In our country, the bride is called a daughter-in-law. On her wedding day, she wore Yao's new clothes and silver jewelry. At that time, there were no sedan chairs, let alone floats, and the brides all came on foot. The bride's family beat gongs and drums to bid farewell, and her husband's family set off firecrackers to welcome her.
Most of the brides married by the Yao family are from nearby villages. It's not far away, and it's within walking distance. Sometimes, when young men and women in the same village get married, the bride deliberately goes a little further and walks slowly. Maybe it's because the bride is reluctant to part with her family.
It is not easy for a young Yao man and woman to finally get married. They need to go through a romantic and happy journey, pay attention to a lot of etiquette, and pass various "tests".
Dueling and singing in the hall is a unique way for Yao girls and boys to fall in love.
Yao girls and boys are immersed in the ocean of songs. Lu Yu, a young man and a young woman, also improvised songs and invited friends and relatives to sing them. Especially on the first day of February, before the bird-catching festival and the Yao girl's marriage, the singing was amazing.
On the first day of February every year, girls and boys dress up and rush to Baitou Mountain to sing. The young man will take the initiative to throw the folk songs in the past: "There are many steep detours in the mountains and rivers. I think my sister wants to sing. If you don't sing well, you're not afraid to laugh, but you're afraid that your sister will sing another song "Test the Truth". "If the girl is interested, she will immediately pick up the song:" If you want to be a sister, you can sing, and if you want to punt, you can go down the river. "Don't sing half-heartedly, sing to your heart." At this time, the young man will open his throat and sing heartily: "I want to sing with my sister, and my feet will leave the ground when I want to go down the river. Even my sister must be sincerely connected, which one deceives four feet. " In this way, they echoed each other and sparked a spark of love. After some duets, girls and boys will exchange vows. The girl smiled and took a bracelet off her wrist and gave it to her beloved young man, who would give back a beautiful flashlight or exquisite embroidered headscarf. Later, they had a unique "basket-hugging".
"Take the basket" is divided into "take the basket" by the man and "return the basket" by the woman. When the young man "goes out of the basket", he should dress up at home and invite a boy one or two years younger than himself to accompany him. The man was carrying an oval golden bamboo basket, which contained dozens of yuan, cigarettes, candy and so on. Cover it with a woven handkerchief with blue, black and white patterns. They meet to go to the Woods on the hillside or the grass by the stream. After the boy sang a love song with the girl who had agreed to come, he sent the girl to a place half a mile away from her village and made an appointment to meet each other next time. Then, the boy who accompanied him gave the bamboo basket to the woman's escort, and then the girl who loved him took the bamboo basket home with the escort. Candy for aunt, sister-in-law's children and her good girlfriend, cigarettes for the boys in the village. Parents should also keep it a secret to avoid getting wind of it. A month later, the girl took the eight-treasure quilt she knitted for the right person and a pair of cloth shoes, covered the bamboo basket with a beautiful woven handkerchief and "returned" it to the young man. Through such a "going out" and "coming back" to "taking the basket", the feelings of young men and women quickly became hot. When the conditions are ripe, the man asks someone to propose.
"Hui Ge Tang" is another way for Yao girls and boys to fall in love. Whenever one or more girls or boys from other villages come to the village, there will be a lively karaoke bar in the visitor's home that night, and young men and women from the village will gather in the visitor's home and invite the guests to sing. Generally, male guests accompany female guests and female guests accompany male guests. The host cooked oil tea to entertain the guests according to the custom of Yao family. If it is winter, the host will make a brazier in the main room, and everyone will sit around and sing a duet. Old people and children also come to listen to music. At one or two in the morning, the host prepared supper for everyone to eat. The girl and the boy sang until dawn. Singing and singing, I sang my feelings and collided with the spark of love.
Marriage proposal, housekeeping and seeing off are the prelude to the marriage of Yao girls and boys.
When a young man proposes marriage, the matchmaker will take two packages of eight eggs wrapped in bamboo leaves to the woman's house to propose marriage. The woman accepted the promise and the matchmaker immediately told the man the good news. On the second visit, the matchmaker and the young man went to the woman's house for a blind date. Take 6 Jin of wine and meat, a little candy, and a red envelope for parents. If you accept the money, it means that the woman is willing. Then, accompanied by her aunt and sister, the woman went to the man to "look after the house" and understand the basic situation. The woman was satisfied, and the man chose an auspicious day to hold a "eight-character" ceremony. On the morning of "Eight Characters", the man invited two honest and steady peers to accompany him, and picked 60 Jin of pork, 60 Jin of wine and 60 jiao to the woman's house. The woman wrote the girl's "eight characters" (that is, the date of birth) on red paper, made a "dragon and phoenix post" and gave it to the man seriously. The girl's family gave the man sixty semicircles, each weighing about two kilograms, to her family and relatives to convey good news, saying that the girl was "taken away by famous flowers". After a period of understanding and contact, the two sides matured their love. The young man chose two special "Ye Ba" and "Niang Ba" to propose to his girl. The girl's parents warmly treated the young man with a sumptuous lunch. After lunch, if the two stools picked by the young man are taken away by the girl's parents, it means that the girl is allowed to get married this winter; If you don't accept Baba, it means that the girl won't get married this year, and the boy will propose again next year.
