I am sad. I am a divorced woman. When my ex-husband betrayed our family, I raised my son by myself to send him to school. I personally take care of his diet and daily life. He is my life and everything. I don't object to his talking about girlfriends, but why does it make me unhappy to see them together?
The sudden departure of my son is hard for me as a mother to accept. My son's departure completely hollowed out my heart. Living alone in an empty house every day makes me sleepless all night. I regret leaving my mother and his girlfriend because of my opposition.
To tell the truth, I am very happy when my son talks about his girlfriend, but as long as I see the two of them together, I am very frustrated, especially when the three of us are shopping and my son and girlfriend are holding hands. It is said that when a son has a girlfriend, he forgets that his mother is real. In the past, every time our mother and son went out, he always held my hand and relied on me.
I remember my son 16 years old that year. He is tall and energetic. We all go shopping by bike. I have taken him there before. That year, whenever we went out, he offered to take me by bike. To tell the truth, I'm afraid he will take me there by bike. One is afraid that he will be tired. Second, I am afraid that it is not safe to take his car. Unexpectedly, my son saw my hesitation and patted his chest to assure me: Mom, don't worry, I promise you to ride safely.
Looking at my son's confident eyes and smiling face, I really got into the back seat of his car. He ran away when he was riding a bike. Watching him pedal up and down, hunching his back and jumping forward, that momentum has always remained in my mind. My son has grown up!
He really took me home safely and steadily, and my son drove me after that. Because of this unconscious change, I began to rely on my son. Now he and his girlfriend take me shopping. I think she will refuse my son.
Nothing is pleasing to the eye when you are angry. I began to find fault with this future daughter-in-law. She has a good family condition and is an only child. She may be a spoiled girl at home. She doesn't like to eat too much Coming to my house for dinner always makes me nervous and I don't know how to satisfy her.
Perhaps my sincerity and fear affected my opinion of her, and I began to dislike her in all aspects. Seeing her with her son made me feel uncomfortable and began to give her the cold shoulder. No matter how much she flatters me, I won't respond.
My son is puzzled by this change. He said that he likes Xiaojie and will marry him in the future. Let me try to accept her. But I'm angry with my son. I'm your mother. How can you always please her and speak for her? Don't you know that your mother is tired of her affectation and ostentation?
To tell the truth, what she bought is the best, and I don't like it at all. Maybe it's not easy for me to bring up my eldest son alone. My life is very simple, because the salary is not high and my son has to go to graduate school, so the conditions in our family don't allow her to spend so much money.
She came to our house for dinner. I didn't entertain her as before. She frowned when she saw the simple cooking. I know these dishes may be seldom eaten in their home, but my son and I used to have a worse life. If she can't accept it, I'm sorry. She can leave by herself.
Later, when her son brought her back, she always brought some cooked food. I know that she is a model, and she has requirements for figure and weight. I asked her if she didn't like my food. She said: No, Aunt, it's very hard for Xiao Liang to go to graduate school. I bought these for her to replenish her energy.
I don't like to say it as soon as I hear it. I don't fucking know? I felt that she looked down on our family and asked her directly: If you think our family is poor, you can find a better one.
She froze, and the way my son looked at me was incredible. I'm unmoved. I just want to see how he treats his girlfriend.
But my son said nothing. He sat at the table and ate well. I know he likes meat, too. I'm hurt. It's really unfair for my son to follow me. But I don't want an outsider to change my son's eating habits. It's also my mother who wants to change.
After dinner, they hid in the room and whispered to each other. I hate them being so arrogant. My son studies very well. Originally, I didn't want him to fall in love so early, which delayed his study, but they entered the love period, which made me a mother unable to open my mouth.
That night, I sat on the sofa watching TV. It's past 10, and she didn't say go. The more I sit, the worse I feel. I got up and knocked at the door. What did my son ask? I don't look well: Xiao Liang, don't delay your study. Aren't the girls worried about coming home so late?
