Requirements for Wedding Etiquette
At almost every wedding, the bride and groom will frequently change guests to take photos like a statue. Each couple must stand, walk, and walk in front of everyone. Sit down, do you feel frightened when you think that nothing you do can escape everyone's attention? Don’t worry, I’ll teach you some basic etiquette below, which will come in handy for safekeeping.
Sitting posture
Listen carefully, the chair should be shallow. When sitting and taking photos with relatives, the posture of the upper body is the most important, so if you have "Ah, it's not easy to sit down" If you think like this, you will suddenly stand up like a deflated rubber ball, which is very ugly. Don't be careless and maintain a sense of tension at all times, especially if the bride is wearing a low-cut dress, sitting in the center of the chair, twisting her waist, so that her shoulders appear wide and her body is slim. Wearing a slender dress and hanging her legs diagonally can make her The legs look slender. When the groom sits listlessly, the trouser legs will automatically lift up, exposing the socks, which is unsightly. Therefore, special attention should be paid to lifting the trousers at the knees before sitting down.
Standing posture
Straighten your back naturally and consciously form an "eight" shape with each other. Whether welcoming guests or taking commemorative photos, standing posture is very important, so you should pay special attention to it. , there is a feeling of upward stretching in the back, the head, hips and heels are in a straight line, the upper body feels like being lifted up, and she is particularly energetic when standing. The bride should stand about 15 cm behind the groom, with her right hand holding the groom's right arm. The position of the two of them is like a figure of eight, and it feels best to take pictures from the front. The groom gently bends his left arm and lets the bride put her hands in her elbows. It should be noted that the bride should not pull on the groom's clothes, which will make people feel timid.
In addition, the groom should not highlight his abdomen too much in order to straighten his back. It does not matter if he holds his arm with the bride to avoid stepping on the skirt, nor should he stay too far away. Don't hold the groom's arm tightly, as if you are afraid that he will run away.
Walking - an eye-catching entrance ceremony
Some brides may accidentally step on the skirt because they are not used to wearing wedding dresses and high heels, so the dress should not be too long. And the correct way to walk is: lightly kick the skirt with your toes, lightly brush the soles of the feet, and move forward slowly. Strictly speaking, the bride should always look straight ahead, and try to keep her sight 10 meters in front of her. It is good for taking pictures, but for safety reasons, the bride can look down slightly, but not too far to avoid affecting the image.
Kissing - kissing naturally and generously, it feels weird if you are shy
Kissing in a ceremony has sacred meaning, the two should behave naturally and generously, and do not take vows at the wedding When kissing, inexplicable shyness, coquettishness or artificially protruding lips are disgusting. Whether in photos or videos, it will be quite unnatural. The correct posture is as follows. The groom gently holds the bride’s arm, and the other Putting his hands around her waist, and taking this as a hint, the bride
raised her face slightly, letting onlookers feel that the two were approaching in a natural manner, with a sense of mystery and beauty, and the timing of the kiss Let the two of you agree first, so that nothing goes wrong. The bride should use a napkin to gently try off the bright lipstick on the surface in advance, so as not to leave clear lip marks on the groom's face. Gently hug your arms and raise your face slightly to make it more natural, don't look like you are stamping.
Reading letters - the bride and groom must show sincere feelings
At the wedding, the bride and groom must be very careful when reading letters of thanks to family, relatives and friends. Seriously, because this is a very serious scene in the wedding ceremony. Sincere emotions are important. After writing the letter, I must practice it myself in advance to avoid deviations during the formal reading. The content should be true, able to make the guests excited, and try to create an affectionate scene.
Wear a dress - gently grab the skirt of the dress and turn around quickly
A dress is different from ordinary clothes. It is impossible to change the direction without dragging the skirt. The secret to turning around in an exaggerated posture is to use the hand opposite to the direction of rotation to gently grasp the skirt and bustle and lift them up slightly. When wearing a long skirt or a long veil, hang them on your wrists. Turn around quickly in an instant.
Smile - a smile filled with happiness
The corners of the mouth are turned up and they smile softly. The happy smiles on the faces of the newlyweds are what the guests like to see, and many people take photos with them. The smile was deliberately put on, but after the photo was taken, there was no smile on the face. Such a smile looked fake. The method of practicing a smiling face is: Hold a chopstick horizontally in your mouth, turn up the corners of your mouth, and look like a smile. Keep the shape of your mouth unchanged, take out the chopsticks, and complete the smiling face. Then practice it repeatedly until you don't smile. The level of teeth is done.
