Or go their separate ways decisively,
We haven't been in touch since then?
A friend complained that the other party was cheating.
My heart is very sad, like a bolt from the blue! !
"What should I do?"
This friend's screen name is smiling angel.
This name is beyond her imagination.
The smiling angel and her husband are not only high school classmates, but also their first love. They fell in love for 6 years and got married for 3 years. As a result, at the beginning of the year, the smiling angel found her husband cheating! I saw the short message sent by San Xiao to her husband: "Honey, did you take a shower? I really want to eat your sandwich lollipop. "
The moment she saw the information, she exploded and completely collapsed! Yell at your husband like a cow, get out! !
Her husband has repeatedly explained that he has no feelings for each other, and it is only an impulse to have sex, asking the smiling angel to forgive him. All kinds of stalking and beating, all kinds of good words, even kneeling. The smiling angel still ignored him, and she vowed to leave love rat, which broke his heart for the rest of her life.
However, she was severely slapped by life.
Do you know what her husband did? At this critical moment, the smiling angel's mother fell ill and was admitted to the hospital. Her husband actually took a long vacation to take care of his mother and offered to help out with all the medical expenses.
Love rat contributed money, and the smiling angel's heart began to tremble. After all, it is false to say that there is no emotion for so many years, but the thought of Xiao San's dazzling short message and the picture of him sleeping with Xiao San is really disgusting, even more disgusting than eating flies! If you are still together, how can you get along with him?
The smiling angel asked what to do with math.
Do you want to forgive such a man?
To tell the truth, Xiao Shu can especially understand her experience. On the one hand, she has struggled for 9 years, but on the other hand, she is tired of her husband and mistress. I don't want to let go, but I will suffer if I don't let go. Maybe she will have to face the special organs that she can't look directly at her husband.
Although, another partner cheated, it was really painful! But Xiao Shu feels that some things really can't be killed with a stick. For example, whether to forgive the cheating party, there are some rules for everyone to learn.
If you forgive each other, can you do the following three things:
1. Will you still believe him?
2. Will you still respect it?
Can you stop obsessing about this matter from now on?
If you can't do the above three points, then let go!
Because even the most basic trust and respect are gone, even if they live together again in the future, the two will live far apart and torture each other.
To achieve the above three points, how strong this person's heart must be! For example, the first point, because the other person has a criminal record, as long as he goes home late or on a business trip and leaves your sight, your mind will unconsciously open the doubt mode. Did you go to XXX behind your back again? ...
Therefore, after some things happen, it is difficult to go back to the past.
For example, the second point, many people will think that the other party is filthy, especially for those who lead an honest and clean life, which is even more unacceptable! Not only that, but also form a kind of abnormal psychology. Once you encounter some troubles, you will take it out on each other, such as scolding each other. I treat you so well, and you treat me like this. Are you still human? Scum, bitch ... look down on each other from the bottom of my heart!
In addition to the above two points, there is a third point that is also fatal! You can't say it in your heart, and you can't say it in language. If you can't do it, you must always turn over old scores, especially when the two sides quarrel, and give each other a deep stimulus, or even say something unpleasant. I always feel that you make me unhappy and I won't make you feel better. ...
Seeing this, Xiao Shu believes that many people will say, love rat, love rat, never wanting it again is not enough. Yes, learn to let go, maybe the next second you will meet a more suitable life partner. They can't go back to the past. Why should they hurt each other?
Those who choose to forgive and continue to live together are not absent in life, and only a few people choose to forgive. Because, some people give more love to the other half and let the other side slowly resolve their inner pain; There are still some people who live for money, because their other half has a lot of money and can live a princess-like life. Even if the other party cheats, they will choose to accept it without a bottom line. As the saying goes, it is not unreasonable that people die for wealth and birds die for food.
It can be seen that not everyone has the ability to be a recycling bin.
What should I do if my marriage encounters an derailment crisis? Different people have different opinions. I suggest you find the answer from the eight characters. As the saying goes, life and death are determined by fate, and wealth is in the sky. Because some things are predestined, gathering, parting and parting are all fate, and they are not transferred by your will or mine. It is wise to treat marriage correctly and manage it with heart.