For example, many people want to overcome the problem of staying in bed, and many student parties will encounter the problem of not listening carefully in class, which can be attributed to laziness. However, weak self-control cannot be completely equated with laziness. There are many reasons for poor self-control, such as lack of concentration, weak sense of responsibility, etc. These are all factors that lead to poor self-control, but laziness is the most important one among many reasons.
? Therefore, in order to improve self-control, we must first solve the big problem of laziness. How to overcome laziness? I tried many methods, and basically failed. Laziness is like an incurable chronic disease. After many methods failed, I realized that I couldn't solve the problem, so I thought of letting others supervise me.
? For example, I have an appointment with a roommate to run every day. Originally, we were too lazy to get up by ourselves, but it was different when we made an appointment. Because of this appointment, we insist on running early every day. For example, if I were myself, I would never insist. I always give up for various reasons, but after making an appointment with my roommate to study together, I really stick to it.
? Therefore, when you can't overcome laziness, the best way is to find personal supervision and make progress with you. This is the most effective way. The same is true of improving self-control. Self-control can't be improved just by improving. When you can't control yourself, let others help you and supervise yourself.
? Slowly, we can insist on doing one thing first. When we insist on doing it until it becomes a habit, we will experience the sense of accomplishment in doing it. This sense of accomplishment will encourage us to continue to do another thing, which will gradually form a virtuous circle and self-control will naturally improve gradually.
Instead of insisting on giving up, you will feel that you have no determination and perseverance, you will be dissatisfied with yourself, you will criticize yourself, and then you will feel that you will give up again when you do the next thing, and then you will lose confidence. If this continues, it will be a vicious circle. The worse we do, the less confident we will be.
So it is very important to have a good start, so from now on, we should try our best to control ourselves to finish one thing, not blindly pursuing quantity, but quality, so don't be impatient and take your time.
? To sum up, the key is to learn to seek the help and supervision of others, and then establish your own virtuous circle and gradually improve.