Xiaojie recognized that my tone was bad, and she was also trying to get rid of her on purpose. She quickly got up and got her bag, and her son sent her downstairs. I saw them from the window and they kissed goodbye. Then Xiaojie drove away and his son came back.
I was a little annoyed to see them inseparable. My son used to be my baby, but now he has a girlfriend, which makes me very boring. I'm a little scared at the thought of Jacko trying to take him away from me. This feeling is getting stronger and stronger. I am losing my son. What should I do?
People really can't think too much. Since I reject Xiaojie in my heart, I object to my son coming back late, and I don't like letting Xiaojie go home. My son sensed from my tone that I didn't like Xiaojie. He asked why I didn't like Xiaojie.
Don't you like it? I am afraid that she will take my son away from me. I can't live without my son.
Last Sunday, my son took Xiaojie home and asked me about their marriage. I was very surprised. My son is only 25 years old and is in graduate school. How can he get married?
I object. I'm really messy. I don't want my son to get married. I said we should at least wait until after graduate school to talk about marriage.
Xiaojie said: Aunt, our family is going to prepare a suite. You don't have to worry about the house. We can get the license first.
What? Is this forced marriage? My boss is not happy to hear that. So as soon as they got married, their son moved out of the house and lived with me separately.
My son looked at me and asked for my advice. I said directly to Xiaojie: You two are not suitable, let's split up!
The son suddenly stood up: "Mom, what are you talking about? I have a good relationship with Xiaojie. Why did we break up? "
I looked at Xiaojie and said, Our family doesn't deserve her, and you won't be happy in the future. Mom is doing it for your own good. Besides, her education is not as high as yours, and she eats a youthful meal. In the future, the gap between you will get bigger and bigger, and contradictions will emerge one after another. In the future, your burden will be great.
The son said: Mom, you think too much, it's too complicated. We have a good relationship and get along well.
Xiaojie also said: Auntie, I also support Liang Xiao to study as a graduate student, and I will also study hard to switch to fashion design. Life will only get better and better in the future.
Angry, I yelled at Xiaojie: Well said, my son is a graduate student, and you only have a college degree, but you run a company at home. If you dump my son in the future, who will I talk to?
I have had these concerns for a long time. Seriously, I don't like the way she dresses and smiles in front of the camera every day. Her circle of contact is very chaotic. I don't believe whether she is sincere to my son.
Xiaojie stood up. Maybe my words hurt her self-esteem. She left without saying a word, and so did her son. Seeing that Xiao Liang was so attentive to her, I was angry at his infatuation.
Their marriage naturally ran aground. Liang Xiao hasn't spoken to me for a week. Although he also went home to live, he treated me like a stranger. I know he is angry with me, but I can't give in. I'm afraid Jacko's feelings for him are unreliable.
For two days, my son didn't come home. I knew he was still with Jacko. I ran to Xiaojie's house and saw him and Xiaojie's parents sitting together for dinner. Seeing my son openly visiting their home, I feel that my son is really leaving me. Their warm pictures hurt my heart. I remembered the days when I was with my ex-husband. I haven't enjoyed such family happiness for many years.
I asked Xiao Liang to go with me, and the other party asked me to give up my seat, but what I felt was not respect, but the rich food on their table made me feel at a loss. I have never tasted crabs and seafood, and I don't think this home is a good home for my son.
I don't know where I'm angry. I told Xiaojie's parents that I don't agree with my son marrying your daughter. He is my son, and I have the right to make decisions for him. Then I will let my son go with me. But both Xiao Liang and Xiao Jie opposed it, which made me lose face in their home. Looking at Xiaojie's mother's beautiful clothes and young face, I feel a sense of frustration. We should be the same age. By contrast, I am a yellow-faced woman. She is a lady, and I really feel inferior. I don't want my son to climb high in my heart, lest he fall more painful in the future.
It may be a habit that I have developed for many years, which makes me a little uncompromising. I object to their falling in love, let alone getting married. I forced my son to come home with me. My son locked himself in the house that night and didn't come out the next day. I don't know what he did. Then he went out early and came back late for many days without talking to me. I knew he was angry with me and didn't care. He will calm down after a while.
