[Letter of Engagement]: A letter given by the man’s family to the woman’s family when the man and woman are engaged, used to confirm the engagement.
[Book of Rituals]: A letter from the groom’s family to the bride’s family when a gift is given, detailing the items and quantities of the gift.
[Welcome Letter]: A letter from the groom’s family to the bride’s family on the wedding day. These three books are letters of tribute between men and women throughout the wedding process. [Nacai]: It was the first wedding ceremony in ancient times. If the man agrees with the woman, he will ask a matchmaker to act as a matchmaker [proposing marriage]. [Ask for name]: After the girl’s parents accept the proposal of marriage, they will give the girl’s birth year, month, and day (birth date) to the matchmaker. The matchmaker will write the bride-to-be’s birth date, name, place of origin, and three generations of information on red paper ( Called "Geng Tie"), it is given to the groom's family for divination of good and bad luck. The purpose is to prevent incest marriage and to predict whether the marriage is suitable, which is also called "combined eight characters".
[Najib]: Also known as [Guowending]. The groom's family will ask the husband to calculate whether the couple will cooperate with each other based on their age and gender to determine whether the marriage is auspicious. If the age and gender of the man and woman are not in conflict with each other, they can bring a small gift to the girl's family, present a letter of engagement, inform the girl's family that the marriage can proceed and discuss the terms of the engagement.
[Nazheng]: also known as excessive gift. It is a traditional etiquette that has been preserved more completely among the Three Books and Six Etiquettes and is also more valued. This move represents the man's love and respect for the woman, and also shows his wealth. This custom is still the most important in wedding etiquette to this day.
[Request period]: That is to say [select a date]. The groom's family asks the husband to choose a good and auspicious day to find a good day to get married, so that the marriage proposal goes smoothly and the two of them are harmonious. After the auspicious date is chosen, the bride's family is notified to prepare for their daughter's marriage, which is called the date.
[Welcome in person]: On the auspicious wedding day, the groom in formal dress, together with the matchmaker, relatives and friends, will go to the bride’s house to marry the bride in person. Before arriving at the bride's house, the groom must pay homage to the bride's ancestral temple, and then take the bride to the groom's house in a sedan chair. After completing the ceremony of worshiping heaven, earth and ancestors in the groom's family, he will be sent to the bridal chamber.