Bow - Keep the elegant bowing posture in mind, smile, bend your upper body slightly and nod to greet
Bowing frequently at weddings is inevitable. Tips: First, the back should be straight, above the waist. The body leans forward. Second, when bowing, you should be full of emotion. The bending angle should be about 15 degrees. The two people should cooperate and not "one after another". You can pause for one second, and when bowing to the officiant in the music, don't forget that your whole body must be facing him. Be careful not to protrude your chin. Just nodding in salute or bending over excessively will look rude. Be careful not to look up at others when bowing.
Changing rings - the most romantic scene
"I'm so nervous that I can't even put the ring on!" Those who have had this embarrassing experience may wish to practice several times beforehand, the bride When helping the groom put on the ring, the groom bends his elbow and extends his hand to the height of the natural bend. The bride holds the groom's hand with her left hand, holds the ring with the thumb, index finger and middle finger of her right hand, and puts it on the groom's ring finger. Usually, when it cannot be put on, , the bride will unconsciously exaggerate, hold his hand tightly, put it under her eyes and carefully put the ring on his ring finger. In fact, this posture is very rude and the photos taken will not look good.
Cutting the cake - an excellent photo opportunity
The most photographed scene at the wedding banquet is when the couple cuts the cake. When photographed at such a close range, the delicate details of the fingertips can be seen The movements will make the bride and groom feel nervous. The correct posture for cutting the cake is for the bride to hold the knife in her right hand, the groom to cover the bride’s right hand with his right hand, the groom’s left hand to wrap around the bride’s waist, and the bride’s left hand to assist her right hand in cutting the cake. This is the best way to cut the cake. Beautiful posture, and still maintain a close figure of eight when standing, and the line of sight of the two people is consistent, which is conducive to taking a more perfect photo. The bride holds a knife in her right hand, and the groom covers the bride's hand with his hand. The bride can also use her left hand to assist. The eyes of the two people must be consistent. When you look back, don't just turn your face, but your entire body. The groom's left hand rests lightly on the bride's waist.
Light the candles - a picturesque scene, light the wedding candles
Straightening the back is the most basic of basics. People often fail at this point, because the bride and groom hold the ignition stick and reach out to light the fire far away from the candle. This posture will make the two of them protrude their chins and open their mouths, which looks ridiculous, and the lengths of their arms are different. If the groom fully straightens his arms, the bride will lean forward. Therefore, the groom should consider the length of the bride’s arms when deciding where to stand. This is called "groom-led style." The groom's other hand is placed on the bride's waist, like dancing, adjusting the distance through the hints of his fingers, leading the bride to be half a step away from the table. The bride should be careful not to forget to turn the bouquet in her hand facing outwards. . He stretched out his hand to light the candle from a very far away position. Due to improper posture, his chin was immediately raised and his mouth was opened. The image was extremely bad. He tried to get as close to the table as possible. The posture is beautiful, with the chin tucked in, the groom's hands are placed on the bride's waist, and the bouquet is held facing outward.
Unveiling - Steady movements, coordinated with each other
The bride should straighten her back and squat slightly to match the other party
The serious atmosphere of the wedding should not let The groom's irregular and unsightly action of lifting the veil is ruined. In order to make it easier for the groom to lift the veil, it is necessary to lower the height. The bride should use her dominant foot as the main support point, and take a small half-step backwards with the other foot. Slightly bend your knees with your waist up. That posture of bending your waist and protruding your hips will be ugly. Also, don’t let the lifted veil be placed messily on your head. When the groom lifts his lover’s veil, he should help to tidy it up, so that no matter what It will be quite neat when taking pictures from the side or the back.
Cheers - while raising the glass gently, pay attention to the way of raising the glass
First of all, when listening to the toast, the bride should take off her gloves and put them on the table, and the wine glass should be brought to Hold the wine glass in front of your chest and raise it slightly upward with gratitude as the toasts are sounded. If the angle is not too large, the wine glass should not cover your face, so it is OK to take pictures from any angle. If the chairs of two people are far apart, they can stand closer together and deliberately form a "figure eight" stance, so that the whole thing looks beautiful. In addition, when holding the wine glass, arrange the position of your fingers and listen. When others are speaking, use your left hand to hold the bottom of the cup steady.
The etiquette of the bride and groom at the wedding
The groom and the bride are the natural protagonists at the wedding and the focus of the guests' eyes. Whether the entire wedding can be completed smoothly and successfully depends on The guest's impression of the groom and the bride, so it is very important whether the groom and the bride's etiquette at the wedding are thorough and appropriate. Generally speaking, you should pay attention to the following points:
Appearance and Dressing: For a happy wedding, the groom and the bride Pay special attention to your appearance, put on appropriate makeup, and have a good hairstyle to keep your face radiant. The groom usually wears a suit and tie, and the bride usually wears a wedding dress, and appropriate necklaces, earrings and other accessories, but not too many to avoid being tacky.