But one morning when I saw that he was no longer in the room, I only saw a note on the table: I went to Africa, and your decision made me very sad. When did you become so arbitrary and unreasonable, mom? You let me down.
I didn't expect my son to leave me these days. He left without saying a word to me, leaving only a note to say goodbye to me. My son, who has been raised for 25 years, ran away from home under my opposition. Not because of my girlfriend, but because of my stubbornness.
I found Xiaojie and asked her if she knew about Liang Xiao's trip to Africa. She looked shocked. I thought she was acting for me, and she immediately cried, saying that the night before she left, Liang Xiao called me to say goodbye. He hung up before I could ask. When I called again, he blocked me. I really didn't know he went to Africa, and even you became a mother.
She cried and said, you drove him away. He proposed to me, and our family agreed. But why don't you agree? Is it because our family conditions are good? I really don't understand how long you will occupy Liang Xiao. He has the right to love and get married. You can't pin your whole life on him. Do you know that he is under a lot of pressure because of your opposition? He doesn't want to break up with me, and he doesn't want to hurt your own mother. He had to leave.
Xiaojie's words suddenly woke me up. I was really afraid of losing my son, but I finally forced my son away. I miss my child, but he won't answer my phone. My paranoia hurt my son and his heart. My only hope now is that my son can go home. I won't interfere in his marriage with Xiaojie any more. I also apologize to Xiaojie for my rudeness. As long as his son comes home, he will make his own decisions in marriage.
Seeing my mother's self-report, I don't think she really repented. After her son left, the mother completely lost her dependence. She began to reflect. In a world without a son, her mother is alone. Because she misses her son, she thinks of his good girlfriend. In fact, getting along is not impossible. She loves her son. When a son's love is given to another woman, she can't accept it and will find fault with the girl in many ways. Let her selfish maternal love drive her son away from Africa, and she became a loner.
Mother began to show kindness to the girl, hoping to get her forgiveness. This is a good method. When a woman realizes her mistake, she can humbly apologize to the girl, indicating that she really loves her son. When she knows she can't lose it, the only way to make her son change his mind is to help him find his beloved girlfriend and get them back together.
Is this mother great? No, she just felt the pain of losing her son. She hasn't realized the sadness of Xiaojie's loss of his lover. She lived alone with her son for many years. Afraid of losing her son's love, she went to apologize to her daughter-in-law for forgiveness. I don't think she has fully accepted her future daughter-in-law. It's just a helpless choice.
People can always reflect on themselves when they can't leave. When a woman is unhappy, she will tie her son firmly to her side, seemingly loving her children, but actually closing her son's right to pursue happiness. She will be narrow-minded enough to control her son's various behaviors of falling in love and become ignorant of herself.
In fact, in this young man's love period, his son is a person who dare not face the reality. He can't get along with his two favorite women and can't solve their problems, so he will choose to escape. In fact, this kind of man can't be forced by his mother to get married independently, and he won't care about his girlfriend. Can a person without wisdom become a useful person in society?
The relationship between mother, daughter-in-law and son is a kind of "love triangle" in the family. Mother loves her son and son loves his daughter-in-law, but they don't get along well. In fact, the son is the protagonist in this love triangle. If you don't realize your responsibility and blindly escape, the final result will only hurt others. The triangle relationship collapsed, and as a result, the son ran away, the girl was sad, and the mother was equally sad.
The strongest support of a family is that every relationship is strong and complementary. It seems that everyone is an independent individual, but it is inseparable from each other's love and support. The inequality of the tripartite relationship leads to the loss of support of one party, and the mother is strong and domineering, so that her son has no right to fall in love freely.
In fact, a mother should look for her own happiness and not be trapped in the pain of the past. Only by accepting a new relationship with a new look can she get out of the haze and cannot control and manipulate her son's life with her own will. If she doesn't learn to change, even if her son talks about his girlfriend again, she will be ruined. Because her love is too selfish and narrow-minded.