Picking up girls requires skills, otherwise it will be very hard for boys to chase girls. In fact, pursuing girls is like a game. Only when you play hard to get can you let the girl fall into the trap. So how do boys use the trick of playing hard to get? I'll tell you right now.
The method of playing hard to get
The first trick: be calm when meeting for the first time
The woman
The first impression is very important, but most Men screw up the first time they meet a woman. You must not appear nervous when you meet, otherwise your impression in her mind will be greatly reduced. You must behave naturally and generously, looking like an old rabbit in love. As long as you can control yourself and treat all women with a normal heart, you will immediately become a powerful magnet for attracting women.
The second trick: be attentive for nothing
At the beginning, he was meticulous and considerate to her. If you have nothing to do, call her often, send text messages, and show that you care about her. When you are free, you can hang around her every day and let her feel that you are with her no matter where she is. Once a woman gets used to your company, she will be at a loss if you suddenly disappear one day.
The third trick: staying away
After reaching a certain level, you should stop being attentive. The sudden lack of news will also make her upset, but it is also necessary to pay attention to her when she can't help but look for you. Let her feel your indifference, and when she can't make up her mind about you, it means that she is gradually starting to pay attention to you, and slowly she can't live without you.
The fourth move: gentle attack
Once the time is right, a gorgeous turn is very important. At this time, you can attack her gently, otherwise being in a passive state for a long time will most likely scare her away. You might as well find the right time to attack, let her fall into your arms obediently, and never escape from your Wuzhishan.
Even if you are not tall, rich and handsome, it is not as unattainable as you think if you want the goddess in your heart to be fascinated by you. As long as you master the three-step secret of playing hard to get, a woman will definitely fall into your arms and you will become a heartthrob in love.
The fifth tip: Pretending to be serious is worse than pretending to be immoral
Women
In fact, women still have to have a certain bottom line, but they can show it in completely different ways. She knows deep down in her heart what can be done freely and what needs to be done more conservatively. A truly smart woman is the one who can do it freely. Blindly presenting a serious style will only make men stay away.
It is not difficult to pretend to be serious. If you follow the three obediences and four virtues and do it in a disciplined manner, no one will say that you are not serious enough, but no one will think that you are cute and pitiful. The difficult thing is to pretend to be informal, because the prerequisite for pretending to be informal is to know what seriousness is and to be able to do it at any time. You just need to use different techniques on different occasions and in front of different people.
He knows how to flirt where he should flirt, he knows how to tease where he should tease, and he makes people feel comfortable when he should cater. In general, he knows the mood and has the right target. When a woman pretends to be immoral, she is actually playing a trick, but the important thing is to do it smartly, so that the man will not feel too scheming or too deep, and at the same time, the man will be attracted to her unconsciously. The age of pretending to be serious has passed. Behaving and speaking in a regular manner will make people feel boring. In love, women should abandon the so-called "a woman's lack of talent is a virtue" and unnecessary reserve, and pretend appropriately. Don't be serious for a moment.
How to play hard to get? Play hard to get and win the girl back
Take the bottom of the pot:
There are usually two reasons why a girl will reject you. One is that you are not sincere enough. In other words , that is, she doubts whether you really want to be with her. The second is no feeling. What does "no feeling" mean? If you have known each other for a short time, the first impression is the most important; if you and the other person are already very close friends, the meaning of "no feeling" will include many factors such as the other person feeling that you two have incompatible personalities. So if you feel that your own appearance cannot attract the other person, you have to impress her with your sincerity and show your other advantages in a timely manner to attract the other person. It’s best to find out your common interests. Even if you don’t have them, you should at least know this information. You can read a book or ask other people. You can also talk about topics so that she won’t reject her. you.
If you think your external conditions are very good, then you might as well give her a sense of security. The sense of security is not that she will feel that you will protect her, but that she is afraid that you will protect her. Taken away by others or abandoned by you. After all, it is difficult for a handsome boy to make a girl feel safe, so you'd better make her trust you, win her trust, and make her believe that you are sincere to her.
