I also believe that fate is destined.
Of course, destined fate is not necessarily a good fate. Some fates are for repaying kindness, and some are for revenge. But the matter of grudges and grudges is also very complicated, and it is not as simple as what you see in front of you. Perhaps it can be made clear to a certain extent by using the Taoist saying "Blessings lie where misfortunes lie, misfortunes lie where blessings depend."
Let me tell you a story about a friend around me.
A friend of mine, a girl, went to a master to tell fortunes before she got married. This master is a very profound person. It is said that he can see a person's life and even previous lives, in a way that seems to be like a movie. Quickly review in fast forward mode. The master told her that the person she would really end up with would not appear until she was 27 years old, but she would encounter a fate when she was 24 years old. She could choose to start it or not, but no matter whether it started or not, the ending would be between her and The person you met when you were 24 will never end up together. She asked the master, in this case, could she just not choose to start? The master said nothing. The master said that he saw that my friend, who was a young lady from a large family in the Qing Dynasty, went out hunting and killed a rabbit. The rabbit would repay her kindness in this life. My friend was confused at the time. Why did the rabbit come to repay the favor after he had obviously killed it? The master said that the rabbit was begging for death at that time, and my friend helped it. My friend thought it was a bit ridiculous at the time and didn't take it seriously, but when he was 24 years old, he suddenly fell in love with a boy at work, and the boy also liked him very much. The terrible thing was that the boy was really a rabbit.
At that time, my friend’s family situation was relatively bad. It was not a bad family situation, but a tense relationship with her parents. She wanted to escape, but the appearance of this boy It gave her something to rely on, and the boy quickly proposed to her, so they got married quickly and she escaped from her native family. The boy had always been very kind to her, but some problems arose after the marriage. The relationship between the two of them was very bad, and they ended their married life. It was not that the girl did not need her, but that the boy had become very cold. , the girl has no feelings for him anymore. Now the boy takes good care of her in all aspects except sex. There is no more love between them and it has become a family relationship. My friend has a bad temper and can explode at any time, but the boy is very tolerant of her, and the girl often feels that he is the only one in the world who can be so tolerant of her. But the girl is in trouble. I wonder what kind of pain it will be if such a sexless marriage lasts for a lifetime? It is very confusing to give up and not to give up.
Later, when the girl was 27 years old, she met a new boy. The two of them had a very good relationship together and were very harmonious. This boy was also very good to her, but she is still married. She was in a dilemma again. She couldn't bear to leave the rabbit that repaid her kindness, and she often suffered from her current marital and emotional state. So far, it seems that everything the master said before is correct. I don’t know what her future will be like. I hope she will have a good life in the future.
Actually, I don’t know what she will choose in the future. If the master’s prediction is correct, then she should be with the boy she met later in the future, but her being with him is the ultimate outcome. , but is it necessarily good? It's hard to say. In fact, it's not just lovers who get married in the end, but many times there may be enemies. Therefore, there are many people who have been noisy together all their lives. Although they are together, it is painful. Of course, I believe that the boy she met later was really good to her and was not here for revenge.