, the more profound, therefore, the simpler, the more difficult it is. If you are simple, the world will be simple to you. So I think simplicity is the key to temperament!
Temperament is a kind of connotation. Everyone's temperament is unique and is also a reflection of one's inner personality. We often talk about a person who is uninhibited, distinguishable between black and white, suave, and elegant. For example, the character of the poet Li Bai is passionate, bold, arrogant, and innocent. In essence, we are talking about his character traits.
The word temperament is mostly used in a complimentary sense. I personally think it is a neutral word, like a gang boss in society. He is also a person with temperament, acting bossy and loyal. Temperament can have inner temperament and outer temperament. Usually when we first see this person, we will initially get the information in our heart what kind of character he is, because the affinity comes from the heart, which determines the principles of how we interact with them. Because everyone's life experience is different, to understand his personality characteristics by looking at his face, we can only judge from the senses and experience. This is what we call external temperament. After getting along with someone for a period of time, through our interactions and seeing his words and deeds, we will discover his character traits, so we can determine his deep-seated temperament, which is his inner temperament.
In life and work, we see that only a small number of people have different external temperaments and inner temperaments. Most people have the same internal and external temperaments, which means they are the same on the outside and on the inside. Those who are engaged in special professions, such as spies, state secret agencies, etc., have a temperament that makes their words and deeds difficult to detect.
Although China has a population of 1.4 billion, everyone’s temperament is unique. As the saying goes, a country is easy to change, but a character is hard to change. This means that a person's character is difficult to change. This person is a weak scholar and gentle in words and deeds. It is difficult for him to become a domineering, reckless and impulsive person. In fact, personality is difficult to change, and there is no need to change it. What can be changed is the way we deal with things. For example, if I am a scholar who is weak and hesitant in doing things, then I will change my behavior in the acquired cultivation, so that I can become more resolute and decisive, and I will be straightforward in doing things, so that I will not appear so scholarly and weak. I am a domineering, reckless and impulsive person. The way I changed myself was to slow down my thinking a step and a half and listen more to other people's opinions.
I have been engaged in four-pillar prediction for nearly 10 years. Whenever I get a four-pillar or eight-character prediction, I can see his deep personality characteristics and his life's fortune trajectory. From his fortune trajectory, it can be analyzed inner temperament. First, you can see his character traits, and then you can judge his inner temperament.
Finally, cultivate yourself according to a person's character characteristics. Only those who cultivate themselves will gradually develop a stable temperament. Character cultivation leads to temperament, and temperament is the judgment of your character.
Everyone has temperament, but everyone’s temperament is different. Temperament is inseparable from our cultural accomplishment. The knowledge we learn and the principles we understand will be integrated into our blood.
I think temperament can be divided into good, bad, beautiful and ugly. Some people's temperament is as elegant as an orchid or chrysanthemum; some people's temperament is tranquil and aloof from the world; some people's temperament is heroic and eloquent; some people's temperament is elegant and funny; some people's temperament is vulgar and humble, and some people's temperament is cowardly and timid. Some people have a competitive, sarcastic temperament...
Temperament is not developed in a day, and it has a major relationship with family education. Temperament can be revealed from a person's food, clothing and walking, and can also be seen from his speech and behavior.
Temperament is one’s own characteristics that are presented to others. Once formed, it cannot be faked. If you have to pretend, it will be the hardest thing, because you have to go against your own habitual style and kill your own nature.
Temperament does not only refer to the quality of appearance. If a person is well-educated, even his back will be admired. We are just ordinary people with different temperaments. I often correctly recognize my friends from the back of a person. Have you ever had such an experience?
So I suggest that while we still have the ability to control ourselves, we should practice our temperament so that you and I look elegant and gentlemanly. Of course, children must be nurtured from an early age so that they can become well-educated, graceful and well-tempered people.