For speakers, there are not many situations where sitting posture is used, unless they are sitting while giving a speech. However, sitting down to give a speech will limit the speaker's space to use, and some expressive movements cannot be performed. Therefore, sitting down to give a speech will not be chosen by many speakers, except for some more academic lectures. In the author's opinion, the situation where a speaker can apply the sitting posture is when it is not his turn to appear yet, and he must sit in a chair and wait for the arrival of his own speech.
Although we are sitting in a less conspicuous place next to the speaker (compared to the rostrum of the speaker), we still have to "sit in a posture". Below, the author will explain one by one the requirements for sitting postures and the four commonly used sitting postures.
If we want to sit upright, we must first start with the requirements for sitting posture. The requirements for sitting posture run through the entire process of "sitting", which includes the three links of taking a seat, sitting down, and leaving the seat. Now introduce them one by one as follows:
Before taking a seat, if there is a speaker sitting next to the seat, you should first signal to the speaker with words or actions, and then take your seat. If you sit with others, you must pay attention to the order of priority. If the status is lower than the other person, you should sit down later; if the status is higher than the other person, you can sit down first; if the status of both parties is similar, you can sit down at the same time.
Sit from the left side of the chair, step your right foot to the center line of the chair, and place your body weight on your left foot.
The left foot follows immediately, and the body's center of gravity shifts to the right foot. Stand with your feet upright in front of the seat. At this time, your legs are about 10cm away from the front edge of the seat.
If you are a woman, while adjusting the hem of your skirt with both hands, sit down gently and steadily with your feet and knees together.
After sitting down, your upper body should be naturally straight, your chest should be raised, and your back should be about two fists away from the back of the chair.
For women, keep your knees together and keep your heels close to each other. For men, your knees can be spread apart, but not more than shoulder width apart.
Bend your legs naturally, bend your shoulders naturally, and place your hands naturally on your legs about 10-15cm away from your knees, or place your hands on the armrests of chairs or sofas, palms down.
Sit with your buttocks 2/3 of the way up the chair, which means you must fill 2/3 of the chair.
The head should be upright, the corners of the mouth should be slightly closed, the mandible should be slightly retracted, the eyes should be looking straight, the face should be calm and natural, and you can also smile.
When leaving your seat, if there is a speaker sitting next to you, you should first signal to the speaker with words or actions, and then leave your seat. If you leave your seat at the same time as others, you must pay attention to the order of precedence. If the status is lower than the other party, you should leave your seat later; if the status is higher than the other party, you can leave your seat first; if the status of both parties is similar, you can leave your seat at the same time. Please note: No matter what, it is considered rude to leave your seat early.
When leaving your seat, do not stand up and leave your seat suddenly to avoid scaring others. Movements should be gentle and slow, lean forward first, and then stand up slowly.
You must leave your seat from the left side. Please note that "exit left" is a courtesy.
After sitting down, where should you place your hands? Where can I place it to look natural and elegant? According to the author's personal experience, I believe that there are four commonly used ways of placing hands:
That is, the hands are placed flat on top of the legs, the left hand is placed exactly in the middle of the left leg, and the right hand is placed on the right In the middle of the leg, the palm of the hand is parallel to the thigh. This is the most common placement method for men, and it is also the safest way to place it. It just lacks creativity.
That is, the hands are overlapped and placed in the front of the middle of the two thighs or in front of the merged leg; or placed in the middle of the front of the leg after the cross, usually on both legs. On the upper thigh after crossing, this kind of placement has a more distinctive shape. However, it should be noted that the leg on top cannot be raised too high, shake, or sway, and the toes cannot You can't face others either, otherwise it will be disrespectful.
If the chair you are sitting on has armrests, you can use the "armrest position", that is, place one hand on the armrest and the other hand on the thigh on the same side; or place both hands on the same side. On the side armrests, the palms of both hands are facing down. This way of placement is more natural, but it doesn't look solemn enough.
If there is a table in front of the chair, you can use the "table position", that is, place your hands on the table with your hands spread out left and right, palms facing down; or cross your forearms and place them flat on the table, with your hands Palms down. This kind of placement looks very natural and stylish, but if there is no table in front of it, this kind of placement will not exist.
The above describes the standard way to place your hands after taking a seat. There are four commonly used ways. If you continue to ask: After sitting down, where should you place your legs? Where should I place it to look standardized and decent?
According to the author's personal experience, there are eight commonly used ways of placing legs:
That is, the calves are perpendicular to the ground (that is, the angle between the thighs and calves) Almost 90 degrees), with your toes pointed straight ahead, both soles of your feet on the ground (that is, without raising your back heels or raising your front toes), and step on the ground in front of the chair. At this time, women should keep their knees together and heels close together; men should spread their knees slightly apart, but not wider than shoulder width, otherwise it would be rude. This kind of placement is more natural, but it lacks creativity and seems a bit dull.
