First, cowards. Such people are timid, cautious and used to psychology. It is better to do one more thing so that they can't afford to hide. But not everything can be avoided, so it is easy to be bullied.
Second, a naive person. Such people are psychologically immature and cannot keep up with the psychological development of their peers. When people are with their peers, they often feel like "slow three pats", and such people are often bullied.
Third, people who rely on character. This kind of person has the habit of relying on others for everything because he was taken care of too much by his parents when he was a child. Although they are psychologically mature, they are weak in hands-on and decision-making, and always follow the "ass" of others. When they lose their dependence, they will panic. When the dependent is impatient, it is inevitable to be bullied.
Fourth, people who avoid individuality. This kind of people began to show shyness, loneliness, fear of meeting strangers, fear of strange environment and so on at a very young age or childhood. These problems have adverse effects on the social and professional functions of patients in adulthood. Social phobia is serious. Although such people are easily bullied, they are often angry at bullying, but they dare not express their dissatisfaction because they avoid personality factors, and they will become more and more depressed.
Fifth, people with weak strength. This kind of people often become the object of others to vent their emotions and bully because of their thin body, weak appearance and weak resistance.
Sixth, people with depressed personalities. This kind of people have low self-bath prices, think negatively when things happen, think that they are not as good as others, and blame themselves for bullying. They mistakenly think that accommodating others is the normal state, and to make matters worse, they think that they are inherently inferior to others. Such people are prone to depression after being bullied.
Seven, the poor. Most of these people feel inferior because they are poor, which is also in line with the law of "being poor is beaten". Except for a few people who think their fate is difficult, most of them refuse to admit defeat, which is also the driving force of human nature. Although these people forbear to bully others when they are poor, they have a strong sense of resistance and revenge. Once the comeback, revenge is common.
Generally speaking, people who are easily bullied give people the impression that they are "weak" and "small", strong in the outside and weak in internal strength, which is exactly what the phrase "picking soft persimmons and pinching them" should be.
The most vulnerable people in a group, afraid to look directly at others, flinch.
People who are easily bullied, without aura and aggression, all exude the feeling that I am fine and I am good at bullying. It is commonly known as a good man. This kind of person has four characteristics.
First, I dare not look directly at others, I am timid in everything, I can't let go, and I have no sense of existence in the crowd. I am the first candidate to take the blame. No good thing, the bad thing is that they call.
Second, he is soft-hearted and won't refuse others. With * * * things, this kind of person is thankless. He can't do his own work, and others have to push his own work on him. A typical workhorse is dead tired, nobody cares, and he deserves it. In fact, you can refuse others, but they are soft-hearted, taking care of the overall situation and embarrassed to refuse. Cadres in the unit will never think of them.
Third, I dare not fight for others. I have no sense of competing with others, and I dare not compete with others. Obviously it's my own business, obviously it's my own credit. It was clearly your own opportunity, but it was taken away by others. Because of my timidity, my inaction was robbed by others, and others were cheated and ungrateful. It's not good that I gave it to myself for nothing. How irritating, I feel that this kind of person is self-abuse.
Fourth, such people are poor in heart and economy. People say that with deep pockets, you have everything if you have money, so he is car-scrapping, hard-backed, short of money, and afraid to talk big.
Always speak carefully, prevaricate, dare not look directly at others, dare not offend anyone. When people speak loudly, they are particularly timid and afraid to fight for what they want. Many times, I know I am right, but I dare not argue for fear of offending others. I dare not refuse others' demands easily, nor dare I resist others' bullying. I will only feel bored in my heart. The psychological quality is very poor, and I can't bear any setbacks or problems. To tell the truth, this kind of person is also quite pitiful. Because some people will push their luck when they see you being bullied, and they will often be bullied over time.
What do you suggest? Do it when you have to. Don't put up with it Just be polite to others. You don't need to please anyone. Honest people will suffer more blows in society.
People who are often bullied must be cowardly, timid, timid, shy and tolerant.
One of my colleagues is honest. He never refuses others, nor will he fight for his due rights and interests. On the contrary, some cowards bullied him seriously and took advantage of him. At a young age, he was terminally ill because of perennial depression, and he died of hatred just before he got confused.
