What should I do if my parents quarrel?
How to deal with differences of opinion between husband and wife?
Can't communicate with the child's teacher?
Do you always feel that others are making things difficult for you when you do things at work?
I hope reading this article can give you some inspiration to change the status quo.
Communication skills can be cultivated.
I haven't written an article for several days. You think I can't hold on? No, that's because I'm practicing my internal skills. Haha, it's not that mysterious. I just came to Shanghai for training.
Of course, the training content is still about some sales skills, but this short trip to Shanghai has benefited me a lot.
As a husband, do you find it difficult to reconcile family conflicts?
Have you ever had a hard time communicating in the workplace, at home, between friends and between husband and wife? Take a good look at it next, maybe it will inspire you!
From the perspective of personality, a person's personality is born, that is, his nature cannot be changed. This may have little to do with your parents. I can't give a scientific explanation for this now, so China is measured by eight characters, and there are constellations abroad to divide it. These are some laws that we are trying to find. Of course, people will change, so the influence of the day after tomorrow will be more important. If you are born with good materials, you can certainly become a pillar after carving, but if you are just a piece of wood, you may just not become a waste wood after practicing the day after tomorrow.
Of course, communication skills can also be learned, and it is also one of the necessary skills that we can use in many aspects.
There is a wonderful scene in the TVB drama 18 episode "A Full Moon in the Heart Storm House".
Le Jia fell in love with A Qing, the dumb daughter of Hema nationality. When her parents met, Le Jia's mother was very unhappy. As a result, I was very unhappy at A Qing's house. Parents of both sides also began to attack each other.
Are you familiar with this scene? Often, parents of both sides will always start quarreling because of something about two people or grandchildren, and each has its own ideas, and no one will let anyone.
It is very inconvenient for me to say that you are a dumb daughter in the future. I don't agree with them being together.
The other party said, our dumb daughter is a daughter, and you are a savage.
If it is in real life, such a marriage may really blow up and can't be together. It seems that no one is wrong. But when the big shots in our TV series appeared, everything was different.
Mom came back in a hurry and met such a hot situation. I immediately reprimanded my family. Of course, I made a little consideration from the aspect of intimacy. Then ask them why they don't respect Mrs Zheng.
Mrs. Zheng spoke again while her family was still speaking ill of her. What right do you have to judge a mother? Have you ever been a mother? Do you know the hardships of a mother? A word choked everyone, grabbed Mrs. Zheng's hand with one hand and gave her strength. Then she took a breath and sat down to communicate.
I began to analyze Mrs. Zheng's past experience in detail and explain it to you. A hard-working wife, while taking care of her husband who has been ill for seven years, has to provide education for her children while working hard. Finally, I sent my husband away and thought about the burden that my situation brought to my children. I want my children to suffer the same pain as me, so I burst into tears. I am mainly worried about my children's future, and I don't want my children to suffer the same in the future. After I sent my parents away, I had to bear the burden that a dumb wife might bring.
He Ma's analysis immediately made everyone feel Mrs. Zheng's good intentions. Then my mother-in-law took the opportunity to plug in with the same identity. As a mother, I feel the same way. Will it be a burden to my children when I get old? Let Mrs. Zheng also have a sense of identity as a mother. It is also a good emotional foundation for the Dutch mother to say that her daughter has a good emotional foundation.
Lotus mother also throws her daughter's question:
I also have such a daughter, who may become a burden to others. What can I do as a mother? What can I do but cry? I certainly didn't want her to be a burden to others, so I took her to find a job. I hope my daughter will not be a burden to Le Jia. If she is lucky enough to be a member of a family, don't say it is a burden.
This sentence really carries weight in Mrs. Zheng's heart and can be listened to. Finally, his mother told Le Jia to let him go back, be kind to his mother and not force them to form a marriage. It also gave Mrs. A Zheng a buffer.
I won't disclose the later things here, so let's see for ourselves. This story also reminds me of my sister's failed marriage. When there is a conflict between them, my father always scolds my sister on the side of my ex-brother-in-law, instead of just judging such things. As a result, my sister's grievances accumulated more and more, and finally reached the point of irreconcilable, and the relationship between my sister and my father was also very bad. If I had learned this skill earlier, I think such a tragedy might not have happened.
