Main points of this book: I have revealed my wisdom in introducing Zeng Guofan's life experience (I have a bad history and forgot it after reading it, so I know that he is a late bloomer. Although I am still very ordinary, I also have a dream of being late! )
Perception and summary:
1. People's fate can be changed. This change first lies in our own ideas. If what we do conforms to heaven, we should stick to it.
2. Learn a way of communication-no one likes to be persuaded. Although I saw something wrong, I should say that I did it. You can refer to it.
Reading notes:
Life is about going through all kinds of twists and turns, reflecting on yourself in every experience, and finally going through life.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with diligence, modesty, comity and frugality. I must insist, and I will continue to maintain these advantages!
Zeng Guofan was a late bloomer, I hope so!
Life is a curve, everyone goes through various twists and turns in the middle, and finally walks through life.
It is actually very simple for people to change their own destiny. Because "the phase is born by the heart", the phase changes, and life changes. So what is the final change? This is your heart. What is the heart? The heart is the idea. As long as you have the right idea, your whole life will change.
It is not necessarily a good thing that a person's life is too smooth, because he is often a late bloomer.
If one does not solve the children's problems as soon as possible at this stage, it will be very troublesome to do things in the second half. If you don't give birth earlier, you may regret it when you die.
When you are dissatisfied, make some good friends as soon as possible, so that when you are satisfied in the future, someone will cooperate. When you are in prosperity, most people around you are villains. When you are in trouble, you are more likely to be a gentleman.
One must remember that if you have any achievements, don't show them off everywhere, don't make people jealous, don't envy them, and don't think that you are great because you have a large audience, but always keep a low profile and modesty.
First, get up early.
Second, sit still.
Third, read history. In fact, history really needs to be carefully read and eliminated.
Fourth, be careful what you say and do, but also keep your breath. Be careful what you say and do, and think twice before you act, because people are easily controlled by emotions, or it is easy to make mistakes when thinking about things for a short time. Sometimes the influence of a word or an action will be decisive or even devastating.
Fifth, protect yourself.
Sixth, calligraphy.
Seventh, don't go out at night
The result is not very important, but the starting point, also called motivation, is more important.
People must not want to win, but want to lose first, thinking about how they will lose. Ask yourself, "Can't I afford to lose?" If you can afford to lose, lose again. "Losing again is so much."
"Two-pronged approach" is to take appropriate measures according to different situations, and not to "go too far" or "fall short".
There is nothing wrong with a person having an opinion, but you have to save your life before you can have an opinion. And try to be circuitous and gentle, don't say it directly, it may not be good.
Successful people are often people who have suffered setbacks and tests, otherwise it is impossible to achieve great success.
Whenever you encounter internal and external changes, you should tell yourself that this is a test of God and you must face it. If you think, "No way, God will test me, I can't run away, I have to face it, and I will find a way to deal with it", so as to handle it better.
One should be able to use the enemy, not fight with it. This is the genius of Zeng Guofan.
If you make a move, everyone will say that you are working for the public, so even if you make another mistake, others will think that you are right.
Usually make friends with people who dare to scold themselves.
Although Zeng Guofan often failed, he began to persevere and persevere, and finally waited for a turning point in the situation.
Scholars should be ambitious, knowledgeable and persistent.
A person should be able to face himself bravely and find out his own shortcomings. Remember, your weakness is the lesson of your life.
What does he take "Heng" as? First, grow up in hardship.
Second, take the right path and open up new ideas.
Third, do good deeds for a long time. What is the purpose of "Heng"? "Constant" means constantly Xiu De.
A person is not born to be such a good person, but gradually changes. This is very interesting and valuable.
The greatest thing for a person is not to say "I am gifted, what good inheritance do I have", but to say "I will make myself better and better no matter what". This is the greatest practice.
Tingjing can be said to be a wonderful book handed down from ancient times by Zeng Guofan, who summed up his own life experience and successful experience.
People must constantly surpass themselves first, and then they may finally be detached.
We always like to make excuses afterwards. Everything should be guarded in advance. Don't wait for the child to have an accident before you regret it, then call names, and then ask for forgiveness. This is impossible, and it is too late.