Because he is particularly honest, individuals in this unit often find fault with him and bully him. In the early years, many taxes were paid in cash because he worked backstage. Some people want to save trouble and insist on his unified payment (everyone collected cash tax and gave it to him to go to the bank to pay the state treasury), and the leader bullied others and agreed. A man took advantage of this opportunity and asked him for money. He was honest and not talkative, so he quietly paid for himself, but resentment slowly fermented into the reason.
Individual traders bullied him when he collected urban sporadic taxes. Once, he issued a one-yuan cash tax payment certificate (in the early 1980s), but the man refused to give it, so he stood and waited, and people refused to give it as usual. No way, he said, "Then give me fifty cents." That person won't give it either. Later, another colleague saw something was wrong and went back to him. He still stood quietly by the fish stall without saying a word, like a daughter-in-law. But this colleague only glanced at the stall owner, and the man quickly handed over a dollar without saying anything.
After being depressed for a long time, it eventually became a disease. When I was in my 40 s, I got a very dangerous terminal disease-pancreatic cancer. Every time I go to the provincial hospital for reexamination, I drag the sick person to the long-distance bus and bus. Other colleagues in the unit confidently asked the unit to arrange a special car when they went to the provincial capital to see a doctor, but he was honest, afraid, or afraid of being rejected, and embarrassed to speak. However, the unit actually ignored this critically ill patient who was originally honest and speechless! I often think that the person in charge of a unit should be like a small sun, passing on his positive energy and warmth to everyone under his command, never feeding "crying children" and ignoring those honest people. "Wang Ming, may God bless you."
My colleague got sick and died young because of being bullied honestly. Every time I think about it, my heart always hurts-I love his honesty and being cheated, and I love his honesty and lack of love. Honest people are inherently weak. Why do some villains and cowards step on them when they are strong or weak? I hope there will be more love in the world, especially more care for honest people, who are too fragile.
People who are easily bullied actually have a lot to do with their growth experience and genetic factors. Such people exude kindness, softness and cowardice, and it is difficult to see what kind of aura they have, and even often show negative aura.
For this abused group, it basically has the following three characteristics:
First, those who are soft-hearted and don't know how to refuse:
As the saying goes: people are good at being bullied, and horses are good at being ridden. It is almost impossible for anyone who is easily bullied to have evil thoughts, but the kindness and softness in his heart are often used by the wicked. Such a soft-hearted person doesn't know how to refuse others. In the workplace, he is a typical workhorse. He clearly knows that some things are not suitable for him to do, and it is impossible to complete them efficiently or excellently. But because of face, he readily agreed. No matter how hard you work, no matter how tired you are, once your grades are not ideal, no one will say that he has any credit. Even if the results are good, the final credit may be taken by others. He dares not compete with others, even deliberately caters to others, and lacks the consciousness of competing with others. This is a sign of being bullied because of weakness.
Second, people who don't know how to communicate and can't talk:
Some people say that introverts are easy to bully. In fact, introversion doesn't mean that people can't talk. Many people are calm when they don't talk. They know what to say and what not to say. Only introverts and people with low self-esteem will behave like bullies.
In the workplace, people who don't know how to communicate and are not good at talking are actually the vast majority of people who are not completely introverted. They are often the kind of people who like to talk, but they just don't know the art of talking, like to show off, talk nonsense and talk big regardless of the occasion, which is easy to be looked down upon and naturally easy to be bullied.
Third, people who regard tolerance as a habit:
Everyone knows an idiom called "push your luck", which is aimed at people with weak personality. People with weak character often show signs of wanting nothing. Such people with weak character always like to take tolerance as a habit. I always feel that some things have passed, and it is better to do one more thing. But if it takes a long time, people around you will know that you are the kind of soft persimmon that is easy to pinch, and naturally someone will bully you.
There are a lot of snobs in this society who bully the weak and fear the hard, looking at people's menus. Many times, it's because your manners and words affect others' attitudes and behaviors towards you.
In fact, as long as everyone is full of self-confidence, learns how to get along with others, insists on getting along with themselves, and does not go with the flow to cater to others deliberately, they will certainly not be bullied.
