Jony J lives in a family with a second child. She is two years younger than her brother. When it comes to a son and a daughter, friends will ask her if her parents prefer boys to girls. Every time Jony J is happy to say that her parents not only don't prefer boys to girls, but sometimes even love her more than their younger brother.
Later, Xiao Jia graduated and went to work in other places. Her parents always call to be caring and attentive, and bring her a lot of food for fear that she won't have enough to eat. Xiao Jia used to feel lucky to live in such a family. But when my brother reached marriageable age, things changed unexpectedly.
One day, my mother suddenly called her and said, "Your brother is getting married now, and your father and I want to buy him a house. You must have some savings after working for so many years. For the sake of your parents' kindness to you for so many years, please pay a down payment for your brother. "
After listening to his mother's words, Jony J instantly felt a little chilling. She didn't expect her parents to give her love since she was a child in exchange for her help to her brother. Only then did she realize that she seemed to be a smash hit for so many years, but in fact her parents' wishful thinking was hidden behind her.
The so-called "son preference" is actually that parents create a warm illusion under the guise of loving their daughters. But in fact, parents' love for their daughters contains "calculation". On the surface, girls are very popular at home, and parents love their daughters even more than their sons.
But many times, parents' love for their daughters only stays in words or small things. When encountering some big problems, parents will still make decisions from their sons' standpoint for the first time. After their daughter works, she will always ask her to pay and even ask her to be responsible for her son's life.
Therefore, the parents of "new patriarchal" are still biased against girls. They still think that their daughters will belong to others when they grow up, so they also want to use this love to carry out "moral kidnapping" in the future and ask for it as much as possible when their daughters are valuable. This love has become a "debt" that their daughters must pay back.
Whether it is a son or a daughter, their growth needs the care of their parents, but loving children has nothing to do with gender. The social opposition to "son preference" does not mean that parents should pay more attention to girls, but that parents should learn to treat every child equally and not treat them differently because of their gender.
Chen Qiaoen, an actress, once recalled that her mother treated her differently from her brother because of her gender. When she was a child, she only had a pair of custom-made pants. Every time she broke them, her mother would keep mending them, while her brother could have several beautiful and unique pants. This quirk has impressed her deeply so far, and she still feels hurt every time she recalls it.
Therefore, parents should treat their children fairly, regardless of their living conditions and educational resources. Parents must have the same attitude towards their children, and they should not be biased because of their gender, otherwise they will leave incurable wounds in their hearts.
Every child should be a "treasure" in the hands of parents, and the value of children will not be different because of gender. Therefore, parents should cultivate their sons and daughters with care, so that when children have the ability, they will treat their parents with the same care.
I am a nurse with a nipple mother. You can ask me any questions in the process of educating your children. I hope my advice can help you solve the confusion and troubles in the process of taking care of your baby and let our children grow up better!