Qiang Ming. Zhi Renyong's "Three Fathers"
If a person can obey, he will understand others; If you know people, you will choose people; With the right people, more than half of things will be solved. "The person you like should be able to know its shortcomings, and the person you hate should be able to know its advantages.
"Improve your observation ability first, and then visit other people's comments.
Diligence will not be lazy, modesty will not be proud, and "greatness" is both "diligence" and "modesty". Together, these three points are the greatest way for the ancients to cultivate themselves and govern the country.
Everyone should measure it in their mind, grasp the degree of everything and find the state that suits them best.
Being a boss is often very hard. Why do you want to be the boss?
Treat subordinates, don't haggle over every ounce, let alone strive for merit; Don't talk too much and don't get too close. If you make a mistake, you will be severely punished. "This is the principle adhered to by Zeng Guofan's troops as an official. He will not violate the rules and regulations with human feelings. No matter who is wrong, they will never tolerate it, and they will all blame hell to pay.
It's useless to be a "foreign king" even if you practice by yourself. What's the use of being alone? You must make everyone with you feel that he can benefit from being with you, which is good for him. He welcomes you very much. This is the so-called "foreign king"
The most important thing for a person is to spend time and energy to change himself, which is what you want in your life.
If a person wants to change his destiny, the only way is to change his heart and his mind. There is no other way.
See if it depends on his motives, his way of doing things, whether it is safe or not, and his personal knowledge. Look, observe and observe represent three levels, and
One is deeper than the other.
It's hard to see a person's motives clearly, but it depends on whether his methods are correct. Many people's motives are right, but this method is wrong, so it didn't achieve the desired effect in the end. In addition, you have to see if he is knowledgeable enough, that is to say, you have to look at people in three layers, one layer at a time, in order to see more clearly.
What kind of face have you grown up in your life?
It's all based on what you want to do with your life.
Parents must teach their children the correct walking posture when they are young, which has a great influence on his future.
Judging a person depends on his true colors when he is not paying attention, how he pretends when he is paying attention, and how big the gap is. How big the gap is, it shows how much this person has changed. In this way, you can really see through his heart.
First, evil is looking at the eyes and nose: people with flashing eyes and crooked noses are wrong.
Second, look at your lips wisely: people with thick lips are mostly loyal.
Fame and prestige: a person with lofty outlook is more eager to see a person's "outlook", first look at his forehead, then look at his breath.
Career depends on spirit: people who focus on spirit are easy to become.
Shouyao looks at the fingers and claws: your hands and feet should be soft.
Let's see if it's angry. Second, see if the meat on his hand is soft. Third, see if his fingers are slender.
Watch your heels in the storm: it is the responsibility of those who walk steadily. Usually you can pay more attention to see how others go. You can know a person by observing his walking.
Look at language coherently: Look at people's thoughts through language.
Think from another angle, put yourself in others' shoes and reflect on yourself. You must be lacking, not doing enough, not doing well, and you will make rapid progress.
Throughout the ages, people who devote themselves to the public will remain in their names, while private people will often be forgotten soon.
"Diligent reading" does not mean reading over and over again. Even if you look at it backwards, it may not be useful. The main significance of studying hard is to be able to draw inferences from others.
But if you want to know people, you must first know your friends. A person without self-knowledge can't understand others. It is difficult to know people, and it is even more difficult to know friends.
Do everything with your heart, it is difficult to succeed without your heart.
1. What did Zeng Guofan look at first? See if this person has independent will, independent judgment on major issues and independence. And we should not only be able to be independent, but also be able to gather the strength of everyone. The most important thing for a leader is not to do things by himself, but to let the people with him do things well. This is the most critical.
As a courtier, it is certainly true to be loyal to the monarch, but you can't be obedient, because the responsibility for the final defeat is still borne by the courtier.
Therefore, when a person deals with his superiors, it is mainly not a question of obedience, but a question of whether he has the ability to persist. You are right to stick to the end, so you must stick to it. How can you not insist?
If you want others to believe in you, you must first believe in yourself and be confident, and then stick to it with this confidence, so that others may finally be persuaded by you.
