The key is that there are contradictions now, that is, the elders of the family believe this, which will lead to contradictions with you. . For the sake of family harmony and a better life in the future, why don't you discuss it with your family and see if there are any solutions to solve your eight-character disagreement in their way?
Personally, I think if you really love each other, you don't have to pay attention to the eight characters. I've seen so-called eight-character couples and they can still live happily. .
I hope lovers get married!