Welcome and wait for guests: The bridegroom and the bride should stand at the door holding flowers to greet the guests, and are not allowed to walk back and forth; when the guests arrive, they should warmly welcome and thank them, and introduce the guests to their family members in a timely manner. The elders or other guests will then give up their seats in order according to their elders or seniority. For the red envelopes given by the guests at this time, regardless of whether the ceremony is light or heavy, the bride and groom must express their gratitude equally. When offering cigarettes and tea, you should offer them with both hands, and light a fire for the smoking elders or guests of the same generation.
Talk and laugh: When talking to elders, be sincere and humble, and do not talk eloquently or talk nonsense; when talking to peers, be warm and polite, and pay attention to humility; do not laugh endlessly, or be taciturn; be warm and friendly to juniors.
Sit, stand and walk: Do not sit crookedly on the sofa, let alone stilts with your legs crossed. When standing and speaking, keep your back straight and do not shake your whole body or move back and forth frequently; do not swallow slowly when walking. Swallowing, it's like taking a walk, but don't run around. You can walk quickly, but you should pay attention to your walking posture and rhythm.
Cooperate with each other: The groom and the bride go out and enter at the wedding. It is best not to act alone. In terms of mutual cooperation, etiquette should be paid attention to. For example, the bride and groom should introduce their elders or peers to each other. Relatives and friends; when walking together, the two parties should not be too far away, but they should not be too close; if there are guests making trouble, they should help each other out, and when sitting down, the bride should sit first.
The wedding banquet begins: the bride and groom should go to the guest seats to toast to the guests in order of priority. When toasting, they should fill the wine glasses for the guests with their own hands and hold them up for the guests with both hands, but do not force the guests to drink. After the guest puts down the wine glass, the groom and the bride should say "thank you" and fill the wine glass for the guest again before toasting to the next guest. The groom and the bride should take more care of the guests at the wedding banquet, so that relatives and friends can eat and drink well, come happy and leave satisfied. Don't eat and drink too much, or even drink too much, and get drunk on the spot. It would be too rude. When toasting to guests, even if the amount of alcohol is limited, you should show it slightly. At least raise your glass to express your gratitude to the guests and explain that you can't drink more. reasons.
At the end of the wedding banquet: when the guests leave, the groom and the bride should stand at the door, shake hands with the guests one by one and say goodbye, and say something like "thank you for coming" and "please go slowly".
Marriage - Ceremony:
(Make arrangements for the bride and groom, sound engineer, photographer, videographer, firecracker, flower presenter, marriage certificate, tokens, and drinking utensils ; The officiant, witnesses, unit leaders of the bride and groom, relatives and friends, and guest representatives wear wedding flowers and take their seats on the wedding podium)
(1) The wedding celebration begins, music is played, and firecrackers are set off ;
(2). Present flowers to the bride and groom;
(3). The witness issues a marriage certificate to the bride and groom and gives a speech as witness; Issue a marriage certificate to the bride and groom)
(4), hold a worship ceremony: (one worship to the high hall; two to the guests; three to the couple)
(5), exchange of tokens ;
(6), drink a glass of wine;
(7), give congratulations and words of thanks:
The officiant (parents of the bride) makes the officiating speech;
Congratulatory speeches: The leaders of the bridegroom and the bride’s units, representatives of relatives and friends of both parties, and guest representatives will speak;
The officiant (the groom’s parents) will make the officiating speech and give a speech of thanks;
The bride and groom speak;
(8), in the flower hall.
Hold a wedding banquet
The wedding celebration ceremony ends and the festive banquet begins. The newlyweds have their own exclusive seats, and the newlyweds' seats are placed in the upright position. At this time, the new bride presents the account opening ceremony. During the banquet, the band played, guests and friends sang songs to cheer up the entertainment, the chef prepared dishes for the newlyweds, and the newlyweds appreciated the chef.
During the wedding banquet, the bride and groom, accompanied by the host and the best man and bridesmaid, toasted the guests and lit cigarettes. When toasting, the bride and groom first toast the bride and groom in order of seniority and light cigarettes. When toasting to other guests, if there are many guests, the host will ask each table to select one or two representatives, and the bride and groom will toast and light cigarettes. After the newlyweds and guests dispersed, the groom's family saw them off at the door of the hotel.
Having a reunion dinner
After the guests left, the groom’s family surrounded him, the bride toasted her parents-in-law, and the groom’s family had a reunion dinner.
