Growing up, we were all taught by our elders: Girls, stop crying.
Think about the articles that advise women to stand on their own feet instead of living by men, and think about the free and easy goodbye remarks that advise us to break up. I'm a little sad.
So, I thought of that bad sentence: "A girl who loves to laugh, her luck will not be too bad."
But some girls love to laugh and have bad luck.
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I don't like crying since I was a child. Even if my parents beat me up for doing something wrong, I will hold back my tears and never tell anyone when I am wronged.
Because I always smile, my friends think I am cheerful and even carefree.
But in fact, I feel very uncomfortable. I really want to find a place to cry.
Once, after I set up a stall, I was crying alone in my bedroom, trying to suppress my sobs, and I wiped the rolls of paper towels clean with the naked eye.
But none of my roommates came to ask me, "What's wrong with you?"
No comfort, no questions, only silence.
Not that they are bad, but because in their eyes, I seldom shed tears, even when I am sad, I will adjust quickly.
I know, I can understand.
When I cried out of breath, I desperately needed someone to comfort me, but I never told anyone that I needed it.
So I cried all night. The next day, I sent a message to all my good friends.
I thought they would think it was no big deal, but I didn't expect them to say, "Why didn't you say so earlier?" Why didn't you tell me earlier? "
Only then did I know that a girl who loves to cry can be very lucky.
Blindly pursuing the appearance of being strong in front of people will not make you happy, but will easily lead to mental illness.
From that day on, no matter what grievances I encounter, I will try my best to cry and not hold it in my heart.
When all the negative emotions come out of my heart, I often don't dwell on this matter for too long.
If you don't tell, others will never know that you are uncomfortable, let alone the tears you shed inexplicably.
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I have a friend who loves to cry.
I like crying. If I buy something on Taobao and find it doesn't match the picture, I will cry all night.
At best, it is crying, at worst, it is melodramatic.
But it is such a girl who is innocent.
She loves to cry and show weakness because there are people behind her who can rely on her.
If she cries, her parents will coax her, her friends will comfort her, and her boyfriend will give her send warm.
Just like the princess whose sky is full of stars, everyone knows that she is fragile and loves to cry, so everyone protects her.
When someone hurts you and someone loves you, you will naturally think of your weakest side in the bright side.
Just like in the variety show, Big S always cries in front of Wang Xiaofei, because Big S knows that Wang Xiaofei loves her and is willing to tolerate her, so she shows her emotions.
This is not an act, but an expression of love.
You know, many women, after marriage, don't cry in front of their husbands, even say a word carefully.
In contrast, people like big S who don't need to pretend to be strong and cry when they want to, will be more likely to come into contact with happiness.
And these unscrupulous women cry, they all have people who will protect them, but those women who pretend to be strong and smile don't.
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I remember my parents quarreled once when I was a child.
My mother has always been a woman who never shed tears, but she shed tears after that quarrel.
Dad, who was very angry, suddenly froze when he saw it. His angry words were abruptly suppressed.
Maybe he doesn't know why his wife, who has always been mean, shed tears. Perhaps he panicked in the face of such sudden tears.
Then he ran away. Only mother was crying.
The next day, my father secretly asked my mother's colleague, "How is my wife? What is the state today? "
Everyone regards no tears as a symbol of maturity, because tears represent vulnerability.
But in a close relationship, tears are like the lubricant of your feelings, which will mediate the contradictions between you and resolve those problems that you think cannot be solved.
Girls who love to laugh, they are not necessarily happy, but girls who love to cry, they must be emotional.
When there is no one behind, you can only stand up straight and smile at everyone who comes to you.
When you have someone to protect you and someone to vent your anger, you can actually put down that disguise and show your grievances and sadness in the form of tears.
These women will release their emotions more than those who pretend to be strong, so they will be happier.
And I always believe that crying is not an ugly thing, on the contrary, it may bring you waves of good luck.