Concealing the truth:
Girls
When chasing girls, in fact, some means of concealment are inevitable. Of course it's a well-intentioned deception. For example, something like, “If I could, I would spend every minute of my life with you.
"You can always say this to her. It's really impossible to carefully consider the content of the argument, but girls often like to hear such sweet words. If you don't say this, she will think that you don't care about her.
Making something out of nothing:
Psychologists have verified that “it is more tempting to steal someone else’s boyfriend (or girlfriend) than to chase one yourself. "Although everyone says verbally that they don't want to be a third party, subconsciously they want to try the predatory feeling of a third party. So, at the beginning, you can say to the girl you want to chase that you are "famous and have a master". On the one hand, you can affirm your value to her and show that you are not wanted by anyone; on the other hand, you can relax her wariness. After all, if a girl is wary of you, it will make it more difficult for you to pursue her when the time comes. You can tell her that you broke up with your ex-girlfriend because of her, but be careful, girls don’t like to be substitutes.
Making false claims:
Yes. Sometimes, when you see your ideal partner and don’t know where to start, my suggestion is that you can pretend to tell her that you want to pursue a girl but don’t know how to pursue her, and ask her to be your military adviser. Or a counselor. Of course, you must not reveal your interest in her at first. She will use her own experience or ideas to think about how you should pursue her, because a person's thought patterns often reflect her own. It's like revealing a good way of "how to chase her". Later, you can pretend to "unknowingly" like her, and then use the method she taught you to pursue her. It's up to you to know how to do it.
Play hard to get:
Personally I am not against stalking, but sometimes it is necessary to give the other party some space to breathe, otherwise some girls do not need to put too much pressure on her. You may be afraid. When you are in a stalemate with her, try to restrain yourself from disturbing her during this period and pretend to be indifferent to her. Then you try to approach her again and observe her reaction. If she is very cold towards you ( Maybe it’s because you ignore her or she’s not interested in you at all and wants you to stay away from her.) If it’s the latter, you may have to ask for blessings. If it’s the former, congratulations. , the other party is very interesting to you, you have to work hard
Far-distance and close-range attacks:
The woman’s friend
In fact, in the process of chasing a girl, the woman Friends are often the key to victory. Sometimes she catches up quickly, but it is just the last step that makes people angry. Therefore, the advice of her friends is very important. Therefore, you must be the best friend of the other party. Put some effort into making them have a good impression of you, so that they won't hold you back in your pursuit. Build a good relationship with them and let them put in a nice word for you to ensure you gain a lot. < /p>
I forgot to mention a very important point. Before choosing a partner, some people tend to pursue her blindly. In fact, this is wrong. Don't chase her just because she looks attractive. You might as well stop before chasing her. Take a step and see if your personalities are compatible. In this case, the chance of success will be much greater.
The method of picking up girls while being hot and cold
I still remember clearly, When I was a freshman in high school, maybe because I had easy study and plenty of time, I played like crazy. In the eyes of others, I was the kind of carefree and romantic person. So, someone asked me how to pick up girls. At that time, I told him the eight-character motto: hot and cold, play hard to get. In fact, I saw this from the Internet and have never used it myself. But the *** really believed it, and asked me with great interest how to operate it, so I told him a lot of words that even I couldn't understand. Now I have forgotten what nonsense I said at that time. However, looking at this classmate's expression, we can tell that he firmly believes in what I said.
First, let me break down what I used in high school: hot and cold, hard to get.
Proverbs
According to authoritative explanations, the meaning of this eight-character proverb is as follows:
Hot and cold: sometimes calm, sometimes impulsive, and emotionally unstable.
Play hard to get: Deliberately let him go first to make him relax his guard and fully expose him, and then catch him.
Why do we do this? We know that people are actually like hedgehogs. Two people fall in love just to find warmth, so they go together, but if they get too close, the hedgehogs will It will prick the other person, and both people will be injured. After knowing the pain, they naturally want to stay away, but soon they feel cold again, so both parties want to get close to each other again to keep each other warm. After the last lesson, both parties understood the distance, but they could not find the optimal distance quickly, so they had to constantly adjust. In fact, the essence of communication between men and women is to warm each other, but they have to constantly adjust the distance between the two people to find the optimal distance, so that they can warm each other without hurting each other. . This is what is called distance producing beauty. .
