Cultivating awareness of basic social etiquette is the basic knowledge of social interaction. So how much do you know about basic etiquette? The following is the content of basic etiquette knowledge compiled by me. I hope you like it!
1. Basic Etiquette: Appearance
1. Appearance? Chapter 1. The key to an impression
Appearance, that is, a person's appearance, including appearance, clothing, posture and demeanor, is the external expression of a person's upbringing and character.
Paying attention to personal hygiene and keeping neat clothes are the most basic requirements for beautiful appearance. In daily life, as long as conditions permit, you must wash yourself frequently and maintain good hygiene. Especially in social situations, you must dress neatly and be in good spirits.
You must know yourself correctly, do not blindly follow trends, pay attention to decency and harmony, dress appropriately, behave generously, have a friendly attitude, be smart and smart, and have a distinctive personality.
2. Appearance? Wear light makeup and heavy makeup appropriately
Appearance is appearance, which consists of hair style, face and all the skin of the human body that is not covered by clothing. It is the basic element of personal appearance. . Keeping clean is the most basic, simplest and most universal form of beauty.
Men should pay attention to the cleanliness of details, such as eyes, nose, mouth, beard, nails, etc. You know, sometimes the details can determine everything.
Students in their prime are naturally beautiful and generally do not need to wear makeup. Professional women, especially those in social situations, often wear makeup. On certain occasions, appropriate beauty and makeup is a form of courtesy and a reflection of self-respect and respect for others.
The shade of makeup should be chosen according to different times and occasions. In normal times, it is advisable to wear light makeup and pay attention to nature and harmony. It is not advisable to wear heavy makeup with overpowering fragrance. When attending social activities such as parties and dances, you should wear heavy makeup appropriately.
3. Hairdressing? Fashion does not mean good.
Hair style is an extremely important part of appearance. Neat hair and decent hairstyle are the basic requirements for hairdressing. Neat, decent and generous hair style can easily leave people with a refreshing aesthetic feeling, while unkempt hair will inevitably remind people of beggars.
The choice of hairstyle should be based on the principles of naturalness, generosity, neatness and beauty. It is necessary to observe the fashion trends of hairstyles and not blindly follow the trends. The most important thing is to take into account your age, gender, occupation, Personality, hobbies and facial features.
Hair care:
⑴ Wash and wash frequently to keep it clean. When shampooing, massage your scalp with your fingers to promote blood circulation and help hair growth. Combing your hair frequently can also promote blood circulation in the head. You should also cut off dry and split ends in time to keep your hair beautiful.
⑵ Perm and dye hair should be treated with caution and proportion, otherwise it will damage the hair and damage your own image.
4. We should also pay attention to the principles of clothing
⑴ Follow the internationally accepted three principles of TPO:
T (Time) means time, that is, the dress code In season. Not only must we take into account seasonal changes and the temperature difference between morning and evening, but we must also pay attention to the requirements of the times and try to avoid wearing clothing that is incompatible with the season.
P (Place) means occasion, that is, dress accordingly. Wear professional attire when going to work, and solemn formal attire on important social occasions. Those who are disheveled and have low-cut and exposed backs are really not suitable to enter solemn places such as courts and museums.
O (Object) represents the wearer and the purpose of dressing, that is, dressing should suit oneself. You should choose clothing based on the nature of your work, the specific requirements of social activities, and your own image characteristics.
⑵ Pay attention to coordination
It must be coordinated with age and body shape. The miniskirt and white stockings look innocent and lively on the girl. Thin and fat people should not wear clothes that are too tight to avoid highlighting their imperfections.
Must be coordinated with professional identity. People with a certain status do not have much freedom in clothing. People in the administration, education, health, finance, telecommunications and service industries are required to dress in a steady, dignified and refreshing manner, giving people a sense of trustworthiness. Public relations ladies should not wear overly sexy clothing, otherwise it will cause trouble or even harm. The clothing of politicians and public figures often becomes a topic of media concern, and should not be taken lightly.
5. Suit? Wear it with style.
Wear a suit more elegantly, otherwise it will look nondescript.
⑴ Shirts for suits
Shirts should generally be of hard-collared and pointed-angle type. The collar must be straight, about 1.5 cm higher than the collar of the coat, and close to the collar. . Solid colors are preferred, among which white is the easiest color to match. The cuffs are slightly longer than the suit cuffs by about 2 cm. The hem should be tucked into the pants, not hanging out. When wearing a shirt with a tie, all buttons should be fastened and the sleeves should not be rolled up. When not wearing a tie, leave the top button unbuttoned.