I believe that most people will still say that this mother is very good when they see this place, but I can't, but in fact, TV also comes from life, so why can't we apply the content on TV to our life and work? Make our life more convenient and beautiful?
1 example is recommended here for reference only.
This is a real case in life. Three mothers took three dolls to make handicrafts in a shop, and one of them was an executive mother. One of the dolls who doesn't come to this city often wants to eat ice cream. Everyone wants to be a good landlord and satisfy the doll's wishes, of course, because there is an ice cream shop next door.
So the executive mother went out, and the ice cream shop next door closed. She refused to sell ice cream to this mother anyway. The executive mother had to return in vain.
At this time, another mother had to go out. Then she stood in front of the ice cream shop and looked at it. Indeed, others are already calculating the turnover. But she also noticed that there were some left. She just confirmed that ice cream is not for sale? After getting a positive answer. She started chatting up again, and it's not easy for you to be busy at this time. If you are still selling ice cream at this time, you may have to re-enter, which is really troublesome. After getting the affirmation of neither pain nor itching. She continued, "I see how much ice cream you have left here." What are you going to do with them? The clerk said, I'm going to put it in the refrigerator. Will that taste bad? Mother never gave up and asked. Maybe. The clerk is not sure either. After all, ice cream is mixed with something. Your ice cream may not be fresh until the next day, and you can't sell it unless it is fresh.
At this time, the mother told the clerk from the value of time preservation that the possible risks were not handled in time, which also made the clerk a little suspicious. Finally, I threw out a solution: how about this? You sell me the ice cream, and tomorrow you put the money I bought on the counter and put it into the account together, so it won't be very troublesome, and a few ice creams are not too expensive, so don't worry about anything, and at the same time you can avoid the risk of all losses caused by the stale ice cream.
Sure enough, the clerk is willing to sell it to his mother. Of course, this mother has also won high praise from others, including the executive mother.
So when we understand a problem, first of all, do you really know its reason? Secondly, can you really feel his reason? Finally, can you speak his mind? Let him know that you really miss him? Finally, can you provide a better solution? I believe that you can get twice the result with half the effort by combining this application!
Of course, communication with customers at work is the same! If you want to reach an unusual relationship with a customer, or go out to do things and get a more perfect result, you should put yourself in the other person's shoes. Just like Zhao Wei in "Tiger Mom and Tiger Dad", he always takes wine with him when he runs the warehouse, so if he mingles with them first and then runs his own business, he will get twice the result with half the effort. In addition, she also has a small notebook for her own use, which records the personal information of customers, which can be regarded as finding out the background of big customers, so that every time she communicates at work, it is easy for her to think about problems from the other side's point of view and then solve them together.
When NITORI, a Japanese company, entered the largest shopping mall in Wuhan, it was ready to officially open on National Day. Everything is ready, but the day before, due to the decoration problem of the mall, the air conditioning pipe leaked, which seriously affected the opening plan of the mall. But the publicity has been decided. Everything is ready. How else can it change?
At this time, the Japanese communicated with Wuhan shopping mall. First of all, it must be the problem of the mall, no doubt, but the staff in the mall have neither shown guilt nor actively tried to find a way, but have been bureaucratic. We may have to find out the reason and find the relevant person in charge of the decoration. After all, this kind of thing may not happen for a while.
At this point, the Japanese side did not pursue the matter aggressively, but sincerely told the other party that if you were me, you had been preparing for several months and would open the business tomorrow. What should I do? Everyone in the shopping mall was silent. After a while, I said, if I were you, I certainly don't want to meet a problematic store. It's my first time to do shopping mall management, and I will be responsible for more projects in the future. Your first store in China is the signboard of our shopping mall, and we will make corresponding compensation. Please officially open tomorrow, and we will definitely solve this matter tonight. In this way, a possible mutual tearing war was perfectly solved.
Having said these examples, if you are not satisfied and want to leave a message with me to discuss, please leave a message.