In the evening, the wedding wax brought back from the bride’s parents’ home should be lit and green onions placed in the bridal chamber. The bride and groom eat dumplings and noodles. The dumplings are called descendants dumplings, and the noodles are called longevity noodles (some are also called wide noodles). Then the bridal chamber started. The traditional custom of having a wedding ceremony is for the groom’s sister-in-law, aunt and others to spread the bedding for the newlyweds, and at the same time throw dates, chestnuts (meaning to give birth to a baby early), peanuts (meaning to put peanuts for the girl’s son), and soybeans (meaning to give birth to a baby early), and soybeans (meaning to put peanuts for the girl’s son) on the bed of the bride and groom. If there are many children (like golden beans), throw wooden blocks (meaning the children will grow strong). Nowadays, on the wedding night, there are many programs for young people to play with the bride and groom, and the tricks are innovative and full of fun. The quarrel often lasts until late at night, until the bride and groom ask for mercy again and again.
Wedding Notes:
1. The number of greeting personnel and vehicles is odd when you go, and the number of greeting personnel and vehicles is even when you return (intended to be in pairs) ), when arriving at the woman's house and returning to the new house, drive inward (meaning not to go out), and do not take the same route (meaning the wedding is worth it).
2. The four-color gifts are wrapped in red, and the ax and weight are wrapped in red cloth.
3. When the bride and groom tie each other’s red belts, be sure not to tie them without knotting them (the intention is to have a harmonious relationship between the couple and avoid knots).
4. Before the ceremony, the wedding car flowers should be removed immediately after the bride and groom get off the wedding car (it is intended that this is the only time the wedding car will be used).
5. The happy wax should be destroyed and not blown out (it means that we will be together throughout life and death, and will not be blown away).
6. The bride should try to catch as many blessings as possible, but do not catch them all (in order to keep the blessing roots).
7. When the wedding car returns to the wedding car, crosses an intersection or crosses a bridge, the bride will fly a red handkerchief out of the window (meaning to add to the happiness).
8. Cover the manhole cover near the new house with red paper (the purpose is to cover the manhole and prevent it from falling into the well).
The most important thing about a wedding is whether the specific procedures are appropriate. To achieve this, we must try to make it both reasonable and "proper".
At present, there are two specific forms of new weddings popular in China: family weddings and collective weddings.
The procedures and steps of the two are somewhat different.
(1) Family wedding
A family wedding refers to a small wedding held by a newlywed couple in their own home or other places and invites relatives and friends of both parties to participate. Its main procedures There are six items in a ***.
The first is to announce the start of the wedding. The "Wedding March" can be played or played, and firecrackers can be set off if conditions permit. At the same time, amid the applause and cheers of the guests, the groom and the bride entered the scene.
The second is to bow. Under the auspices of the emcee, the newlyweds must first bow to their parents or other elders, then bow to all the guests, and finally bow to each other.
The third is the speech of the witness. Its main content is to briefly introduce the love process of the couple and wish each other happiness after marriage. Sometimes the marriage certificate can also be read out to declare the newlyweds' marriage to be legal.
The fourth is the speech of the elders. You can ask the parents of the couple or other senior representatives to make an impromptu speech to express congratulations to the groom and bride.
The fifth one is the newcomer’s speech. The groom and bride should be invited to speak in turn. Thank you to all the guests. Sometimes, the newlyweds can also perform entertainment programs together.
Sixth, the wedding banquet begins. The groom and the bride should start from the main table and toast to the guests table by table. The wedding ends here.
(2) Mass wedding
A mass wedding is a large-scale wedding held in an organized manner by several couples in a public place. There are eight basic procedures.
The first is to announce the start of the wedding. Play music or set off firecrackers.
The second is for all the newcomers to take their seats. At this time, all the newlyweds should line up as a couple, with the man on the left and the woman on the right, holding hands with each other. Amidst the music, applause and rain of flowers, the people lined up slowly and took their seats on the podium.
Third, the newlyweds bow. If possible, the newlyweds should bow to the elders, witnesses, and guests one by one, and finally bow to each other. This can also be simplified to bowing to all the guests first and then to each other.
The fourth is the speech of the witness. Its content is to announce that the couple's marriage is legal and valid, and to express hope and congratulations.
The fifth is the speech by the parent representative. The focus is to thank the guests and put forward hopes and requirements for all the newcomers.
The sixth one is the speech by the newcomer representative. The main content is to express gratitude to everyone, and at the same time, it also expresses the newlyweds' determination to stay together for life.
The seventh is to give gifts to the newlyweds. The organizer of the collective wedding will present commemorative gifts to all the newlyweds one by one.
The eighth is cultural and recreational activities. Mainly in the form of theatrical performances or social dances. Sometimes, the newlyweds are asked to perform for everyone first. You don't need to wear a wedding dress to get engaged, just dress a little more formally.