⑵ Suit jacket
Before wearing a newly purchased suit, you should cut off the trademark (small strip of cloth) on the sleeve.
Double-breasted suits are more solemn. Generally, the buttons should be fastened and should not be left open. The buttoning method of a single-row, two-button suit is very particular: buttoning only the top button is dignified, leaving it unbuttoned is chic, buttoning both buttons is dull, and buttoning only the bottom button is cool. For a three-button suit, it is better to button the top two buttons, or just button the middle button, or leave it unbuttoned at all. Do not button only the bottom button, and it is not advisable to button only the bottom two buttons.
The pockets on the suit jacket are only decorative and generally do not contain anything to keep them flat and straight. The left breast pocket can only be used for flowers or handkerchiefs. Do not put pens, notepads, etc. in the outer left breast pocket. These small items can be placed in the inner left and right breast pockets of the jacket.
⑶ Tie
When wearing a suit, the tie plays the finishing touch. First of all, pay attention to the color of the tie and coordinate it with the jacket. After the tie is fastened, the length should be such that the large arrow hangs down to the lower edge of the belt, and it can float up or down about an inch. The tie clip is usually sandwiched between the third and fourth buttons of the shirt; the tie clip can also be pinned inside without being exposed, and it only serves a fixing function. If you wear a vest or sweater, be sure to put your tie inside the sweater or vest, and be careful not to tuck the hem of the sweater or vest into your pants to avoid becoming bloated.
⑷ Suit trousers
The trousers of a suit should touch the instep with the trouser legs, generally reaching half of the back of the leather shoes. The pants line should be clear and straight. Pants should be buttoned and all zippers tightened.
⑸ Matching shoes and socks
When wearing a suit, you must wear leather shoes. Never wear sandals, cloth shoes, travel shoes, etc., and the leather shoes must be polished. Black leather shoes can be matched with suits of various colors. Leather shoes of other colors must be the same or close to the color of the suit to match. Socks should also be worn and should not be ignored. The color of the socks should be the same or close to the color of the leather shoes. It is not advisable to wear white socks with black leather shoes, and men should not wear flesh-colored stockings commonly used by women.
6. Women’s clothing? Reflect taste and style
For ladies who love beauty, they must dress appropriately and tastefully.
⑴ Consider your own body shape first
People with short and fat bodies should avoid choosing clothes that are too bright, with large flowers, and large plaids. Instead, they should wear vertical line styles, elegant colors, and Tailored clothing. People who are tall and thin should avoid wearing vertical lines and clothes that are too transparent.
⑵ You should also consider your own skin color
People with fair skin can wear any color. If you wear dark clothes, your skin will look whiter and smoother; people with dark skin are best. Choose elegant, brighter colors to achieve a toning effect.
⑶ Clothes should be coordinated
Generally speaking, the texture and style of tops and bottoms should match. Do not wear heavy tops and light bottoms, and do not wear professional attire. And wearing jeans. In addition, we must also pay attention to the harmony and unity of colors.
⑷ Clothing and shoes should also be matched in color and style, such as suits with high-end leather shoes, sports shoes with travel shoes, etc.
7. Fashionable? It may also be harmful to your taste.
Don’t follow fashion. It was once very popular for women to wear leggings and bodybuilding pants, but little did they know that they evolved from European and American women's underwear and could only be worn at home or while doing some kind of exercise, and were not considered elegant. Leather skirts were once popular among girls, which made people laugh and cry because they were a relatively open and sexy look. How could white-collar beauties and female college students imitate them at will?
In recent years, girls have become fashionable in backless and low-cut styles. Suspenders and slippers form a beautiful focal point. This kind of clothing can be worn for leisure and entertainment, but it is indecent in offices, libraries, and classrooms!
Civil servants and white-collar workers must dress neatly, steadily, and elegantly when working in the office. Staff are not allowed to wear sportswear, shorts, sportswear, and slippers when working. In particular, women are not allowed to wear fashionable and sexy clothes such as miniskirts, tank tops, halter tops, tight pants, and navel-baring tops in the office.
8. Ornaments? Make one thing clever and stylish
Ornaments are the embellishments of a person’s attire. They can be the finishing touch or superfluous. More is not always the better, so we have to pay attention to it.
⑴ Adapt to the occasion. High-end jewelry is suitable for grand social occasions and should not be worn at work or leisure.
⑵ Suitable for identity. The jewelry you choose should be suitable for your gender, age, occupation and role. Young students generally should not wear jewelry; civil servants cannot wear jewelry when wearing law enforcement uniforms, and it is better to wear as few jewelry as possible; men should not expose necklaces if they wear them.
