There is a saying in "Awakening the World": "The machine is inseparable, and the disaster is the priority; The tongue is a powerful source, and the mouth is a blessing or a curse. " If you don't know how to swallow your words and continue to tell the whole story, you will betray yourself and put yourself in danger. Everyone should have their own secrets, not to tell others, but to keep them in their hearts.
If you can't say anything, you should be silent, don't blindly trust others, know how to keep your hand, and don't let others grab your handle casually. Knowing how to leave your hand is to leave yourself a way out in case there is no way out in the future. If you get it off your chest, it may be easy for a while, but it will also bury hidden dangers for yourself. A truly wise man will keep his mouth shut, and some things will rot in his stomach.
0 1 Never speak ill of others behind their backs. This is an education. Talking about others behind their backs is an act of villains. A gentleman is justice, and he is really a modest gentleman. He dares to do and do nothing, and he doesn't talk about other people's right and wrong behind his back. Even if you have some people who don't like it, you won't talk behind your back. It is a kind of self-restraint not to speak ill of others behind their backs. There is no airtight wall between heaven and earth. If you don't know, unless you have to do something, what you think is not exposed will actually reach the defendant's ear.
Gossiping behind one's back not only lowers one's character, but also seriously affects interpersonal communication. When dealing with people, you should know how to keep your mouth shut. You don't gossip behind your back, tell others what to do, talk about it in Kan Kan, and push right and wrong. It is not easy to plant a curse for yourself by knowing people without making arbitrary judgments and keeping your mouth shut moderately.
Seeing through other people's pain points without telling others is an emotional intelligence, and knowing how to leave a ladder for others is a high emotional intelligence. People are not saints, everyone's body has defects and pains. Smart people know how to avoid the pain of others, not to touch or puncture. In interpersonal communication, the most taboo is to add salt to other people's scars. In interpersonal communication, the most disgusting person is the one who talks nonsense, exposes other people's shortcomings in person, pierces other people's pain points, and repeatedly calls himself a "straight temper".
The unfamiliarity of association will come from the meanness and insolence of language. Do your own thing, mind your own mouth, don't stare at other people's shortcomings and defects, and don't expose other people's scars. This is also a kind heart. Forgiving others, forgiving others, and not hurting others with words are the way to be human, in order to gain good popularity and character, and also bury hidden dangers for yourself.
It is wisdom not to share your secrets at will. In this world, there are no real friends, only eternal rights and interests. When we have the same rights and interests, we will stand on the United front and form a life-and-death alliance. But in the event of a dispute over rights and interests, even friendly forces will turn against each other. So, don't overestimate a relationship and trust a person too much. If you have a whim and tell a whole story about a person, you will leave hidden dangers for yourself. Your secret will become someone else's throat and put you in a dilemma.
It is a kind of wisdom to know how to keep one's hand for oneself and keep one's secret in tradition. Your own secret, you should learn to rot in your stomach and not tell everyone. Even if we are each other's favorite good friends at this time, we need to have a certain sense of proper limit and strangeness. Don't speak too casually, spare no effort. You know, the person who stabbed you in the back is usually the person you know best and probably the person you trusted most before. You can't have a heart that hurts people, but you can't have a heart that prevents people. Whenever dealing with close friends, you can't share your secrets at will.
Don't overestimate the goodness of human nature and don't underestimate the evil of human nature. Keeping your mouth shut is a blessing. There is an idiom called "if you talk too much, you will lose", which means that if you talk too much, you will make mistakes, make mistakes and even leave hidden dangers for yourself. Silence is golden. Sometimes not saying it is just a kind of self-restraint, emotional intelligence and wisdom. Don't speak ill of others behind their backs, don't speak ill of others to their faces, and don't share your secrets at will. Silence is the best practice. Keeping your mouth shut and doing more and talking less is the essence of being a man. Some things, just rot in the stomach, be a taciturn person.