Is it worth marrying a man who loves you very much but has no ambition?

Is it worth marrying a man who loves you very much but has no ambition? Narrator: Xiaohui, I'm 24 years old. I am a sophomore, and I am also doing sales work. This boy is five years older than me. With the strong support of his parents, he bought a house and paid off the housing loan. Everyone's outlook on life and values are quite compatible. It's just that life values are a little different, and he hopes to be a rich second generation with financial freedom through hard work. He expects his life to be dull, his family to be well-being, and he doesn't have much pursuit of perfection in chemicals. We made friends online and learned about the relationship between men and women almost a year and three months ago.

He is kind and considerate, and can know that he is very attentive to me. But he is impatient and wants to get married and have children soon. I think it's too soon to get married after only three months. Before meeting him, my ideal is to get married at the age of 28. I think he is a suitable lover, so I consider getting along for one year and getting married at the age of 25. His parents also urged everyone to get married early, let them help with the children when they were young, and let us work hard with peace of mind.

Although my mother hasn't seen him, she doesn't worry that I will marry far away, but she said that she let the fortune teller read its horoscope and said that he had been married twice in his life, so she resisted us being together. My mother asked me not to repeat her previous mistakes. Marrying a man by mistake will be a lifelong pain. Although my father has a good temper and loves me very much, he is lazy and has never gone out to work since he failed to start a business. Every part of the family depends on my mother alone.

After listening to my mother's words, I was also hesitant, worried that I would suffer hardships when I got married. Now his company is facing the problem of salary reduction and layoffs because of the economic downturn. However, he is in no hurry. He said to wait two months. If he is fired, he will find another way out. If he is still working, everything will be fine. His attitude towards work, combined with his mother's words, makes me very uncertain about the future. Teacher, can you give me some advice?

Response: Living a hard life since childhood gave you the idea of working hard and moving towards a stronger life. I totally understand and agree with you. Only by working hard can we move towards a well-off life with security. Between you and your boyfriend, it is not a problem caused by a bad evaluation of fate, but mostly a problem of money. In other words, whether this boy can get a long-term development in the future. The enterprise economy is in recession, facing salary reduction and layoffs, the boyfriend's mentality is problematic, which is a typical idea of living day by day.

This attitude towards work shows that he is a person who lacks self-motivation. This doesn't meet my own needs. What I need is a man who can work hard with you to create a better future. But he is a person who lacks life planning and direction. At this stage, you should first avoid getting pregnant before marriage. Being pregnant before marriage will put you in a very passive position to accept the influence when the economic situation of two people is uncertain and you have high demands on life. You are a hard-working person, but he is greedy for the life he enjoys and doesn't make progress. If you go on like this, it will be difficult for everyone to go on unless your boyfriend follows your instructions.