⑶ Exploit strengths and avoid weaknesses. When choosing jewelry, you should consider your body shape, skin color, clothing style and other factors. Pay attention to your strengths and avoid your weaknesses. For example, a fatter person with a short neck should wear a longer and thin necklace; a slim person with a slender neck should wear a wider and thicker necklace to create an optical illusion to make up for the lack of beauty in the neck.
⑷ A small amount is better. Wearing lots of jewelry ostentatiously seems tacky.
If you intend to wear multiple types of jewelry at the same time, the total number cannot exceed 3 types, and only the bride can make an exception.
⑸ The color and quality are the same. If you wear multiple pieces of jewelry at the same time, you should strive to have the same color and texture to avoid being multifarious and dazzling.
⑹ Wear it properly. Understand and respect customs. Usually only one necklace is worn, and it is not suitable to hang gold necklaces, pearl necklaces, etc. at the same time; earrings should be worn in pairs, and it is not suitable to wear multiple earrings on one ear at the same time; one or two bracelets can be worn, but they should not be worn on the same ear. Wear multiple bracelets on each hand. Usually only one bracelet is worn on the left hand. It is not advisable to wear bracelets on both hands at the same time. Brooches are usually pinned to the left collar or left chest of the suit.
9. Smile? The priceless treasure of life
Smile is a polite expression that everyone can show. It not only adds luster to daily life and social activities, but also has unlimited benefits in economic life. potential value.
And this "smile" is the simplest and most common expression in etiquette, and it is also the most beautiful expression of people's kindness and friendliness.
A smile is as precious as millions of dollars. It is not only an emotion, but also a character and a skill. It can be turned into huge energy and materials.
It can be seen that smiling etiquette has become an effective means of social competition popular in the world. This is not only a reflection of the progress of social civilization, but also reflects the intensification of social competition and the tense pace of human life. It is even more necessary to embellish the reality of life with a smile. 2. Basic Etiquette: Manners
1. Manners? Show your upbringing
Manners refers to a person's posture, behavior and demeanor, that is, a person's expression, behavior, and movements. Including human body language. It reflects a person's personality, psychology, emotions, qualities and temperament. Personal etiquette cultivation is expressed through every move.
Even if a person has outstanding appearance and fashionable clothes, if he does not have corresponding behavioral beauty, his image will be destroyed. Our posture and behavior should reflect the beauty of elegant and appropriate behavior.
You should stand like a standing person, sit like a sitting person, and walk like a walking person. Be straightforward but not reckless, lively but not frivolous, work nervously but not overwhelmed, be relaxed but not lazy when resting, be polite but not inferior when interacting with guests.
A person’s temperament, demeanor and etiquette cannot be achieved just by dressing up in high-end clothing, let alone being praised by people, but are naturally reflected in his words and deeds .
2. Standing posture? You must have a sense of stability
The easiest way to express body characteristics is when a person is standing. When standing in social situations, it is required to "stand with the right posture", and pay attention to the beauty and elegance of the posture.
Women should be slim, quiet and elegant; men should be strong, upright, steady and generous.
The correct standing posture should be: upright, solemn, and stable. When a person is standing, when viewed from the front, the nose should be used as a point to make a vertical shape with the ground. The human body is symmetrical on both sides of the vertical line, and the expression is natural and clear.
Warm reminder? Pay attention to avoid indecent postures, such as:
⑴ Upper body. Tilted neck, slanted shoulders, one shoulder high and one low, arched back, protruding abdomen, protruding buttocks, or leaning on other objects.
⑵ Hands and feet. The legs are bent and spread widely apart, and in general situations, the hands are on the hips, the arms are folded in front of the chest, and the hands are in the pockets.
⑶ Action. Scratching the head and itching, playing with clothes, braids, nail biting, etc.
3. Sitting posture? Pay attention to stability
Sitting posture is the most important human posture in interpersonal communication, and it reflects very rich information. Beautiful sitting posture is upright, elegant, natural and generous.
When taking a seat, walk to the front of the seat and then turn around, then take a half step back with your right foot, sit down gently and firmly, and retract your right foot.
After sitting down, sit upright with your upper body naturally, relax your shoulders, stand upright, and straighten your chest. Put your hands on your knees or cross your hands and place them in half-clenched fists on your legs. You can also bend your arms slightly, with your palms facing down and put it on the table. The legs should be bent naturally, and the feet should be flat on the ground. Men's knees should be slightly apart, while women's knees should be close together, feet should be parallel, and the buttocks should sit in the center of the chair (men can fill the chair with their backs lightly leaning against the back). Look straight with your eyes, lips slightly closed, chin slightly retracted, and a smile on your face. When standing up, take a half step back with your right foot, then stand upright and retract your right foot.