So, if you are really too good to her, you will get tired of it over time. How could she cherish every happiness if she didn't play hot and cold and play hard to get? . .
Want to be hot and cold? First of all, you have to make yourself pretend not to care about her words no matter how much you love her. Just reply coldly, "Yes," "Okay," and "I understand." Just 1 or 2 days is enough. Don't let it last too long, because women are impatient and they won't be able to bear it. Then two people go out to play together, be nice to her, or give her a surprise to let her know that she has not been ignored by you. She will think that she did not do well, so after you treat her well, she will Cherish you more and find ways to make you happy. Of course, don't be swayed by it, just be nice to her once in a while. Good, it should be so good that she gets stuck in it and can't extricate herself. Next time, she will love you even more for such a happy moment~!
To play hard to get? If you force the opponent to have no way out, it will fight back; if you let it escape, you can weaken the opponent's strength. momentum. When chasing, follow the opponent and don't push it too hard to consume its physical strength and undermine its fighting spirit. When the opponent's morale is depressed and defeated, then capture it to avoid bloodshed.
Usually you can say this to a girl:
Girl
The reason why I tell you so many things is because I don’t want to make the same mistake again and again. Forgive me, okay? Don't really marry me. Don't let me be a youth killer and watch you wither in my hands.
Although I have made so many mistakes, I still hope you can forgive me and not really marry me. I know I owe you a lot of debt, can I pay it back to you in another way?
Please don’t marry me. Although you say you love the smell of cigarette smoke on my body now, after you marry me, you will hate me when you see my pants that are often burned by soot. You have to grit your teeth.
Please don’t marry me. By then, you will no longer be able to tolerate me smelling like drunk and staying out all night. Although you say it now, the days I miss you are just as beautiful.
Please don’t marry me. Although you can look at my looseness gently now and regard it as chic, but after you really marry me, you will regret it and curse like all women: If I marry you, I will be blind!
Also, please don’t marry me, because I will make you wash, cook, and have children. It makes you smell of oily smoke and have pregnancy spots on your face. It will make your waist thicker, your voice louder, your hair unkempt, your youth faded, and you will grow old overnight.
Finally, I need to remind everyone that hot and cold, and playing hard to get should only be used when the relationship between a man and a woman is relatively mature but unstable. Do not use it in the early stages of chasing a girl, otherwise It will cause bad things, so remember, young people. . .
How to play hard to get? Love skills guide
Love
I believe that many brothers who are in love or pursuing the girl they like will have some troubles, but there are too many skills can be learned. In fact, the love skill of playing hard to get is a very effective method. Although the love skills of playing hard to get may seem a bit old-fashioned, these classic techniques are indeed the most practical.
In the process of dating, there is no doubt that a man must be the active party. But taking the initiative to move in means that there will be risks. So how can we upgrade the intimate relationship between each other without getting rid of her vigilance and precautions? There is no doubt that playing hard to get is the best way. So how should you use it?
Try to move forward when dating. If she refuses, then use the hard-to-get love technique. When you are rejected from further relationships such as holding hands, hugging, and kissing, you might as well try to take a step back, withdraw your attention, and ignore her appropriately for a period of time. During this period, don't move on, don't apologize, just keep smiling when facing her.
During this period of neglect, the girl will gradually go from being indifferent to being disappointed, and finally she will understand in her heart that the initiative in the intimate relationship between you is in your hands, and the neglect She was her punishment. Girls will naturally accept your advances, thus upgrading your relationship. This is where the hard-to-get love technique comes into play.
Whether you are pursuing a girl or want to upgrade your relationship during a relationship, choosing appropriate techniques, such as playing hard to get in love, is very effective.
People all think that "a man chases a girl, but there is a mountain between them; a woman chases a man, there is a veil between them." They all think that girls are not easy to chase. The key is not to use the correct method and seize the opportunity to start. In order to help all men solve their problems, here I will teach you an effective secret to pick up girls: "play hard to get".