Ok, that's all for today. I am Fang, the master tailor. I hope my sharing can help you!
Because you are too honest to tell the truth. You know, you wear everything except flattery. People are so honest that you are always unpopular. People who don't know when to tell the truth are becoming less and less popular. They offended others because they told the truth. Because they told the truth, others were unhappy. Because they tell the truth, they will eventually complain. Why is the truth so unpopular?
Many people say what they think in their hearts, and they can't say it without knowing their conscience, which makes many people unhappy and lacks a lot of flattery.
You know, you can wear anything, but you can't wear flattery Everyone has a false side. Everyone likes to listen to good words, knowing that others are telling the truth, but they are not happy.
Think about it, even if you tell the truth to your family and your husband and wife, sometimes you ignore it, let alone others.
Because you are not hypocritical, everyone has two sides of hypocrisy. Sometimes you don't do anything out of line, but you do one thing to your face and one thing behind your back. The hypocrisy of many people is that they are especially good at talking about the scene, especially pretending, and he has to talk about things that are obviously not there, making the other party very happy, turning his head and denying anything, and can't remember it anymore. For the sake of each other's face, he will say anything and do anything. This kind of person is hypocritical.
I can't learn this kind of person, because I am very resistant from the bottom of my heart and it is very awkward to do it. However, I am neither hypocritical nor kind, but I can be honest with each other and be kind to others.
Because you can't sweet talk, many people can talk, and so can the dead, especially those who can't talk. If you tell the truth, who will you sell it to?
As a sketch by Cai Ming said, one out of ten sentences is truth. My real name is Cai. I'm not lying to you. In front of the building being promoted, it is said that there are big trees, fish ponds and flowers. When the owner looked at the house after buying it, his eyes were incredible. She asked her, "What about that tree? She pointed to a few shallots, which will grow into a big tree (green onion) in a hundred years. " The host asked, "What about the fish that was eaten by the bird?" And "Where are the birds? The bird ate and flew away. " Hey, I bought the building, and the purpose of sales has been achieved.
People who engage in sales talk a lot, often with high performance, but those who don't talk sweet words have a lot of differences in natural performance. If you are a sweet-talking salesman, you will never be bad at being coaxed into heaven by your sister.
You can't beat around the bush because you are too straight. Some people speak too frankly, knowing that the other person doesn't want to hear it, but they still have to say it for the sake of the other person. As a result, the other party was not only ungrateful, but also offended. This kind of person is thankless and does good deeds, and no one looks at his good words. Please don't be too straight with unnecessary people!
It is better to be careful. You won't hurt anyone, but at least you won't suffer. Don't be silly. There are not many people in this world who can listen to the truth. Even if they don't say it, they are very unhappy.
Because we don't lie with our eyes open, everyone likes to listen to flattery, especially a big fat man. If you meet someone, everyone praises him for "you have lost a lot of weight recently", even if he doesn't believe it, he is happy in his heart. If you persuade him to lose weight realistically, she (he) will hate you in her heart and won't lie with her eyes open. No wonder people always bully you.
Because you are so easy to bully, as the saying goes, people are good at being bullied and horses are good at being ridden. Your tolerance and kindness, your weakness and not fighting back have become the capital of others again and again.
Bullies will not touch each other because of your kindness, nor will they stop each other because of tolerance. They only make each other worse again and again, so they are too easy to bully. People not only don't like you, but also ride on your head.
Timely counterattack also lets the other party know that although I don't often shoot, if people attack me, I will attack them, thus winning the respect and scruples of others.
This is the bottom line of being a man. Don't always be patient. No one is superior, and no one is inferior to others. Therefore, the people who are bullied are actually your own fault. In the past, there was a gentle girl in our department, a newcomer, whose position was foreign marketing assistant (sensitive personal information was involved, so I concealed it). ), boys think she is nice, tall and gentle, but girls crowd her out and bully her.