After setting a goal, you must have courage. "To make up your mind, you must have the courage to make a reasonable response according to time, place, people and things.
The greatest feature of a courageous person is that he can make a decisive decision. Therefore, we should "learn from others, not be subjective and arbitrary" and "not be self-centered". "
"There is a constant? Is to concentrate, to adhere to for a long time, can't have a beginning without an end, a beginning without an end.
Only those who have benevolence and responsibility are qualified to be called talents.
"Self-denial and self-surrender", this "self-denial and self-surrender" is to be harmonious in doing things, so that everything can work, be careful in words and deeds, and don't cry roast meat. This is called harmony. The original intention of "talent" is that I follow the rules, and you follow the rules, that is, I have norms, and then let others develop themselves to the maximum extent within this norm. Never completely restrain a person, otherwise his talent and potential will be stifled and you will be very tired; However, you can't completely make a person independent, because once he goes beyond the bottom line and norms, it is difficult for you to control him again.
A person should have a wide range of knowledge, so that he can have many topics, know people and talk about what, so that you can make friends from all directions and broaden your communication scope. If you can only speak one word and one street, your vision will always be narrow.
China people still want to talk about friendship, and don't talk too deeply.
The truly valuable change is based on the change of heaven. If it conforms to heaven, it must be changed. If it does not conform to heaven, then no matter what others say, it will not change. This is what Confucianism calls "cautious independence." You can stick to being yourself all your life, as long as you conform to heaven, because what others say is not necessarily right.
The so-called "transformation" means that everyone will be unconsciously influenced by you when they are with you. People around you take the initiative to change themselves. It's not your hard rules, you don't force him, you don't set rules and ask him, and you don't assess him. After he stayed with you for a long time, he gradually became like you. This is called transformation. "Culture" is difficult. If you want to "culture", you must set an example and play an exemplary role. If you just keep preaching the truth orally, even if you mean well, it's just teaching.
Zeng Guofan's family precepts have eight words, namely, morning, sweeping, examination, treasure, book, vegetable, fish and pig. These eight words have enabled the Zeng family to maintain their farming lifestyle for a long time. Their children are diligent and studious, and their family style is rigorous, kind and simple.
Third, test. "Examination" means "filial piety", which means that ancestors sacrificed sacrifices, respected examinations, and did not forget the teachings of their ancestors.
Fourth, the bag. "Relatives and neighbors always have to deal with each other, congratulate each other and mourn, and ask for help."
The most important thing in reading is to understand the truth. Only those truths can change your temperament. Therefore, Zeng Guofan asked himself to "study every day" very early, and he did.
The latter three, vegetables, fish and pigs, namely, planting vegetables, raising fish and raising pigs, represent "farming" and maintain a farming lifestyle, which is healthy and simple.
Whether you are an official or a man, you must have a sense of responsibility and keep your word, which will determine your personal credibility and reputation, and then directly affect your people.
"Know the times" means that a person should come out to do things and try his best; Otherwise, he would rather retire.
In fact, each of us has many shortcomings. In this life, we should constantly find our own shortcomings, constantly improve, and then let ourselves change from bud to bud, and finally have some unique experiences. This is the greatest achievement of our life.
When the boss wants to "I don't have the final say, let the second one have the final say", it is very clever.
What is "morality"? "Doing what you do is rewarding" is called "morality"
A person who acts according to justice does not mean that the result will be good, nor does it mean that he will be promoted and made rich, but he deeply feels that it really conforms to heaven. This alone shows that this person's moral cultivation is very high.
Only people who really understand can do it. Only the person who does it is qualified to say that he knows. Anything that is difficult or impossible to do is not completely known. We must combine knowledge with action. Do you know what's the use? Failure to do so equals zero.
Don't say who you are good to or owe, others must thank you. Dont Ask For Help, human feelings are always there. If you ask them, nothing.
When a person practices until the end, all the bad guys will get better when they see you. This is your greatest advantage.
What do you want to learn from Zeng Guofan? Actually, there are only four words, loyalty and filial piety.
