The ancient wedding process has the theory of "six rites", which refers to the six steps of accepting gifts, asking for names, accepting gifts, accepting emblems, asking for dates, and welcoming in person.
The so-called "acceptance" means that the man invites a matchmaker to go to the woman's home to propose marriage. According to ancient rituals, before the offer is made, the man has to invite a matchmaker to the woman's house to find out the news, and the marriage can only be done after the woman's family agrees. The gift of acceptance. The goose must be used to accept the bride. "The lamb's goose is at the door" means that the matchmaker comes to propose marriage to the woman. Zheng Xuan's explanation for this is "the goose is used for the true person, and the one who goes with the yin and yang is chosen." Jia Gongyan of the Tang Dynasty said in more detail: "The wild geese have fallen to the south and soared, and the ice has spread across the north. The husband is yang and the woman is yin. Today's use of geese also takes the meaning of women following their husbands, so it is used for weddings." The wild geese come and go high and high. It was difficult to catch, and it was obviously not worthwhile to delay the marriage event because of the inability to get the goose, so everyone later made do and agreed to use the goose as a substitute. This change is absolutely beneficial to gay men. Even if you marry a hundred or eighty wives, it won't be a problem. The worst is to open a breeding farm!
After "Nacai" comes "asking for name", which is when the matchmaker asks the woman's name, age and "horoscope", and uses divination and fortune telling to see whether the man and woman will be in conflict with each other, and whether there will be any conflicts. There is no other place where it is inappropriate to form a couple. "Asking for names" is also called "Guo Xiao Tie" or "He Ba Zi".
After "asking for the name" is "Naji". The man's parents will give the matchmaker the birth date of their son and bring it to the woman. This is the "too big post" or "huanluan book", also known as "Tongshu" actually means a bit of engagement.
The next "Na Hui" is the most affordable for the girl's family. It probably means giving a betrothal gift. The betrothal gift has distinctive characteristics of the times. In ancient times, it was given to silk and the like, and later it was gold and silver treasures. Decades ago, betrothal gifts paid attention to how many wheels and feet they had. The three most popular items were "bicycles, sewing machines, watches," "refrigerators, color TVs, washing machines," etc. Nowadays, materials are plentiful and people's requirements are diverse. It is best to Give directly to RMB. From ancient times to the present, no matter what the betrothal gifts become, one eternal truth is that no matter how much the son-in-law’s family gives, the father-in-law will happily accept it. The more he gives, the sweeter his smile will be!
When the young son-in-law’s family was exhausted from all the trouble, the wedding of both parties began to be officially put on the agenda. The so-called "request period" was actually the time agreed upon by both parties to hold a wedding banquet and treat guests. "Ying" means to marry the bride and pass through the door. On the wedding day, the little son-in-law has to jump up and down and send out red envelopes all over the place, in order to finally get the bride home.