How can we handle the relationship between husband and wife?

Understanding, trust, tolerance, communication, love.

First, understanding. When two people encounter problems, the most important thing is to understand each other, to be able to put themselves in each other's shoes and to think from each other's perspective, so even if the problems they encounter make them unable to agree and accept for a while, as long as they have an understanding heart, they can keep things from developing in a worse direction.

Second, trust. Believe what the other person says and explains. Don't doubt that the other party has other intentions, and don't misunderstand the other party's meaning. Believe in each other's quality and won't do anything that disappoints you. Your trust is the greatest love and support you give each other. Only by gaining your trust can he persist. Even if the other person is not good enough or right enough, your trust will make him realize and correct it. Accusations and doubts are the worst, which will only make him more irrational.

Third, tolerance. Tolerance is the simplest thing to say, but the hardest thing to do. I'm thinking, if the other party can't do what he asks and hopes again and again and always lets himself down, who can patiently tolerate the other party's mistakes? But in fact, if you think about it carefully, everyone, as long as it is not ourselves, will not be 100% obedient and will not be aware of their inner wishes. Each of us has an independent way of thinking and solving things, and what we think is not necessarily correct. Look at the overall situation in everything, not from the narrow perspective of self. A little more tolerance, you will always be tolerant, and the other party will feel it.

Fourth, communication. No matter what happens, you should trust each other first, and then take the initiative to understand. Many conflicts between husband and wife are caused by untimely communication. My husband is a man of few words, while I am a hothead. Many times, I yelled at him without waiting for the other person to explain, and I often felt too much and embarrassed afterwards. In fact, as long as you calm down and listen to why the other party does this, it is very simple to solve it. Things may really not be what we think. Again, everyone has their own personality and rules. Don't just ask each other how to do it, but think more about whether I have done it myself. Do I think the way to do it must be right? If you have doubts, talk to each other more and express your opinions like friends.

Fifth, there is love. If there is no love, then all the above can not be established, let alone implemented. You don't love him, or he doesn't love you, or he loves you and you don't love him. Either way, it cannot be done. Love needs to be paid and maintained by both sides. Without love, there will be no love, and if you don't know love in your heart, then everything mentioned above is nonsense and you won't understand it, just like a gobbledygook.

In fact, in the end, I really want to say one more thing. As if in love, as a writer said, either I love you, I'm sorry, or we are together. The truth seems to be like this, but in fact, as long as we do it seriously and really love it with our hearts, there will be no regrets and a lot of happiness. Don't feel that the other person loves you and is unreasonable. If you really love each other, you should listen to each other's voices more. Don't blame easily, because many times quarreling can't solve the problem, but it will intensify the contradiction.

These words are my own feelings, and none of them are plagiarized. I hope what I said will benefit you and be adopted. Finally, I wish you a happy marriage. Best wishes.