As the saying goes, "it is difficult to draw a tiger." People are the most complicated, and people's hearts are the most elusive. Some people look kind and have a good heart, but what they think on weekdays is despised by others.
A person who deserves to make friends often shows some qualities through his "face". People's micro-expressions are often the truest embodiment of their inner reactions. A slight frown, a casual squint, and a seemingly simple smile are all the truest feelings from the heart.
A person's expression always reflects his inner secrets more or less. When you get along with others, you should be good at exploring your inner true thoughts through expression. Whoever can gain insight into each other's inner thoughts first wins the initiative of success!
One day, when Wei, Shu and Wu were at the crossroads, a stranger came to visit Liu Bei and claimed that he had something important to see him. The guard stopped the man for safety. Unexpectedly, this man shouted outside the temple, "Duke Xuande, I have long heard that you are a talented person. Why don't you see me? "
When the guard pushed him out of the door, he shouted even louder: "Today, the three countries are divided, and everyone wants to unify the whole country. But it's not easy. If you get my good advice, you can make the other side bow to your knees, Xuande Gong! Xuande Gong! "
This man's voice is getting louder and louder. Liu Bei was moved to hear that this man ruled the country well. He couldn't help but go outside the temple and meet him in person. The man paid a compliment first, and then talked with Liu Bei.
The two talked about the heroes of various countries, and talked about the gains and losses of the geography, humanities and respective governance of the three countries. Liu Bei felt that this man had an extraordinary speech, and his affection for him came to life. The more they talked, the more excited they became, just like old friends for many years.
Just as the conversation was very speculative, Zhuge Liang suddenly came in. Before Zhuge Liang could speak, the man looked flustered, got up and left in a hurry on the pretext of going to the toilet.
At this time, Liu Bei tried his best to praise Zhuge Liang, saying that he was a rare talent, knowing astronomy above and geography below, and trying to persuade him to use it for himself.
Zhuge Liang said disapprovingly, "Master! I don't think this person is a kind person. When he saw the minister, his face suddenly changed and he looked nervous. He didn't even dare to look me in the eye. He just looked around and looked uneasy, revealing his treachery. It can be seen from his flustered eyes that this man has ulterior motives. Otherwise, how could there be such a change? I think he must have come with a hidden danger. Fortunately, I came early! "
Liu Bei was shocked and quickly ordered someone to arrest him. Unexpectedly, there was no figure in the toilet, and the man had escaped over the courtyard wall. Liu Bei realized that he had almost died, and he couldn't help sweating with fear.
Zhuge Liang learned his trick through the change of the man's look and saved Liu Bei from a robbery.
In people's psychological activities, expressions can best reflect the changes of emotions. Expression can reflect a person's attitude, mood and motivation. By observing and analyzing a person's expression, we can understand his inner desire, intention and state, thus forming his cognition.
In real life, we have to deal with all kinds of people, including good people and bad people. In the face of complex crowds, we must cultivate a pair of discerning eyes. We can accurately read the hearts of others through their expressions, so as to judge whether they are gentlemen or villains, friends or opponents. Great winners are always good at catching the chance of success by observing each other, because a small action has actually revealed each other's true thoughts.
Liu Bei is generous and ambitious. It was this strange man who seized Liu Bei's ambition and tried to win Liu Bei's favor through rhetoric in an attempt to kill him. Zhuge Liang is the embodiment of wisdom. When the man saw Zhuge Liang, he looked flustered and ran away.
Zhuge Liang clearly saw this, gained insight into his plot, and made Liu Bei escape. I believe that Liu Bei also learned some lessons from this incident.
As the old saying goes, a person's heart will be engraved on his face over time, and his character can be observed from his face.
A person full of spirit and momentum can probably achieve something.
Zeng Guofan was known as the "first minister of ZTE" in the late Qing Dynasty.
He once said: "We should use people to do things, and we should be proactive." In the process of his life achievements, the ability to read people's faces played a great role.
Zeng Guofan also formulated a formula according to the method of viewing people:
Evil is looking at the eyes and nose, and true and false look at the lips.
Fame depends on spirit, wealth depends on spirit.
Ideas depend on claws, storms depend on tendons.
If you want to see order, everything is in the language.
On one occasion, Li Hongzhang took three people to visit Zeng Guofan and asked him to assign responsibilities to them.
Zeng Guofan, who came back from a walk, said that before Li Hongzhang showed his purpose:
"Facing the hall door, standing on the left is an honest man who can be sent to do logistics supply work; The people in the middle are those who don't obey the sun and can't be trusted. He should only be assigned some unimportant work. " The man on the right is a general and can be entrusted with an important task. "
Facts have proved that Zeng Guofan is not mistaken. The general he refers to is Liu Mingchuan who has made great achievements in the future.
Appearance is the heart, and how a person looks can probably tell how his heart is.
Zeng Guofan also said in the "Court Classics":
"Chest is right, ty is not right. Black and yellow people have courage; " Light yellow and dark yellow are bold and wise. "
The general idea is that the brains of people with bright eyes are right, and those with unclear eyes are wrong.