Before the girl gets married, the man will hold "gift tea", prepare 80 kilograms of rice wine, 80 kilograms of pork, some clothes and a set of jewelry, and send them to the woman's house and then to Tian. The man chose an auspicious day for his wedding, made a "auspicious day book" with red paper, prepared 60 big bazins, piled them up in the cupboard in the shape of a pagoda and carried them to the woman's house. The woman took the "auspicious day book" piously and treasured it, waiting for the festive day to come.
When the girl saw that the man gave her a "day", she developed a sense of attachment and began to "sit away from her mother's moon". I didn't do farm work in the field for a month before I got married, but only did needlework at home and prepared my dowry. At the same time, we have to "eat shoes and rice", that is, the relatives and friends of the woman have invited the girls away one after another this month. The girl will send a pair of hand-made cloth shoes to relatives and friends to express her gratitude and commemoration.
Seven days before the wedding, the girl will visit every family in the village, invite her sisters to spend the night at home, and invite the young man to sit in the karaoke room at home. Two days before the wedding, the bride will cover her face with her own handkerchief and "cry and marry". First, cry your parents out, say how you feel about leaving, and thank your parents for raising you. After crying, I cried to my sister. When the sisters cry, they are touching and tear-jerking. The whole family cried till the end. There will be a banquet and a "karaoke room" these two nights. The first day is called Little Brother Hall, and the second day is called Big Brother Hall.
There is a certain procedure for sitting in a karaoke bar: all the outstanding young female singers from other villages are invited. The young people in the village will meet him outside the village, and both the host and the guest will sing all the way from outside the village to the village. First of all, the guests sang praises for the beautiful environment or outstanding reputation of the village, while the host sang an apology song. When you go up the steps, you have to sing the number of steps, when you enter the gate, you have to sing the structure of the gate, before you sit on the stool, and before you drink tea, you have to sing tea songs ... At the beginning of the karaoke bar, the young man will sing a few songs to apologize to the guests, indicating that our reception is not good. Please forgive me. Then he sang "Invitation Song", that is, young men invited young women to sing. Please come out and sing "ode", that is, praise each other's beauty, virtue, talent, etc. In order to stimulate each other's interest and gradually push the atmosphere of karaoke bars to a climax. Then sing "Mission Impossible", a question-and-answer dialogue between men and women. It is the most tense, enthusiastic and wonderful part of sitting in a karaoke bar, just like a quiz. This requires the singer not only to have certain social knowledge, historical knowledge, astronomical geography knowledge, agricultural production knowledge and quick calculation knowledge, but also to be able to use his own intelligence, touch the scene, sing without false hair, improvise, flow eloquently and rhyme, otherwise he will be "defeated." If the song meets a master, the young singer will also ask an experienced old singer for help and give up until the other person can't answer. Finally, I will sing "Song of the Three Elder Brothers" to say goodbye. The girls and boys "sitting in the karaoke bars" are all masters of singing. They can best sing the level, sing the feelings and sow the seeds of love.
On the wedding day, the man delivered the gift to the woman's house with the drum music of several clever and witty "givers". When you walk to the door of the woman's village, you should sprinkle some happy money to the onlookers. The "gift giver" will also use his intelligence to "cheat" the young people and children in the village to have breakfast at their aunt's house. When they left the village, they had to deal with the duet of the girl who stopped the porter in the village. If the singer loses, the giver will be punished to get under the bench they raised. If you win, you can pass the blockade smoothly. After breakfast, the woman prepares a dowry, the bride dresses up, wears a corolla, a bun with a silver hairpin, a silver ring on her earlobe, a silver cymbal on her hand, a brand-new apron on her chest, a dazzling silver chain around her waist and embroidered pointed shoes on her feet. With the drums, her brother or elder carried the bride out of the room for the wedding. The girls in the village accompanied the bride all the way into the village and into Lang's home. The procession to send the bride stopped, always making things difficult for her husband's family, and they smoked cigarettes and candy all the way, which made them happy. When the bridge didn't leave, the husband's family quickly set off firecrackers. As soon as the firecrackers were set off, they continued to March. My husband's family will beat gongs and drums outside the village and set off happy firecrackers to welcome them. The bride stopped at the door of her husband's house and let the groom carry it. The groom is full of smiles and joy.
At noon, the man warmly entertained relatives and friends of both sides with a sumptuous banquet. After dinner, all the men, women and children in the village will come to "make trouble with the bride". They sat around the bride. First, the bride gave a happy cigarette and offered two cigarettes to everyone (meaning yes-men), and then lit them one by one. Then, the bride and groom each wore a broken straw hat and each took a spatula to "fry oil tea" ... This funny "performance" lasted until midnight, until people left with satisfaction, and the bride and groom were "freed" and entered the bridal chamber with the laughter and blessings of relatives and friends.
Children don't know how to spy on things between men and women. Some adults instigate them to hide under the bed of the wedding room and wait for the crowd to disperse to listen to what the bride and groom are doing. The bride and groom are not stupid either. They always search the room carefully, and those lurking children are found out one by one, rewarded with some candy and sent out.
Women are mobile. She spent the first half of her life in her mother's family and the second half in her husband's family. A man will never leave this land unless he comes to his home and is adopted by his wife.
Marriage, two people who didn't know each other before, finally formed a harmonious family and managed a happy life. This is really a gift from God!