1, first prepare yourself mentally.
Most elderly people die of diseases, such as Parkinson's disease and cerebral infarction. As children, we must pay attention to the situation of the elderly. If you find that the elderly can't eat, have difficulty swallowing, are unconscious and can't express clearly, you should be prepared to leave at any time because the elderly don't have much time.
2. Second, prepare for the funeral.
Old people in both cities and rural areas will hold some farewell ceremonies or funerals after their death. As children, we should know these contents in detail in advance and discuss the specific matters of funeral with brothers and sisters and living parents. If people leave, it will be too late, and many things will be difficult to control. The following funeral preparations:
(1), discuss and determine the days of the funeral. Customs vary from place to place, some places hold it for two or three days, and some places hold it for four or five days. If the child is working in a foreign country, it is difficult to ask for leave or it is too long to ask for leave. It is necessary to discuss the number of days of funeral. If we calculate the number of days of local funerals according to some eight characters, gossip and so on. And it must be implemented, and you can only decide for yourself.
(2) Discuss and determine the items to be purchased for the funeral:
One is the necessities of the deceased. Such as coffin, shroud, etc.
The second is the items needed for sacrifice. Such as paper money, incense sticks and firecrackers.
The third is a must-have item for white things. Such as tobacco and alcohol, melon seeds and peanuts, candy, meat, vegetables and so on. The above items can be purchased during the funeral, and there are people who specialize in dealing with white affairs in various places, and they can buy them according to their requirements. )
(3) Discuss and determine the allocation method of funeral expenses. If there is only one child in the family, it is basically your own solution. If there are several brothers and sisters in the family, they should be divided equally.
3. Finally, there are some specific problems of the old man before and after his death.
If you find that the elderly have little time, you must take care of them at last, and you must discuss specific issues, such as where to take care of them and who will take care of them. There is a tradition in China that when parents die, it is best to have children around. This is called "seeing off". In addition, after the old man leaves, it is necessary to consider in advance whether to send him back to his hometown for burial or to take him to the funeral home for treatment.
For example, vehicles for transporting the deceased must be implemented in advance. After the funeral, there are some customs, such as protecting the mountain, the first seven, reviving the soul and so on, which can be discussed and determined after the funeral.
People are inherently mortal. After the death of the old man, as the younger generation, we should be loyal and filial to him. After all, it is the last journey to send the elderly. Therefore, some specific etiquette must be understood and respected.
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Matters needing attention in attending the funeral:
1. Dress solemnly, generously and neatly when attending the funeral, and it is best to wear white and black clothes.
2. When attending the funeral, the expression should be solemn and sad, and the memory of the deceased should be expressed. Don't laugh and curse during the funeral, it will ruin the atmosphere at the funeral scene.
3. After arriving at the funeral scene, we should first go to the body of the experimenter, bow down with a pious attitude and express our memory of the deceased. Pay attention when saluting, and never look around.