What is the legend that a man's first birthday is hard to meet and a woman's second birthday is hard to meet?

According to folklore, babies are born with birth taboos.

"Eight Characters" is a unique belief custom in China, which contains human life and destiny. As soon as the baby is born, its "eight characters" are determined. The "eight characters" are nothing more than arranged by the year, month, day and time of someone's birth. It is difficult to decide when a person will be born, but China people are superstitious, and a person's fate lies in the moment of birth. The "eight characters" of Han people must be clearly remembered. Otherwise, not only can you not ask for fortune telling, you don't know the future, and even it is difficult to find a spouse when you grow up. Because, in that era when people believed in the fate of "eight characters", people who didn't know the fate of "eight characters" were like a "black man" of unknown origin, and no one dared to talk about marriage with him. It is an ancient custom of Han nationality to avoid the baby being born in the same month as his father. According to the "common sense" cloud: "If you don't adopt a father, the common cloud will hinder your father." So the baby's constellation is the same as the father's, which is taboo. This custom belief also affects many other nationalities. For example, Bai people must remember the baby's "eight characters". And as soon as the baby is born, please ask the fortune teller to list the "eight characters" as the core monument of life. If the "eight characters" are directly related to parents' "eight characters" (such as Zi, Wu Mao and You), it is very taboo. Babies must be given to others or gods, or signposts must be erected at intersections to eliminate hidden dangers. ?

In the constellation, a person should not be a sheep at birth. It is said that people born in the Year of the Sheep will encounter all kinds of disasters. As the saying goes, "ten sheep are not complete." However, some surveys show that the situation of people who belong to sheep is roughly the same as that of other animals, so there is no need to be "incomplete". Many people who belong to the sheep have their parents alive and their children intact, without illness or disability. It can be seen that this is just a blind taboo. Moreover, it is unscientific to judge the fate of a baby at birth. ?

Speaking of the birth of a baby, in the past, some days were taboo in China. First, the first day of the first month, fifteen; One is the fifth day of May; One is July 15. ?

In the first month, it was a busy day for China New Year. If a baby is born in the first month, it is considered to be the baby's sexual poison, which will make parents uneasy. During the Chinese New Year, they are easy to relax and be happy. They will be very nervous and busy all their lives, and even have to worry, be afraid, suffer and be implicated. Therefore, children born at this time are taboo, saying that they will hinder their parents when they grow up. There is a saying in Henan: "Men are afraid of the first day, and women are afraid of the fifteenth." The first day is New Year's Day, and the boy born on New Year's Day is fatal. You can't beat and scold a child during the Spring Festival, so that the child's parents will not dare to discipline him in the future, which will hinder his parents. The fifteenth day of the first month is the Lantern Festival, which is the time to watch lanterns. When girls are born at this time, adults can't watch lanterns and enjoy small things. I am also afraid that girls born at this time will be playful and become "crazy girls" when they grow up, hurting their parents. It is said that the people once abandoned the girl born on the fifteenth day of the first month. ?

"Be born on May 5th, don't lift it" has a very common and lasting influence among the people in China. According to the "Custom Yi Tong" cloud: "According to legend, children were born on May 5, and the male harmed the father and the female harmed the mother." According to Biography of Historical Records of Meng Changjun, the reason for not giving up children on May 5th is that "it will be bad for parents to live in harmony with their families and grow up". As the saying goes in Xijing Miscellanies: "As the saying goes, if you live in a household for five days, you will harm yourself, and if you don't live, you will harm your mother." There is also a folk saying that people born on this day have the same pronunciation as their parents, so they are harmful to their parents. Men blame their fathers and women blame their mothers. In fact, in the old society, the whole of May was regarded as an evil month, and May 5th was also called "Five Poisons Day", which was unlucky. Children born on this day may be suspected of being reincarnated by the five poisons, so people often abandon their babies and drown them on this day, which is really superstitious and harmful. The influence of this custom also spread to the upper class, such as Shi Shuo Xin Yu, Biography of Filial Son, Song Shu, Tang Shu and so on. It is said that because of the "power" of this custom, even Song Huizong, who was born on May 5th, had to hide his birthday, and changed it to 10/0, and designated it as "Tianning Festival". Of course, this taboo was unreasonable, so some people opposed it in ancient times, such as Meng Changjun. Nowadays, not many people still believe in it. ?

On July 15, in the old society, it was commonly called "Ghost Festival", and people had the custom of putting on river lanterns. People think that this day is the day when wild ghosts return to the sun. Most of the babies born on this day are reincarnated by wild ghosts holding lotus lanterns. Children born on this day are not easy to discipline when they grow up, which will harm their parents. There are many sayings in the north. There is another saying in Linxian County, Henan Province that July 15 is the birthday of cows, donkeys, mules and horses. Probably think that most wild ghosts reincarnate as livestock and serve people on this day. People don't treat livestock well on this day, but also treat them well. Therefore, people dare not say that people were born on July 15. Only when joking or swearing will you say, "You were born on July 15." It can be seen that being born on July 15 is a taboo.