Warm reminder? Resolutely avoid the following bad sitting postures:
⑴ When sitting, lean forward or backward, or crookedly, with a curved back, head tilted too far forward, or shrugging of the shoulders.
⑵ The legs are spread too far apart or stretched out too far, and you slump in the chair sluggishly.
⑶ Move the chair at will after sitting down, and shake your legs when crossing your legs in formal occasions.
⑷ In order to show modesty, he deliberately sits on the edge of the chair, shrinking his body and leaning forward to talk to others.
⑸ Keep your thighs together and your calves apart, or put your hands under your buttocks and keep your legs and feet shaking.
4. Walking posture? Show spiritual outlook
Walking is the main action in human life. From a person's walking posture, we can see whether his spirit is enterprising or frustrated and lazy, as well as whether he is popular, etc. It can best reflect a person's mental outlook
Some people in life carefully If someone is dressed fashionably, but his walking posture is not beautiful, he will look inferior. However, even though some people's clothing is simple, their graceful walking posture makes them look extraordinary.
The standard walking posture requires the upper body to be straight when walking, the shoulders to be stable, the eyes to be level, the chin to be slightly retracted, and the face to be smiling; the arms are straight and relaxed, and the fingers are naturally bent. When swinging, the shoulder joint is used as the axis. The upper arm drives the forearm to swing forward and backward naturally; the body leans forward slightly, lifts the hip and flexes the thigh, driving the calf forward.
Warm reminder? Pay attention to correcting unsightly walking posture:
⑴ Internal and external horoscopes.
⑵ Stooped and hunched, shoulders crooked and shoulders swaying.
⑶ When walking, wave your hands, twist your waist and hips, swagger, and look left and right.
⑷ The legs are too bent or curved.
⑸ The steps are too big or too small; do not rub your feet on the ground, put your hands in your trouser pockets or drag your back feet on the ground.
⑹ If a man walks like a woman with small feet, one step at a time; or if he steps forward like an idler, it will give people a feeling of sluggishness.
5. Squatting posture? Don’t ignore elegance.
Generally, the following two squatting postures are suitable:
⑴ Cross squatting posture. When squatting, put your right foot in front, left foot behind, right calf basically perpendicular to the ground, whole foot on the ground, left leg behind and overlapping the right leg, left knee extended from behind to the right, left heel lifted, sole of foot Land on the ground, with your legs close together in front and back, working together to support your body. Buttocks downward, upper body slightly forward.
⑵ High and low squatting position. When squatting, put your left foot in front, right foot behind, and squat down with your legs close together. The whole left foot is on the ground, the calf is basically perpendicular to the ground, the heel of the right foot is lifted, and the sole of the foot is on the ground. The right knee is lower than the left knee, and the inner side of the right knee is close to the inner side of the left calf, forming a posture where the left knee is high and the right knee is low. The buttocks are downward, and the body is basically supported by one leg.
Warm reminder
When squatting, you must be careful not to bend over or lift your buttocks back; avoid spreading your legs, spreading your legs to balance squats, and lowering your body. When squatting, expose your underwear and other indecent movements so as not to affect the beauty of your posture. Therefore, when you want to pick up something that has fallen on the ground or take something from a low place, you should not just bend your upper body or raise your buttocks. Instead, you should first walk to the side of the thing you want to pick up or take, and then use the correct squatting posture. Pick things up.
6. When delivering things? Pay attention to safety, convenience, and respect.
Behavior should consider whether it is polite and whether it hurts others. Taking common items delivered in daily life as an example, please grasp the three principles of submitting items: safety, convenience, and respect.
If you hand a knife or a pen to someone else, you must "give the person a handle". Never hand the knife or pen to others. You should make the person feel safe and make it convenient for the other person. Catch and wait for the other person to catch the ball firmly before letting go. This is a sign of respect for others.
When serving tea and water, it is best to pass it with both hands, and be careful not to wet others; pay attention to hygiene, and do not touch the upper edge of the cup with the hand holding the tea cup to avoid touching the lips of the guests when they drink water. place.
If you hand over books or documents, you should try your best to hand them over with both hands, so that the text faces the other party so that the other party can see it clearly. You cannot just consider your own convenience and let others take the book and document and then turn it over to see clearly. Word.