Later, I repeatedly tried to find out the truth. I think the main reason is that she is too timid. Plus, she just walked out of the university gate (a double-class university in a big province, 2 1 1) and entered the workplace for the first time. She doesn't know much about the world, and she doesn't know how to read people's faces when she speaks. Compared with a bunch of prodigies, she is really bad, so she is mixed up and often runs on.
People who are easily bullied are generally weak.
When you meet someone who is afraid of bullying, you are the object of his bullying.
However, cowardice has a bottom line. When you meet someone who deliberately bullies you, only when you fight back forcefully will he know that you are invincible.
When my mother-in-law was ill in hospital, one of her sons and daughters didn't even go to the hospital to visit, let alone contribute, because her children were at odds. I said to my lover, leave them alone and try to be yourself. Be a man with a conscience. The old people are sorry for us, but we must also be worthy of them, so as to be practical.
Later, my mother-in-law died, because my brother and sister-in-law didn't go, and my second aunt didn't dare to provoke them, but she took it out on me because my lover came back late. I took off my mourning clothes for a while because I went to borrow something from others. Now, my sister uses the topic to say that she is unfilial. This really pissed me off: I rudely tore off my mourning clothes from my neck and said in front of my eldest sister: I was unfilial before my death and screamed when I died. I won't wear it today. Who can say?
The wicked only bully the good. When I can't stand it, when I am a villain, I feel particularly cool and comfortable. Since then, my sister has never yelled at me, but has always been very respectful.
To be a man, you should have principles in big things and don't care about small things, but you must not be soft-hearted to those who deliberately find fault, otherwise he will think you are weak and deceivable.
The sister in the same village, her four sisters, two older brothers and one sister in front, the youngest, should be the most favored.
But it happened that the elder brothers and sisters in front stole the show, all handsome and flexible, but she was completely negative, about 1.4 meters, with dark skin and little brain, unlike her parents, but everyone loved her.
I studied with her since I was a child and have been to her home. Her brother said, tell people not to say that I am your brother, rude person! Classmates always laugh at her, but she doesn't argue with others.
Later, when I entered the factory, I was already twenty years old at the age of eighteen or nineteen, but I couldn't escape the ridicule of others. I always told her that she looked like a married person, not like a girl at all, and joked that she got along with someone. Later, I found out that the monk with a monkey face and a bald head was wearing a distinctive coat, like Jinshan Aber in the 1980s, and he was in his forties.
But she also endured it, which really made her believe that she had a generous tolerance.
Later, I got married and gave birth to a daughter a few years later.
My sister also worked with her and gave birth to a daughter the next year. She went to my mother's house, passed by her mother's house and met her mother. Her mother actually said this: Your daughter is so lovely, white and beautiful, and you can't bear the death of Qing Er (a pseudonym) to give birth to a dead girl, as dead as her, as black as a pile of cow dung. Talk to my sister.
Alas! I really don't want to admit that I have such a mother. I don't blame you for being so ugly. You blame me for being ugly. It's not that you are partial, focusing all the bad things on me, making me inferior to others since I was a child.
A fragile person actually has a lot to do with his growth experience and genetic factors.
Some parents are timid all their lives and avoid others. Such people, with God's care, spend their lives flatly.
Their children are born with this genetic gene, and they are born with resignation and unparalleled. It doesn't matter if they suffer a little outside, as long as they don't make trouble outside and don't add trouble to their lives.
In real life, I often "hit my face". The more people who don't want to get into trouble, the more endless things are looking for him. The more resigned I am, the more I don't know how to resist. Disasters are always one after another. God does not exist. Don't expect him to uphold justice. Everything depends on him.
Professor Li Dawei of the Public Security University once told a story about his experience: He passed a road when he was studying, and several gangsters always provoked him. Every time he turned a blind eye and ignored him, but those gangsters intensified and one day robbed him. Someone flew a leg, and he was quick of eye and load, picked up someone else's leg and pushed it forward. The man fell heavily to the ground. In the later days, Professor Li Dawei never met those hooligans again.
Professor Li Meijin also warned parents all over the world that they must educate their children, and when someone hits them, they must not hesitate to fight back.
A person is easily violated by others. Generally, this person is physically weak and has no courage. The idea of life is to fight against the world and accept it. If you want to live an upright life, you must change it.