What is life? Is perseverance and waiting. A person who can wait is always hopeful, and a person who can't wait often misses opportunities.
"Three Immortals" refers to virtue, merit and standing.
He knows that if a person is not prepared, the chance of getting a high position is actually very unfortunate, because it will eventually harm others. Therefore, he used this time to constantly reflect on himself, study and improve in a down-to-earth manner, and laid a good foundation for future development in personality cultivation, will exercise and knowledge improvement.
I ching tells us that "time" is very important, and it can decide many things. "Time" has not arrived, so it can be delayed; At that time, make a decisive decision. Therefore, we must insist on waiting for the opportunity and follow the trend. Whether in prosperity or adversity, we must assess the situation. Of course, race against time, race against time. As long as it is slightly unreasonable, it will be in vain.
"Yi" in the Book of Changes has three meanings: easy, difficult and simple.
I recommend you to read a book called The Book of Changes is really easy.
One can change one's own destiny, but only you, your heart and your ideas can change. Everyone has a blind spot, and this blind spot is the point where you can't see clearly. You should be able to face yourself bravely and find out your shortcomings. Remember, your weakness is the lesson of your life. Everyone should remember four words: enough. At all times, we should have "Zhi Zhi Wisdom", define our own position, and don't push your luck. People sometimes need someone to wake them up. It's not a question of who is smart or not, but that you can't see clearly your own things and see clearly other people's things. Why convince others? What makes you convince others? Who wants to be persuaded by you? The word "persuasion" should completely disappear from our minds. We are not qualified to convince anyone, and few people are really willing to accept our persuasion. We can only say, "You can refer to what I have done." The biggest problem of modern people is "I know, I know, I just can't do it". Don't use this sentence as an excuse. People who really understand will definitely do it. Only the person who does it is qualified to say that he knows. Anything that is difficult or impossible to do is not completely known. A person should be honest, but not too honest; One should be serious, but not too serious. Life is a phased adjustment. After a while, we will encounter a bottleneck, and that bottleneck is the turning point, or inflection point. If you can't turn over, you will stumble.
You have to figure out how to turn it smoothly and effectively. This is called adjustment.
In any era, there is absolutely nothing wrong with diligence, modesty, comity and frugality, so we must stick to it.
"Being cautious and independent" means being yourself and going your own way. Instead of what we generally understand, one should be careful. This kind of "independence" is what makes you different and different. But if your characteristics are always incompatible with others, you need to adjust them well.
Everyone should hold the mood of "being a monk for a day and bumping into a bell for a day", and don't think it's bad. You should do your duty.
"Teaching while teaching" is actually the responsibility of parents.
Everyone only drinks two glasses of wine in his life, one bitter wine and one sweet wine, depending on how you drink it. You drink something sweet first, and then you suffer. Therefore, we would rather suffer a little when we are young. So parents should not be afraid of their children suffering. Remember, parents can't follow their children all their lives.
Doing something is the real love for children.
Anyone who tries hard to be a boss lacks "Chinese style" literacy. Leaders only need to review themselves on one thing, that is, it is your responsibility to choose people correctly and whether you put people in the right position. A boss has only two things to do: one is to make the venue bigger so that everyone has the hope of promotion; Second, let everyone with you have food. As a leader, we must combine kindness with kindness, and we can't be good until the end. If you are good, you will become a bad person, and it will not be bad until the end. If you are not good, you have a heart of stone and are definitely not welcome.
People who are good at management often die of management. Why? Because he sees management as too omnipotent. In fact, management is just a tool, and the real key is the moral character of managers.
"Life can be changed, and you can only rely on yourself." Change with what? Use learning to correct, but only if learning is correct. Many of us have some problems, and Zeng Guofan once had them, but the key is that he changed it himself later, which is terrible. The greatest thing for a person is not to say "I am gifted, what good inheritance do I have", but to say "I will make myself better and better no matter what". This is the greatest practice.
"To do one thing, we must pay full attention to it from beginning to end. You can't change your mind, think like this, sitting on this mountain and watching that mountain, people are not the same, and you will accomplish nothing in this life. " This is his own determination, and then slowly turn his fate around.