That is, on the basis of the standard pose, the two calves extend forward a distance of a footprint, and the body can lean forward slightly to show respect for others (if there is someone in front), but the toes cannot be turned up. . At this time, the women’s knees are still close together, while the men’s knees can be slightly opened. This way of placement looks very natural, and the whole person does not appear to be formal.
That is, on the basis of the standard form, bend the two calves backward, step back half a footprint, and touch the toes on the ground. At this time, the women's knees are still close together, and the men's knees can be slightly opened. This kind of placement is generally used by women, and it will look stingy if used by men.
It is also divided into two types: forward crossover and rear point crossover.
The forward cross pose is based on the forward reach pose. The right foot is retracted, the left foot is crossed, the two ankle joints overlap, and the toes touch the ground. At this time, women’s knees are close together and men’s knees are slightly apart.
The back point cross pose is based on the back point pose. The right foot is retracted, the left foot is crossed, the two ankle joints overlap, and the toes touch the ground. It is also required that women keep their knees together and men’s knees are slightly apart. Generally speaking, men tend to use the forward cross pose, while women tend to use the rear point cross pose.
That is, stretch your right foot forward for half a footprint, and step back half a footprint for your left foot. The legs are close together, and the front soles of both feet are on the ground, one after the other, exactly in a straight line. This arrangement is elegant and can be used by both men and women.
That is, based on the standard pose, one leg is raised and the leg socket falls on the knee joint of the other leg. At this time, the upper leg is pulled in as much as possible, with the toes pointed downward. This kind of placement is what we usually call the legs crossed. Long-term use of this sitting posture can easily cause uneven pressure distribution between the lumbar and thoracic vertebrae, causing unexplained low back pain, and even varicose veins and other diseases, so it is recommended to use it sparingly.
That is, the two calves are tilted out to the left, the knees are together, the right heel is close to the inside of the left foot, the right foot is on the ground, the left toe is on the ground, and the head and torso are tilted to the left. Please note: At this time, the thigh and calf should form a 90-degree right angle, and the calf should be fully straightened to show the length of the calf. This placement method is only for women and should not be used by men. In addition, this method is very elegant and can fully reflect the slender legs of women. However, this posture is not comfortable and is not suitable for long-term use.
On the basis of Side Point Pose, bend your left calf backward, place the inside of your left foot on the ground, lift your right foot, place your instep against your left foot, bring your knees and calves together, and turn your upper body to the right. At this time, the right leg seems to be hanging on the left leg. This placement method is also reserved for women only and should not be used by men. In addition, this method is also very elegant and can fully reflect the slender legs of women. However, this posture is also uncomfortable and should not be used for a long time.
The above has introduced four ways of placing hands and eight ways of placing legs in a sitting position. Now, combining the ways of placing hands and feet, we get the following There are four common basic sitting postures for men and six basic sitting postures for women.
That is, the hands are in a separate position and the legs are in a standard position.
That is, the hands are spread apart and the legs are stretched forward.
That is, the hands are spread apart and the legs are crossed (usually stretched forward).
That is, the hands are stacked and the legs are overlapped.
That is, the hands are stacked and the legs are standard.
That is, the hands are stacked and the legs are stretched forward.
That is, the hands are stacked and the legs are straight.
That is, the hands are stacked and the legs are side-pointed.
That is, the hands are stacked and the legs are hung sideways.
That is, the hands are stacked and the legs are pointed backward.
After talking about the correct sitting posture requirements and the basic sitting postures for men and women, I finally emphasize the precautions for "sitting", that is, in the process from sitting down to leaving the seat, some inelegant movements are necessary. Avoid to avoid making people laugh. Now these precautions are listed as follows:
■ When sitting down, your movements should be light and leisurely. Do not sit down suddenly, as if you are trying to grab a seat.
■ After sitting down, keep your upper body straight and avoid hunching your chest, leaning forward or backward, or twisting, which would give people the impression of being sluggish.
■ Do not sit half-lying or half-sitting, as this will give people a feeling of being unruly and uncultivated.
■ Do not put your hands on your hips, cross your hands on your chest, or spread your hands on the table.
■ Don’t put your hands between your legs, as this will make you feel less confident.
■ Do not put your hands under your hips, as this will make you look childish and extremely unconfident.
■ You cannot fiddle with your fingers, shake things in your hands, pull clothes, comb your hair, pick your nose or ears, etc.
■ Do not spread your legs too wide or extend them too long, as this will damage your personal image.
■ Do not put your feet together and spread your calves into a "figure eight" shape, nor hide your feet under the seat, as this would appear casual.
■ Don’t raise your legs in a “leg” or “4” shape. It will give people a feeling of arrogance and lack of self-cultivation, which is a taboo in interpersonal communication.
■ Don’t keep shaking your legs and feet, as this will make you look impatient.
■ Don’t point your toes at others. This is very rude.
■ Do not put your feet on the armrests of chairs, sofas, or coffee tables. This is very rude.
■ Do not make noises or drop chair cushions, chair covers, etc. on the ground due to carelessness.