I received a call from a friend complaining. He said that he had been on a blind date recently and thought he could get rid of being single, but it turned out to be nothing. My friend is 32 years old this year and is born in the year of Dragon. He was already quite old, and his family was very anxious, so he asked people everywhere to find a partner.
Two days ago, a matchmaker introduced a bank clerk. The two met under the matchmaker's introduction and stood in the park chatting for five minutes. My friend thinks that it will definitely work this time, because in the past, blind dates only lasted for about ten seconds after seeing each other and then leaving. This time he felt that the other party was very attractive, and he felt that the other party must also be interested in him.
After we parted, our friends sat at home waiting for news. The situation on his side is that if the woman is interested in the man, she will ask the matchmaker to send her phone number to the man, and then the two parties will chat among themselves. But after waiting for two days, there was no news. My friend was anxious and asked my father to call the matchmaker.
Unexpectedly, the matchmaker's answer shocked him. He said, the woman originally liked your son and wanted to have a good chat with him. But when asked about her age, she was one year older than your son, and her parents said she didn't need it. It doesn't matter if the woman is two or three years older than the man, but one year older is not acceptable, because as the old saying goes, if a woman is one year older and her family doesn't have enough food to eat, she will suffer from poverty.
What made my friend even more surprised was that my father actually agreed with the matchmaker's statement and said that it was indeed true. The woman was just one year older and couldn't do it. My friend was speechless. Two people who were originally very close to each other actually lost the opportunity to date because of this superstition. Isn’t this the 21st century? Why are there still people so superstitious?
In fact, even today, many people still hold this kind of superstitious thought. What other common superstitions are there in marriage? Let’s take stock.
Look at age
Just like my friend’s example above, men and women have different opinions on how old they are or how many years apart they are. For example, a woman cannot get married if she is one year older than the man. But conversely, it is fine if the man is one year older than the woman.
Look at the zodiac sign
Zodiac sign is also a very common superstition in marriage and love. There is a couple among my college classmates. They started dating in their freshman year and have been dating for seven years until three years after graduation. The two decided to get married. When the male classmate came to the girl's house, the future parents-in-law were quite satisfied.
But I disagreed after asking my classmate if his zodiac sign was dragon. After careful questioning, I realized that it turned out that the female classmate was one year younger than the male classmate, which was okay, but she was born in the year of snake, and snakes are also called little dragons. The mother of a female classmate said that two dragons cannot sleep on the same bed, so she refused to agree to their marriage.
The female classmate is someone who has gone to college. I believe that all these years of study have been in vain. She said she would marry him even if she broke away from the mother-daughter relationship. In the end, the argument was very tense. Her mother said that you will regret it in the future, but don't blame me for not reminding you. In the end, the two got married.
Small quarrels in marriage are unavoidable, but in the eyes of the woman’s mother, this is the result of the incompatibility of the zodiac signs. She often uses this as an argument and persuades her daughter to divorce from time to time, causing her to argue with her every time. My husband doesn't dare to tell his mother when he has a conflict.
Look forward to a better time
In the eyes of us young people, if two people truly love each other, they can get married at a time when both parties are free. But in the minds of many parents, a good life must be chosen. Parents who were originally very careful about money no longer worry about money, and will spend hundreds or even thousands to find a husband to find a good time to get married. This phenomenon is very common.
Look at attributes
In traditional Taoism, there are attributes such as metal, wood, water, fire, and earth. In superstition, each person's attributes are different. These attributes are mutually reinforcing and incompatible. If the attributes of two people are in conflict with each other, it will not work. Even if two people fall in love, they will be strongly opposed by their parents.
Reading horoscopes
Reading the so-called birth horoscopes is also one of the major superstitions in marriage and love. We can often see this in costume dramas. Two people can be happy if their horoscopes match, but they can't get married if their horoscopes don't match, etc.
Hu Zhi has something to say
As a modern person, I can’t help but laugh when I see those superstitious behaviors in marriage and love. Sometimes we wonder, in what age, there are still people who believe in such low-level superstitions.
But the reality is that there are still many people around us who believe this.
Most of these people are their parents and elders. Their education level was low at that time and they have kept their old ideas all their lives. What we need to do is to slowly enlighten them and let them believe in science instead of complying with their wishes. It's not easy to find true love, don't give in to superstition.
What other superstitions are there around you? Might as well speak up and let's break it down together.