Warm reminder
When handing over items, it is generally required to look pleasant and say polite words such as: "Please take it", "Please have tea", "Please put it away", etc. Pay attention to eye contact. It is best for both parties to be at eye level. Try to avoid being arrogant and giving when you look down, or fearful and flattering when you look up.
7. Behavior? Pay attention to the situation, role, and distance.
Behavior should be just right. Three elements of manners: situation, role, and distance.
⑴ As the situation changes, whether in the office or on the sports field, in the classroom or in the football stands, attending a wedding or a funeral, a gathering of friends or a business negotiation? It is normal for the behavior to be completely different. .
⑵ Have role awareness
If there is no distinction between priorities, no big or small, and the main thing is to turn against the guest, it will either have ulterior motives or make people laugh. As a member of society, people cannot behave as they please. In particular, officials, soldiers, teachers and other types of people obviously do not have much freedom of action. The behavior of special characters is particularly interesting and has a distinctive effect.
⑶ There is a concept of distance
If male and female classmates are often too close, it will be suspected of being too close; if a couple is too far apart, they will There is a feeling of awkwardness. Especially in social activities, the distance between people has a specific meaning.
For example, a distance of about 75 centimeters is the "personal realm", which means "cordiality, friendliness, and harmony", and is suitable for heart-to-heart conversations with friends, comrades, and colleagues; a distance of less than 45 centimeters is the "intimate realm", which means "intimate, intimate, and intimate". Caressing? is suitable for communication between lovers, couples, mothers and daughters, and other closest people.
8. Handshake? The transmission of friendly emotions
The order of handshakes should adhere to the principle of respectable people first and ladies first. The order is: superiors, elders, ladies. Specifically, between superiors and subordinates, the superior usually reaches out first, and then the subordinates shake hands; between elders and juniors, the elder should take the initiative to reach out first, and the juniors should respond immediately; between men and women, the lady should be the first to reach out generously. Extend your hand and the man responds politely.
On special occasions to express congratulations and condolences, subordinates, juniors, and men can also extend their hands first.
Between host and guest: When welcoming guests, the host should extend his hand first to show welcome; when bidding farewell, the guest should extend his hand first to express gratitude. When saying goodbye, if the host extends his hand first, it means to expel the guest.
Warm Tips
⑴ When reaching out, your right palm should be perpendicular to the ground to show friendliness and equality. If the hand is extended with the palm upward, it is a submissive handshake gesture, which expresses humility, obedience, or even begging and fawning; if the hand is extended with the palm downward, it is a controlling handshake gesture, which expresses condescension, arrogance, and dominance. Control the other person's intention.
⑵ When shaking hands, you must pay attention to eye contact and make appropriate greetings. Avoid wandering eyes, looking left and right, or talking to a third person when shaking hands with the other party.
⑶ Usually, handshakes can only be done one-on-one. Be careful not to shake hands with several people across each other. You must wait until others have finished shaking hands before shaking hands.
⑷ You cannot wear gloves to shake hands with others, except for women’s dress gloves.
⑸ When shaking hands with ordinary women, you only need to hold the fingers.
⑹ Do not shake hands with people with wet hands, dirty hands or diseased hands. If the other person has extended your hand, you should show your hands and briefly explain the situation to express your apology in order to gain understanding and avoid being rude. .
⑺ Do not shake hands when crossing the threshold. When the host and guest say goodbye, they should be careful not to shake hands when crossing the threshold (one foot on the edge of the threshold and one foot on the outside of the threshold).
9. Salutes? Colorful and flexible.
⑴ Bow
Bowing is one of the traditional etiquettes in ancient my country. It is still a way for people to express respect and respect when they meet. Friendly body language. Compared with shaking hands, bowing expresses deeper respect. It is often used in weddings and funerals, actors' curtain calls, speeches, awards and other scenes, as well as subordinates to superiors, waiters to guests, and first meetings with friends. Especially when interacting between individuals and groups in public places, it is impossible for an individual to shake hands with many people one by one, so bowing is used instead, which is both respectful and time-saving, and is worthy of great promotion.
⑵ Arching hands (holding fists)
Arching hands is a very ethnic etiquette, and it can avoid the inconvenience of shaking hands when there are many people, and it is not limited by distance. , especially suitable for Spring Festival greetings, unit group visits, gatherings of relatives and friends, or congratulations to others.
⑶ Stand up
This is a polite gesture to show respect to elders and guests. It is often used by students to pay tribute to teachers before class, and to pay tribute to important leaders, guests, and speakers during meetings. Usually, when a seated person with a lower status sees a distinguished person who has just entered the room, a seated man sees a standing woman, or when seeing them off, they must stand up to show their respect.
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