People with yellow eyes have courage; There are several obvious yellow and dark yellow eyes. They are brave and resourceful.
Those with upward eyes are arrogant, those with downward eyes are worried, and those with upward eyes are malicious.
People with steady eyes like meteors and lightning will be expensive, and people with loud voices and restless eyes will be annoying.
Therefore, when you look at a person's face, the truth is hidden in your eyes, and good and evil are hidden in your pupils.
Some people think that judging people by their appearances is arbitrary, paranoid and has no theoretical basis.
People think so because most people don't have Zeng Guofan's extraordinary reading ability.
Faces are people's external appearances, which contain information about people's fate. Face is a person's five senses and reflects his temperament.
How is the face formed? Face comes from your own experience, face comes from your inner activities, and face shows your attitude towards life. Life affects the face; Temper constitutes face; Mood determines face.
Good or evil, hidden in the face, dark people, can not pretend to be a brilliant face; Kind people always exude a feeling of kindness. Whoever deceives people is malicious and evil; Always be kind to others and show good luck. Especially the expression of eyes can not be ignored. The eyes are the windows of the soul, and words, actions and attitudes can be covered by clothes, but the eyes can't pretend. In the face of strangers, we must quickly judge their good and evil by their expressions.
People who often show "friendliness" on the surface, but are often snobbish at heart.
Not everyone in the world is friendly and kind. Some people are kind to you, perhaps not out of their own sincerity, but because you are valuable, and he needs to get the resources he wants by getting close to you.
He is polite and smiles at others, but it is driven by interests. Perhaps, on the surface, he seems to be a sincere friend, but in his heart, he is thinking about how to get more benefits from each other.
According to Shi Shuo Xin Yu Rong Zhi, it is recorded that:
When Cao Cao was an envoy of Xiongnu, he thought he was ugly enough to show his great power to a distant and powerful country. He specially asked Cui to be his ambassador, while he stood beside him as a servant with a knife.
Afterwards, someone asked the special envoy, "Where is Wang Wei?" The Xiongnu emissary replied that Wang Wei's appearance is also extraordinary, but the sharp-eyed knife-wielding person next to him is the real hero.
Writer Zhou Zeng once said: "For the appearance of an adult, we pay more attention to its spiritual connotation."
I'm impressed.
People's faces are connected with people's emotions, and people's emotions reflect people's cultivation.
Knowing people is a profound knowledge. Once you have the ability to see through people's hearts and read other people's secrets, you can get along with others correctly. In the process of being a man and doing things, you can reach a superb realm of life.
A person who really treats others with heart will certainly feel sincere and warm. He will always take care of other people's feelings and put his own interests last.
Just like the warm sun in winter, it may not be very hot, but as long as you see that ray of sunshine shining, you will feel warm.
Schopenhauer said that the difference between philosophers and scholars is that scholars face books, while philosophers directly face nature.
Observation is the starting point of all human cognitive and inquiry activities. Impressionist painting was born because of careful observation.
However, I don't know when it started, but human beings have actually reached the dangerous situation of forgetting and discarding observation.
Educator Montessori attaches great importance to observation in educational activities. She said: "The basic principle of teachers' teaching should be observation, and observation must contain and understand children's freedom. Therefore, teachers should observe whether children are interested in things, the degree of interest, the duration of interest, etc., and even pay attention to children's expressions. "
Students' facial expressions are an intuitive reflection of students' feelings about knowledge and the way teachers explain it. As teachers, we should try our best to accumulate this knowledge and common sense.
If a student holds his forehead with his thumb and forefinger and keeps pushing it out, the average student is already absent-minded. He tried to calm himself down and push it out, which actually showed that the student wanted to close his eyes and run out of energy. At this moment, what he needs is a short rest, so that the students can lie quietly for five minutes, and then go to class. At this time, the effect will be better. When continuing the lecture, he should simply rearrange what he has just said.
If students keep nodding, and the voice of answering questions is full of the power of life, you seem to hear a spirit of exploration, and your heart feels very comfortable. You use questions to push the classroom forward. She will tell you, teacher, that this is the case, or that my classmate is really speechless and uses his own comments on a certain issue, then the students are in a state of positive thinking and the class is basically successful.
By observing the details of students' corners of the mouth, facial muscles and eyes, we can basically judge the degree of students' participation, their closeness to you and their support for understanding. We can basically judge whether they are interested in the content and method of your lecture.
Teaching is a profession of exchanging heart for heart, and education is a process of mutual understanding. Everyone, no matter beautiful or ugly, the way you treat him will cause his inner feelings to reflect. The accumulation of this kind of reflection will become the basis of his attitude towards life and communication. The long-term accumulation of this foundation is their attitude and their values.
Pu Songling said that every step of the emperor is related to the lives of the people. The same is true of teachers. Every step of the teacher will leave a mark on the students' hearts.